To send this to a married man

[IslaSkywalker]

It's been sent but I'd like to see what people say.

A man who's turned out to be married has been chatting with me and arranging to meet. Also being very flirty and sexual toned in conversation that I did not like and sent unsolicited "pictures." Guess what type.

He's been sent a moonpig postcard telling him to stop flirting and messing around in the new year and not to send pictures of his bits and pieces to women who've not asked.

I can't believe he's only done it the once. I chose a postcard because of the embarrassment factor. The postman will see it and it'd make him look a fool explaining to his wife if she picks it up from the mat.

Not bitter or jealous, he's a complete tool who I don't want. AT ALL.

I think it’s the fact it was done to cause drama is what irks me about it. It certainly wasn’t done out of concern for the wife, she can just be collateral damage in the drama. If they communicated online then why not send to the wife a compassionate letter with a picture of her husband’s dating profile and the info that he is sending inappropriate photos. She then has control over how she wants to move forward, at her own pace, having the power of knowledge.

Silly sod

Good for you op. It’s his problem, not yours. He’s the one who should have thought about how his wife or kids might feel.

@IslaSkywalker let's hope that it was actually him and not someone using his details.

A woman did this to me after I challenged her over her nasty behaviour towards someone else. She took my profile photo from FB and my details from the club database (she ran the club) then signed me up to a dating site and used them to message people. I got the police involved. She told them my job etc... and anything she knew about me. Really nasty thing to do.

But can you imagine if someone then sent a postcard to my DH...?!?!?!

Maybe he is a complete weirdo, or maybe this is someone else being nasty and you have just gone a potentially ruined his life.

OP knows the man’s name so just send to Mrs ….

OP can’t send her a letter if she doesn’t know her name.

if you look at ALL by the OP a few pages back I'm sure she said that 192 showed all the occupants and that included his wife.

So she has her name.

Because he was showing off about his house. He sent pictures of that. A quick check online reveals he's not living there by himself.

This will be fabulous if one of his children who can read picks it up off the doormat, won’t it, OP?

Do you not think the police have more important things to do , you know like real crimes !!!

god sake block and move on !!

can see why you’re single if you overreact like this .

Yes very true but if posters are so concerned with her MH or that it’s so close to Xmas then that’s still going to have the same outcome.

Because he was showing off about his house. He sent pictures of that. A quick check online reveals he's not living there by himself.

@cucy- she says knows her name if she's the only other adult listed.

Of course it could be his sister or his mum- who knows?

I think you're missing the point that if his wife had been told yes, it's still 3 weeks to Xmas, but she would have the power.

That is not the same outcome because it giver her time to unravel more evidence, see a solicitor, protect her children from this till she is ready to take it further.

I'm not eagerly waiting for a fallout.

Then why do something so dramatic, designed to involve even the postman? Why start this thread? What outcome do you want and why did you think this was the best strategy?

If I was a married woman who this happened to them I'd be grateful

Well I am a married woman, with children, and if that had turned up in my home, I'd be furious and want to know who the hell you thought you were, setting off bombs in my life like that from your safe spot. I don't consent and if you cared about my wellbeing, that would matter to you.

Then the same man escalates his dodgy behaviour to get a reaction...flashing, minor unwanted touching, sexual assault. Why wouldn't we want that stopped by report his entry level behaviours ?? It's not something women should have to absorb for your comfort

Is it possible if he was bragging about everything, he also was bragging about a house he doesn't own. Could be anyone's house. Who actually gives their address online to someone they dont know. You could land in trouble for sending porn through the post.

I was responding to the fact a letter couldn’t be sent as OP doesn’t know her name.

If OP met him (or communicated to him) through OLD this could well not be the last time something like this happens so she might need a subscription to Moonpig. Not that OP has clarified how they met.

Do you really think the police have time to investigate every dick pic that is sent?
When rapists are waiting years for a trial?

No one is condoning men doing this before you jump in with that conclusion.
But there needs to be a sense of proportion and although there is evidence that flashers may become aggressive/ rapists, the same does not necessarily apply to dick pics sent through online dating.

Which is equally as odd. Don’t you trust your own opinion? Do you think that they’ll have some insight that you don’t have?

Because he was showing off about his house. He sent pictures of that. Let’s hope he wasn’t pretending to live in a big posh house, and he isn’t secretly living in a bedsit, using his faithful and happily married cousin’s name and house pics.

The issue with all of this is there is no proof the man she targeted with the card is the man she was talking to.

Anyone online can create a false ID (think of all the children who are targeted online by paedos who assume false IDs). Fake photos, fake house shots, fake cars, fake dick even!

There is no proof the other adult showing at the address she thinks is his house, is his wife. It could be an older sister or an adult daughter.
He could be divorced- unless OP has all of that info.

They do.

And they fully anticipate that the victim will say something publicly, and they support the victim with that too.

Can you link to the evidence please out of genuine interest.

Of course it's to do with her as she is the recipient of a picture of his penis.

What are you on about 🤣?

Or who she thinks the penis belongs to.
She'd only know that for sure if it was a video call.
And if the house where he said he lived (via a link online) was his house etc etc.

There’s no proof OP was even talking to a man if a stolen identity. Sadly it’s easy enough to get a dick pic these days.

What! The one whose doing an awful thing to his wife is Mr. Slease

That sounds very childish. Just block him.