To send this to a married man

[IslaSkywalker]

It's been sent but I'd like to see what people say.

A man who's turned out to be married has been chatting with me and arranging to meet. Also being very flirty and sexual toned in conversation that I did not like and sent unsolicited "pictures." Guess what type.

He's been sent a moonpig postcard telling him to stop flirting and messing around in the new year and not to send pictures of his bits and pieces to women who've not asked.

I can't believe he's only done it the once. I chose a postcard because of the embarrassment factor. The postman will see it and it'd make him look a fool explaining to his wife if she picks it up from the mat.

Not bitter or jealous, he's a complete tool who I don't want. AT ALL.

So we should all expect men to send pictures of their willies should we? Is that normal? Back before mobiles did men whip down their flies when dating so we could get a preview?

She wasn't expecting to see the pictures.

Stop giving random people your details on the internet, no one should except random photos bit if people had more self respect than trusting strangers for attention then they wouldnt be to be contactable in the first place

So he told you he doesn’t have children living at home?

presumably he also told you he didn’t have a wife, right? So you absolutely do not know if he has children there or not, or what age they might be. It’s in his interest to lie and say he doesn’t because it uncomplicated things.

If he mentioned having kids you’d ask about them or where their mother is, if he’s divorced etc. why would he want to iron those details out when he wants you to look at photos of his genitals.

Attention? Since when was the normal practice of dating attention seeking?

Also is his house on for sale? Is it possible he's already seperated and therefore selling the house and therefore not cheating but just didn't want to get into that because he's just been looking a hook up?

Obviously not excusing the unsolicited dick pics but how do we know for sure that he's not already separated?

There is nothing more to read. My point stands as your behaviour seeming very stalkerish and odd, I’m sorry 😂. I hope you manage to ‘find’ someone else, but as I said try and get out more and meet people face to face. Take care

Do you also blame women who wear low cut tops and mini skirts, then get groped by vile perverts of wanting "attention"?

He said single no children. The house isn't for sale from what I saw. Last sold 8 years ago, to him I assume.

Talk to random men online, expect random surprises… it’s hardly rocket science; well it might be actually for some!

Men are to blame for what they do, people are responsible for their own actions i am not going to say to people sure go ahead just let random people contact you nothing bad will come of it, it is a very sensible decision

Call it what you like, the op still comes across like a stalker but no idea why they waste time and effort on someone they dont like it is not normal

Pretty much what I was going to say. OP could well have landed him in hot water by reporting the unsolicited texts and pics. As it is, if this man and his wife wanted to make an issue of this she could well have handed it to him on a plate. OP needs to look up the malicious communications act 1988
Intent is Key: The sender's purpose must be to cause distress or anxiety to the recipient or others (not my words)
By her own admission she intended to cause embarrassment and humiliation which is obviously going to cause distress

Cyber flashing is a criminal sexual offence

Just more ridiculous assumptions. Not even good goading.

So report it to the police instead of risking a harassment warning.

Why were you dating a married man?

House was “last sold 8 years ago”. So, not content with searching the electoral register to find out who he lives with, and then Companies House for his business info, now she’s on Rightmove looking at the sales history. Of a house belonging to a man she’s never met. And has no interest in. And detests. And had no intention of ever meeting up with.

And yet she has gone to SO much trouble, and is now spending hours courting attention on MN about it all. Fkin hell.

For Christ's sake RTFT

And he lied about the single part, why do you not think he also lied about the no children part?

Realistically a child could find this postcard first.

I have RTFT. The easiest course of action here would have been to block him and report the photos to the police.

Because she doesn’t care at all about the legalities of the dick pic. She’s only picked up on that from other replies here. If that was her concern, she would indeed have reported it to the police straight away, not waited 3 weeks.

Her motivation was bitterness at a man (an arsehole) who had lied to her and then she has spent the last 3 weeks stalking him and cooking up a plan to get revenge, with zero care for any consequences for his innocent family.

FGS she wasn't!

Quite. All this drama and sleuthing.

OP mentioned dating. RTFT!