To send this to a married man

[IslaSkywalker]

It's been sent but I'd like to see what people say.

A man who's turned out to be married has been chatting with me and arranging to meet. Also being very flirty and sexual toned in conversation that I did not like and sent unsolicited "pictures." Guess what type.

He's been sent a moonpig postcard telling him to stop flirting and messing around in the new year and not to send pictures of his bits and pieces to women who've not asked.

I can't believe he's only done it the once. I chose a postcard because of the embarrassment factor. The postman will see it and it'd make him look a fool explaining to his wife if she picks it up from the mat.

Not bitter or jealous, he's a complete tool who I don't want. AT ALL.

I think there are much better ways to handle this that would have been more considerate for whoever else lives in the house with him such as a wife. You have no idea if there's kids there given that he's not trustworthy so can't go on his word. I would have tracked her down online and sent her a direct message with receipts as evidence and left it at that and put her in control as opposed to only focusing on spite-ing him.

You are really reaching here to excuse a flasher. Think about that.

So, if this is even genuine, you thought HE treats her badly, so you'll make it even worse.

Lovely.

She doesn’t want anyone destroying her perceived married life.

The only person hurting his wife and children is the pervert sending pictures of his penis to women on the internet. His wife deserves to know what she's living with.

If the op did report this to the police then the wife will find out as the police will turn up at his house. He has commited a crime.

What I'm surprised by is how many people seem to think a postcard would be more traumatic than a police visit.

Oh did she send nudes to him too? I must have missed that. Also missed she was married with children. Could you link to the post where she is desperate enough to send pictures of her vagina to strange men on the internet?

This is the kind of thing I’d dream of doing but never actually do, step too far. 😬

I see the saddo menz are out in force for this one. I hope this is real. 😂

What I really don't get is the number of women trying to 'protect' his wife from knowing what he's doing/done. I bet most of you have not been cheated on. Yes there will be a couple out there who would rather not know, each to their own I suppose. But I discovered my stbxh had been playing around for over 10 years. We've been together for over 34 years and have four children and I seriously wish I'd known about this 10 years ago! The pain I have to go through wouldn't change, but at least I wouldn't have wasted the last 10 years of my life and would have moved on sooner.

The 'don't upset the wife' are just enabling vile men like this and we need greater female solidarity - stop apologising for men!!!

OP, I personally think go for it, though I am hurting for the poor wife AND it might be better to ensure she definitely knows and not rely on her getting to the post first.

@ICanBuyMyOwnFlowers many of them are not women...

There is a huge difference between saying the photos may not be HIM (and therefore a fake one) and 'excusing a flasher'.
I take issue with this because I have been sexually assaulted twice, in public.

I think there's an awful lot of cock and balls on this thread @ICanBuyMyOwnFlowers

Absolutely
Better she knows than the whispered "poor her".

I really hope you reported that, or that you do in the future.

Then you should think long and hard about what you've posted on this thread!

Absolutely

And you too. Pretty disgusting reply to someone who's been assaulted.

She’s not the OW she’s just someone he was sending dick pics to while pretending not to be married.

and you too. Not a very nice thing to say.

I'm reporting you for that.

How can it be worse than your husband sending pictures of his penis to strangers?

You Will be supported if you report these assaults to the police. They do take it seriously.

No,she's made the wife the victim!

Police won't be interested in dick pics, you also need to be thinking of your own safety here, who knows what he's capable of? Does he know your address? Will the postcard have sender details name/address on it?