To send this to a married man

[IslaSkywalker]

It's been sent but I'd like to see what people say.

A man who's turned out to be married has been chatting with me and arranging to meet. Also being very flirty and sexual toned in conversation that I did not like and sent unsolicited "pictures." Guess what type.

He's been sent a moonpig postcard telling him to stop flirting and messing around in the new year and not to send pictures of his bits and pieces to women who've not asked.

I can't believe he's only done it the once. I chose a postcard because of the embarrassment factor. The postman will see it and it'd make him look a fool explaining to his wife if she picks it up from the mat.

Not bitter or jealous, he's a complete tool who I don't want. AT ALL.

He gave you the address of his family home?

You sound like a fantasist.

Yes, if he’s married how have you got his address?

Yes - a lot of internalised misogyny on here saying a woman is unhinged by daring to react and bring a man’s poor behaviour into the open.

Embarassing behaviour. A married man arrogant enough to do this is not going to be concerned at postie seeing it doubt the postie will be stopping to read it either. If you wanted to tel his wife you could have done so instead of turning it into a soap style drama - his behaviour is terrible but what if he has kids who pick card up nice christmas for them finding out dad is a sleaze eh

😂😂😂😂😂😂

Because he was daft enough to send me a link to a site that sells houses, with his on it. As a humble brag I imagine. From that and with a real name it's easy enough to find out. I don't think he's all that smart either.

Edited to add he sent lots of car pictures before the one of his penis.

Did he tell you which house was his? How do you know there are no children in the house? I have no sympathy for people who cheat but you need to know who is in the mix before you start stirring.

Whatever his behaviour has been, you’re pointing it out in this malicious way makes you appear unhinged and with little to no dignity.

You’ve never met him in person, but you know his home address?

Its absolutely not internalised misogyny. It’s pointing out that the remedy for the poor behaviour rebounds on the person meting out the supposed “justice”.

Have you never heard the phrase “revenge is a dish best served cold?” That phrase encapsulates why behaviour like this is a bad idea. Because it serves to underline how much power you are giving to the person who has wronged you.

Behaving like a vengeful diva never righted any feminist wrongs.

RTFT.

This sounds bonkers, why on earth is he sending links online for his house along with dick pics? Is it for sale or he’s just bought it?
i think it’s fair his wife knows what he’s like but there’s better ways to do it.
the postman is very unlikely to read it, they are timed on their rounds and have targets

Good for you OP.

It's not your fault he sexually harassed you.
It's not your fault he cheated on his wife.
It's not your fault if he lied.

So his newly pregnant wife has a grenade thrown in her life but can’t verify it etc
or his wife who has just had a bereavement etc

if you are going to do this at least put your name and phone number on it and deliver it in person so she can make the choice

This post nails it. The postcard gives bunny boiler vibes.

I always feel knee jerk reactions are a bad idea (some from myself in the past).

Why?

Id say that anything negative that happens is a consequence of his actions, not the ops.

I think it's better to say something than to keep silent.

How do you know he gave you his real name and picture of a house-this house picture sounds a bit odd-especially from a married man who, I assume, would want to keep his details secret.

I imagine it is a strong possibility that he has used the personal details of someone else in order to gull you.

You have more than likely sent a bomb into a family who have nothing to do with this guy.

Is this why so many men get away with affairs because women blame the other woman instead of the married man and because we should all stay quiet? The bar is incredibly low. What about a woman standing up for another woman? Men who cheat should be outed embarrassed and thoroughly shamed.

I don't understand why you're getting so much stick here. Why do women have to keep quiet & protect men & their terrible behaviour? It happens all the time & therfore the cycle continues.

They don’t, it’s just the bizarre choice of a moonpig postcard to make the point

I would report him to the police for unsolicited dick pics but anything else....no!!! If his children see that card it will be horrible for them

I know for an absolute fact this is his real name and his real address and I have the correct property. I'm not going into finite detail but I know I have the right information. He's also on Companies House.

100% this is how to deal with these creepy sleaze buckets

If he works out of the home I'd try and knock on the door when he's out, catch the wife in and show her the pics. Cheating arsehole.