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To send this to a married man

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IslaSkywalker · 06/12/2025 10:54

It's been sent but I'd like to see what people say.

A man who's turned out to be married has been chatting with me and arranging to meet. Also being very flirty and sexual toned in conversation that I did not like and sent unsolicited "pictures." Guess what type.

He's been sent a moonpig postcard telling him to stop flirting and messing around in the new year and not to send pictures of his bits and pieces to women who've not asked.

I can't believe he's only done it the once. I chose a postcard because of the embarrassment factor. The postman will see it and it'd make him look a fool explaining to his wife if she picks it up from the mat.

Not bitter or jealous, he's a complete tool who I don't want. AT ALL.

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Reported.

LemonDrizzleKay · 07/12/2025 12:44

IslaSkywalker · 07/12/2025 10:13

So now it seems that this guy has stolen someone's identity, that of a happily married faithful family man. Well I guess he could, but it's a stretch. And if he has then I can't imagine I'm the only woman he's been in contact with in this fashion.

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It's not a stretch. Not on the internet, it isn't.

Fountofwisdom · 07/12/2025 12:44

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it’s not misogyny to call out another woman’s shitty behaviour. Are women never allowed to criticise other women? Give your head a wobble.

GertieLawrence · 07/12/2025 12:45

DottyLottieLou · 07/12/2025 12:38

What advice are you looking for, you've already done it. Are you boasting? He's a sh#t and you're a bunny boiler.
His wife didn't deserve that.

Nor do his kids deserve it, if he has them. (If he even exists at all.)

It’s a horrible cowardly thing to do. Have it out with him, but no need to traumatise the kids.

You’re not Cool Girl, OP. Gone Girl, yes.

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Yawn. The most overused word of all.

Differentforgirls · 07/12/2025 12:47

Fountofwisdom · 07/12/2025 12:44

it’s not misogyny to call out another woman’s shitty behaviour. Are women never allowed to criticise other women? Give your head a wobble.

Reported again. You've already had 6 posts deleted.

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 07/12/2025 12:47

IslaSkywalker · 07/12/2025 09:53

@BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind See my comment to climbingrosexx a few posts up. And 192 shows him living there consistently and currently.

Which is irrelevant if its someone else using his details...

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And again.

GertieLawrence · 07/12/2025 12:49

Differentforgirls · 07/12/2025 12:47

Reported again. You've already had 6 posts deleted.

You’re counting?!!

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 07/12/2025 12:50

IslaSkywalker · 07/12/2025 10:13

So now it seems that this guy has stolen someone's identity, that of a happily married faithful family man. Well I guess he could, but it's a stretch. And if he has then I can't imagine I'm the only woman he's been in contact with in this fashion.

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It's the fact it does happen and you won't even consider the fact you've potentially ruined someone's life instead of just blocking and moving on

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And again.

BunnyLake · 07/12/2025 12:52

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I’ve just popped back to this thread, looks like I’ve missed a lot of updates.

IslaSkywalker · 07/12/2025 12:54

youwillneverknow · 07/12/2025 12:21

If you have never met this man in real life you have absolutely no idea if he’s married or if he lives where he says he lives. If a man, married or otherwise, is going to send dick pics there’s absolutely no way he’ll be dishing out his home address to a random woman on a dating site. So either there’s more to this story than you are telling us or you are a batshit stalker who has put 2+2 together and made 7 and may just have ruined an innocent man’s Christmas.

Why did you even continue to engage in conversation with someone who allegedly sent you dick pics? Most women would block instantly…??

Why did you even continue to engage in conversation with someone who allegedly sent you dick pics? Most women would block instantly…

If you read the thread you'll see that I took your recommended course of action.

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BunnyLake · 07/12/2025 12:57

I would say this is the perfect example of ‘two wrongs don’t make a right’

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This post has been reported for troll hunting and repeated nasty attacks. Troll hunting is against the talk guidelines and mnhq can easily check if I'm using multiple accounts, which I'm not.

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BunnyLake · 07/12/2025 12:58

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I’m trying to catch up but a lot of posts have been deleted already.

Do you mean it’s all fictitious nonsense?

Differentforgirls · 07/12/2025 13:01

BunnyLake · 07/12/2025 12:58

I’m trying to catch up but a lot of posts have been deleted already.

Do you mean it’s all fictitious nonsense?

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No. The person whose posts are getting deleted is lying about the OP using multiple accounts.

Didimum · 07/12/2025 13:01

Didimum · 07/12/2025 10:54

I didn’t ask why you chose the post card, I asked why you aren’t responding on what everyone finds problematic about the post card.

You’re answering on what everyone finds problematic about everything else.

Still unsure why OP won’t respond to anyone asking this question.

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