To ask you honestly what are your first thoughts on seeing this?

[gemful]

NC’d for this

A couple. 2 dc (no childcare)
A brand new, new build house. Mortgaged.
Two brand new cars.
They don’t dress designer but the present well.
She has a few designer handbags.
gadgets are always good brands, latest I phones, shark hairdryers, robot hoover.
very organised and tidy home, both work full time in good jobs.
They do family outings every few weekends but not every weekend.
Honesty, what are your first thoughts?!

Possibly?

Then I'm afraid I can't help you..

There's better than 5 bedrooms and I wouldn't say those things are nice. There are nicer things to be had.

I prefer dogs tbh.

New builds don't bother me, they're all the same but each to their own but I don't understand why anyone wouldn't want to earn more to build their own house?

What, from scratch?

Oh, if I could afford it I'd get expensive hairdryers. Hair is everything, as Fleabag said.

Oooh thanks, yes, your comment had me beyond excited!

The power of @BuildbyNumbere 's words!

Just a shame you can't be bothered to read the OP's posts before YOU get sooooooooooo excited and make yourself look like an eejit by saying she is jealous of herself

Indifferent.

Saving 2K a month is not ample? Seriously?! Blimey. How much do you save a month?
she just spent 25k cash on a brand new car. She does not need an evening job to save even more than 2K a month.

I kinda want to know what the acceptable amount is me

Yes? Buy land, build house? It's really not that difficult 🙄

Obviously you hire people to do the actual building.

Much much more than that and I don't restrict myself with anything, I spend what I want, when I want. Some people just don't want to put effort in to have more money which I suppose is great if that's what they want but wouldn't be me 🤦🏻‍♀️

True, I've never been materialistic so money and things have never been all that important to me, as long as I have enough to live and some savings for rainy days/supporting dd. I love our home and our life, we don't need more.

By comparison our house is worth £850K and combined salary about £160K. We never buy brand new cars but we do buy them outright. 2 DC still living at home. No debts. No designer handbags or hairdryers. But have fabulous holidays and investments so that we can one day retire comfortably. So living for the here and now and also for the future. I’d advise putting money aside for retirement. It comes around so fast!

Good for them - i dont understand the point of your post OP?

Having read your thread, my thoughts are it seems from the neighbour issue, you’re probably not living in the right area or house for your salary level as if you were and neighbours were on similar salaries exceeding £130k they wouldn’t bat an eyelid over a new car?

People probably think you earn less if you’re living in a standard new build where neighbours earn around £50k, they will question things & think you’ve won the lottery as most people earning more money would live in a more affluent area.

Regarding your sister, now you have told her your salary she probably won’t make those comments again.

I think these people are pretty rude to pass comments in such a negative way. As long as you aren't moaning about being skint then it's none of their business how much you earn or spend and they should keep quiet.

Agreeing with @Katie0909 but I do know quite a few people in that position who would moan bitterly about being skint too!