To wonder what happened to all the ravers/clubbers

[Colddampandmoany]

Just having a bit of a thoughtful day really, thinking back to the mid 90’s and my youth
Life was so exciting then and looking back, I cannot believe the things we got up to from a young age and how different things will probably be for my Dd now

I’m 47, trapped in suburbia 😅 and nobody would likely imagine the type of person I was back then and until mid twenties really

If you were there, what is your life look like now, do you often feel as bored as I do? Would you go back?

I go to gigs now. First on the floor at a party now which isn’t very often sadly.

The 90s was something else. I work with a couple of girls in their twenties and their lives are as dull as dishwater. They don’t seem to know how to have fun. It’s just all about what you look like and is it Instagram worthy.

I don’t know how I got through the 90s unscathed.

Everyone around me did it, all raised very well, nice backgrounds, educated families, nearly all have gone on to high flying, successful careers and normal lives.

There weren’t any creepy men with bad intentions, I only noticed that when v young going to the local crappy clubs where everyone was pissed. Vile, older men hitting on young girls, we just avoided them. There was no real romance for me and my friends at decent clubs, everyone was friendly and just wanted to dance, we made friends with people, all looked out for each other

🙄 you sound incredibly dull and uptight, I can't imagine you're invited to many parties.

Why the need to take illegal and potentially toxic substances all for the sake of a mind altering high?

My family and I have all achieved great education and career success without restoring to drugs. Then again I'm not white, I'm Indian and these things are less acceptable in our culture. Yes it does happen but it would be met by "what would people think" instead of just casual acceptance.

I’m on the way home from seeing Pete Tong at the O2. It was full of 90s and 00s ravers.

I work at a university in an asian majority city. Plenty of drug use amongst all the nationalities including the Indians. There’s no ethnic divide! I get a great view of the drug dealing in halls from my office window.

I wouldn’t dream of taking anything these days but did in my youth, it is pretty stupid and risky. But also brilliant.

It didn’t stop me being highly qualified or successful. Out of my circle of friends from
the raving days I have a consultant cardiologist, an audiologist, a wealth manager and a headteacher. They weren’t held back. Are we lucky to have got away with it? Yes. I completely accept it could have ended badly.

You seem obsessed. People take drugs because it makes them feel good, they get high and dance and have fun.

No one gives a shit about your family, career and education.

Wow. It’s nothing to do with skin colour or culture. It’s definitely not ‘Accepted’ in my family, my mum would have been devastated had she known and very angry with me, I was always taught about the dangers of drugs and wouldn’t dream of it now. I was raised very well and this is not that white people from this culture have shit parents! It also wouldn’t be about ‘What would people think’ my mum wouldn’t care what anyone else would think, she’d only care for my safety, to only care for the sake of appearances to others is messed up and doesn’t sound like solid family values or good parenting to me. We were all young then and lived for the moment, looking back I could have been in trouble so many times and we’re all very lucky we were ok, but I still don’t have any regrets and would do it all again.

I think the best thing about drugs is the breakdown of cultural division. If this bloody earnest depressive gen whatever generation dropped a few Es and listened to a bit of happy hard-core, the future might not be so bleak for the joyless ones. Tongue in cheek obvs but you know what I mean.

Why are you even on this thread other than to look down your nose and judge people on a subject you know less than FA about?

Take your self righteous superiority elsewhere

I was raving from age 14 (horrifying thought now!) in the early 90s and continued to love clubbing well into my 20s, maybe early 30s when kids came along.

Drugs were involved early on, then just drink. Had so, so much fun! No regrets.

I’m tee total now, in a very responsible job, doubt anyone would guess the extent of my misspent youth 😮😆

I couldn’t do a club now, but I like the occasional party. Went to a brilliant party last night and was dancing to jungle at 1am. A rare occasion I would do that now, but I’ve still got it in me now and then.

Still raving. Had a few nights in Ibiza this year and came back to the apartment at 7 am every day in a row. Charlotte de Witte at UNVRS was amazing. Loved it and the feeling hasn’t changed. Never been into drugs and enjoyed the next day tanning by the beach. Bit more organised than I was in my late teens and early 20s and have more money so that helps 😅

It was an amazing time!

Anyone who wasn't there (taking MDMA and dancing with hundreds of other people in fields and quarries and barns and warehouses and old cinemas and dusty old department stores...), will never understand it.

You felt so free, and part of something unreal, though it was ultimately synthetic, temporary and fleeting. I went to a few genuinely breathtaking parties in incredible locations, people now can't believe the stories I come out with sometimes. Though actually I hardly ever talk about it really because, well it was illegal and lots of people frown on it.

But I honestly think there was no better decade to be a young person than the late 80' / early 90s, it was a time full of optimism, with a new and exciting drug, amazing music - a counter culture in the UK every bit as important as the 60s free love and hippies were.

Had a great time in those days and though I like to reminisce I don’t feel the need relive the times or talk about it at every opportunity as some do

now like to be home by 10

every generation has there thing that will feel special to them it’s no longer about getting smashed at the weekend but they still have a great time in their own way

In Spain, well Madrid, there are local clubs/ bars in little pockets of suburbia and the mums go there after dinner on a Friday or Saturday night. I think it’s a great idea, leave the kids at home with the men, go out about ten, couple of dances/ drinks and then home by 1am. Plus not in the centre so cheaper taxis back. Why should women stop having a good time because they’re older?

That sounds amazing!

Very small world view you have.