To send this to a married man

[IslaSkywalker]

It's been sent but I'd like to see what people say.

A man who's turned out to be married has been chatting with me and arranging to meet. Also being very flirty and sexual toned in conversation that I did not like and sent unsolicited "pictures." Guess what type.

He's been sent a moonpig postcard telling him to stop flirting and messing around in the new year and not to send pictures of his bits and pieces to women who've not asked.

I can't believe he's only done it the once. I chose a postcard because of the embarrassment factor. The postman will see it and it'd make him look a fool explaining to his wife if she picks it up from the mat.

Not bitter or jealous, he's a complete tool who I don't want. AT ALL.

I've answered about how I was given and checked out his address several times and been accused of stalking and called everything from jealous to a bitch, a loon to unhinged. As for why I chose the postcard it's in the very first post.

Also still ignoring the children in the home element.

Did you not think of this before sending such an abusive card, and it’s not at all a stretch, the internet is full of people assuming someone else’s identity.
Did you not think it a bit strange that he was so open to revealing his identity, did that not strike you as strange. Is he very good looking if so he would be a perfect target for identity theft.

Not extremely good looking. Just your average decent looking guy. I guess I can try reporting. Whichever, married man or catfish, not looking good.

My first thought was that it was funny….

But does he have kids?

Also, the wife hasn’t done anything wrong but it will probably be more upsetting for her than him, especially knowing that the sender knows where she/her husband lives. You have no idea what she might have going on or how she might take it.

Sorry, but you sound more unhinged than him.

But can you not see the damage you could have done by assuming he was telling the truth, you have absolutely no proof that he is who he claimed to be.
Can you honestly see no wrong in your ridiculous revenge.

I didn’t ask why you chose the post card, I asked why you aren’t responding on what everyone finds problematic about the post card.

You’re answering on what everyone finds problematic about everything else.

I'm sure you probably thought you would get a round of applause for doing this, but this was a low blow to his poor wife. There are far kinder ways to have done this to her. Not only will she find out about his shit behaviour but she will also wonder who else has seen that postcard, depending on the community they are in it could spread like wild fire. It is extremely unfair to her especially. It's also quite an overreaction to him trying his luck. The dick pics are gross but it's just what some men do. Just tell him to fuck off and leave you alone and if he doesn't you will tell his wife. Sounds like its too late now though. But also let's hope he doesn't turn nasty when this blows up.

Ooo these are mixed comments 😂 I'm totally team, expose him!! Maybe it will make him think about his shitty behaviour if he gets called on it. I'm convinced this is why they continue to do it, they have the silence of the person they are harassing, and the naive trust of a person who loves them. Think they are untouchable. You know you're not the only one he's doing this to. Poor wife!! Yes she will be hurt, but man she deserves better!

It's that word again!

Very creative. Has he been in touch since he got his post card ?

Personally, I would have just contacted the wife with screenshots. Right now he has deniability because it’s just a post card. Sending her the screenshots gives her proof.

OP has ignored countless people now pointing out that if he lied about being single he’s just as likely to have lied when he said he has no kids.

She clearly doesn’t want to accept that the quite obviously disastrous ramifications from his child finding this postcard would be on her shoulders completely. At least if she had sent a letter addressed to the Mrs only she would open it and read it.

Not a very clever thing to do all round. All OP knew about this man (besides his name and address apparently) was that he had lied. Still, he said he didn’t have children so it must be true. Welcome to clown town.

I find it disturbing as it is very un respectful for his wife. you don’t know her mental status and so you can’t even imagine the impact this might have on her. It could be really bad and doing such a vile act to a woman you don’t know is very bad. Especially before Christmas that is a difficult period for many.

i agree he deserves the worst but you stoop down to his behaviour by doing something like that.

said that I am curious to know if he contacts you after. Be careful as you don’t know who you are dealing with. Someone who sends unsolicited sexual pics is not totally normal so hopefully you did not put more fuel on a stalker

Let's hope this man has told you the absolute truth here. Let's hope he hasn't assumed the identity of someone either he knows or a random. It's not unheard of that men use the identity of someone they know, to cover their own ass, whilst behaving inappropriately. It's odd that this man has been very upfront with who he is and where he lives and sent explicit pictures. Of course, he could be dim, and not thought it all through properly. Or he could do this so often, he's arrogant enough to think no one would call him out on his behaviour. The problem is, you don't actually know the truth, you've made the assumption that he is who he says he is! 🤷 If all is the truth then, it's likely he'll be angry rather than embarrassed, and will try and talk himself out of any trouble with his wife. As for reporting the images to the police, again you have the same issue - how do you know that these images were sent by the person in the profile? In truth, you don't know!

And thought nothing about how it might land with his wife, who is probably absolutely clueless and now, just before Christmas

Yes he's a liar. He might have kids. He might not be who he said he was. But he might be. He might look like Bernard Manning in reality. Whose is the Willy? God knows.

No he's not been in touch those who asked because he's blocked. But if this is identity theft (no asking for money involved here) the guy who actually received it doesn't know me from Adam so he wouldn't, would he?

I don’t think anyone is saying keep quiet but maybe to have done it in a way that is more empathetic to the poor woman who is married to him. She’s the victim here. I found out when my husbands mistress decided to force his hand and post pics of them together all over FB and I can tell you, the shock of finding out that way and the magnitude of the betrayal has given me PTSD. I don’t applaud anyone getting one over on the man by hurting his wife.

Did you leave him Roxy? BTW I'm nobody's mistress.

I agree, how do we know the wife's mental or physical state, or that of the children/parents/grandparents who may see this? How do we know the wife's (or the wife of a man whose identity has been stolen) mental or physical state? Nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors. Maybe a child or a parent is ill? A million different scenarios of which we or the OP has no knowledge. Scenarios that could go far deeper than just embarrassing this man (or the man he is pretending to be). Although initially thinking this could "just" spoil Christmas for the extended (innocent) family, it could go deeper than this depending on the extended friends or family's own situation. I also have also found 192 to be so often inaccurate and out of date - my own adult son was found living with us for many years after he had left home. I truly do not understand why the OP does not seem concerned by the pain her actions could cause to potentially innocent or vulnerable others? I don't think I could live with the guilt of that - especially as she will never know.

No she doesn’t. I’m neutral on this, not sure I’d do it myself, and he’s told her there are no children. His behaviour is disgusting and he needs to stop it. This might make him think. There are no nice ways to tell a woman her husband is a dirty cheat .and better than two sneaky people at it behind her back. At least someone has exposed him.

If you have never met this man in real life you have absolutely no idea if he’s married or if he lives where he says he lives. If a man, married or otherwise, is going to send dick pics there’s absolutely no way he’ll be dishing out his home address to a random woman on a dating site. So either there’s more to this story than you are telling us or you are a batshit stalker who has put 2+2 together and made 7 and may just have ruined an innocent man’s Christmas.

Why did you even continue to engage in conversation with someone who allegedly sent you dick pics? Most women would block instantly…??

If he has borrowed someone’s identity to chat to you online then it is some innocent person and their innocent wife who are going to get this card from Moonpig.

Either way, him sending a dick pic was wrong, no one would deny that, but you haven’t exactly covered yourself in glory either.

What advice are you looking for, you've already done it. Are you boasting? He's a sh#t and you're a bunny boiler.
His wife didn't deserve that.

Victim blaming...