To send this to a married man

[IslaSkywalker]

It's been sent but I'd like to see what people say.

A man who's turned out to be married has been chatting with me and arranging to meet. Also being very flirty and sexual toned in conversation that I did not like and sent unsolicited "pictures." Guess what type.

He's been sent a moonpig postcard telling him to stop flirting and messing around in the new year and not to send pictures of his bits and pieces to women who've not asked.

I can't believe he's only done it the once. I chose a postcard because of the embarrassment factor. The postman will see it and it'd make him look a fool explaining to his wife if she picks it up from the mat.

Not bitter or jealous, he's a complete tool who I don't want. AT ALL.

Think your wrong there, the Husband & the father of the children ruined their Christmas by his actions. Someone calling out his bad behaviour is not responsible.
Not sure where this attitude has come from or if it always been there. You would prefer women to keep quiet & you in the dark. Why he continues to not only abuse women but also his family.

You mean her DH who has been cheating has ruined a woman’s and children’s Christmas??

Imagine blaming the potential OW more than the actual married man himself.

Stupid/arrogant ones?

I don't agree that you did this, although I completely appreciate the urge to do so. No one knows what goes on in someone else's marriage, and I think people should mind their own business. You might well have just busted up his children's home, right before Christmas, too. He was best ignored, tbh. I've had married men come on to me, and I just give them a wide berth.

I can pick up on signs of whether someone is a rapist or peadophile

I find this hard to believe (not least because you keep misspelling the latter). However if it is true, you should share the signs widely so we can all keep ourselves and each other safe. I’ve yet to see any evidence of profiling being effective, though you’re right people tout themselves as such.

The thread is about cheating but several people have suggested the man in question might he dangerous - and he has committed a sexual offence, and lied and made unwanted advances so there is an obvious link.

I have said more than once that it would not be your fault if you were lied to, so not sure why you think that’s gloating. We’ve all been hurt or let down by men at some time. I have explained why it struck me as interesting, and if that’s not clear to you that’s fine by me.

Just so you know op that if this man goes to the police, he might be worried about stalking or the like, Moonpig can and will tell them your name and address.

No, that's down to the man. If he wasn't looking for other women on dating apps and hadn't sent a dick pic, this wouldn't have happened. All too often women are told not to make a noise about the crap of some men.

You're going to look unhinged if it turns out that he's separated.

Wow ‘dog mum’ - I hope you’re not a RL mum to girls who have to constantly deal with harassing and distressing shit like this. YOU may love a dic pic but not only is it a “real crime” when it’s unsolicited, it’s tantamount to indecent exposure which is a gateway to more serious crimes of VAWG.

Please don’t betray women by minimising their concerns to appease entitled perverts.

Someone's going to have a shit Xmas

That's his fault.

No. The husband and father did.

I don't know if what OP sent would count as a malicious communication (surely Moonpig has some sort of automatic trigger in place to flag up potentially illegal messages?) but even if it does, I'm sure sending a dick pic is worse.

I too think this is an over-reaction. I've been sent many dick pics when online dating, and I just block and move on. It would never in a month of Sundays occur to me to call the police over it, and I also think that it's nonsense about dick pics being a gateway to VAWG. So many men think that women want to check out the tackle before getting invested - they are clueless, not criminal!

Is something like keep your pants on Pete and keep your pictures to yourself malicious?

It doesn’t matter what he did. Op has sent a postcard which could be classed as indecent with the direct aim of causing as much anxiety and harm as possible. Making sure any wife, postman or potential child will spot it. That’s purposeful and with intent. Malicious communications can result in a prison sentence. In fact Op’s own potential criminal actions may mean they NFA anything they could’ve charged him for under a CPS stress test,

I hope he does go and the OP shows the police his dick pics.

What is indecent on the postcard ?

It's not malicious communication because it's true and because dick-pic-perv has not told the OP not to contact him

No, they are perverts.

😂😂😂

I don't know. I think it's pretty unlikely, but you'd need to ask a lawyer. It isn't necessarily about using obscene language (although gross and obscene content counts - I am sure his disgusting unwanted dick pics would be illegal), it's about the intention to cause distress and anxiety.

Are you ok? Your emoji button seems stuck?

I wouldn’t do this, but if I took revenge, I would need it to be definitive. I would hate not knowing who had seen the postcard or whether he had just put it straight in the bin

I believe it would be seen as malicious, true or not, because it was done with intent for emotional distress and could cause collateral damage (wife, children etc).

Arguably the man would perhaps not raise it with the police because of the dick pic, but his wife most certainly could.