To send this to a married man

[IslaSkywalker]

It's been sent but I'd like to see what people say.

A man who's turned out to be married has been chatting with me and arranging to meet. Also being very flirty and sexual toned in conversation that I did not like and sent unsolicited "pictures." Guess what type.

He's been sent a moonpig postcard telling him to stop flirting and messing around in the new year and not to send pictures of his bits and pieces to women who've not asked.

I can't believe he's only done it the once. I chose a postcard because of the embarrassment factor. The postman will see it and it'd make him look a fool explaining to his wife if she picks it up from the mat.

Not bitter or jealous, he's a complete tool who I don't want. AT ALL.

I get that he angered you and I have no sympathy for him whatsoever. But what you're doing is hurting his wife and any kids living at home. Would you like to discover a partner's true colours in this way? Feels unnecessarily mean.

Have you not read the first post and OP's updates?

If you wanted revenge, closure, or a sense of 'doing the right thing' OP, there is no guarantee you will get it.

You may have been mislead by his ID, the card may get lost, he may pass it off as an office /work joke, the postman may bin it...the list is endless.

You will never know if your action was successful.

Why the fuck did you even grace this with a response at all, let alone a Moonpig card, which do come across as jokey and like a prank?

You should have just blocked him and moved on. Far simpler, and will dent his ego and get your message across far more effectively than Moonpig.

You can report the pics to the police. Nothing to lose by doing that. I'm not sure how interested they will be - that's luck of the draw.

Nor are you...

I don’t think this is landing as you thought it might op. You do indeed come across as bitterly disappointed, a little stalkerish and somewhat obsessed.

it wasn’t a classy way to behave, but then neither was his behaviour. I’m embarssed for both of you, but you more than him, it’s all a bit desperate and spiteful.

Sending an unsolicited dick pic IS A REAL CRIME. How can you be this stupid?

Unsolicited dick pics are an actual crime which can carry a sentence of up to 2 years in prison plus being a registered sex offender

The OP works in a prison.

Worth a shot imo.

Worth a shot imo.

I can’t see much because it’s outing but I’m aware of someone currently awaiting trial for sending dick pics. They also lost their job.

It’s taken very seriously

So what if it is spiteful, she hasn’t cheated. His actions have consequence's this is the end result of those actions. Not sure I agree with most posters.

Brave of you to admit it.

But you won’t. Why on earth engage with a man you already know is a misogynistic twat ? Unsolicited dick pics are against the law. Why didn’t you just report it ?

Can you explain why you feel the OP behaviour is worse than the cheating husband? I am at a loss why you accept his behaviour as ok but hers not?

What a misogynistic reply! You should be ashamed of yourself.

I completely agree.

I think a moonpig card is a good way to shame him but it would not be my choice, mainly because I wouldn’t want to spend my time and energy on him.

I think the wife should know though and many posters are suggesting that OP should not have told her at all.

The poll result is not reflected in the comments on here, most of which disagree with what you’ve done.

So you'd be ok with your husband sending pictures of his penis to other women, but not ok with the other women objecting to it?

That's sad.

The problem with her approach is that she (like the guy) is not taking the wife or family (if he has one) into consideration.

I don't have a problem reporting to the police, but surely there are better ways for the wife to find out than a postcard in the post... Let's hope he hasn't been lying about his name or where he lives.

What porn?

Dick picks from a married man...

This.

Her husband fucked around.

Now he's finding out.

If he's lucky, his wife won't find out. But when men behave like this, they can't be surprised if this kind of thing happens.