Taking dogs to non dog owners’ houses

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Seen a few threads on this lately.
Why do people think it’s acceptable to bring their dogs to non dog owners’ houses and assume it’s ok?
My MIL does it all the time (means I have to shut my lovely cats away)
DH’s old friend came to stay last year- the night before announced ‘of course the dog is coming’ (I had assumed the dog would not be coming as we have been away with them before and they had dog sitters). Then they were a little annoyed that our said plans- which they were aware of in advance were not dog friendly (museums etc)
Every time I want to meet up with my BFF- she wants to bring her 2 dogs?!
BTW , I am a dog person- my parents
had big labradors when I was growing up

AIBU to think you should not just turn up with your dog

Ah my parents are like this with their dog, it goes everywhere we go. We’ve also got a newish dog, she 1 now, I just couldn’t imagine taking her everywhere we went! We pay for kennels (if going away for the night - which is rare!) or if out for the day she is crate trained and we have a walker pop in to let her out!
Ive never once thought “Oh I’ll take X to lunch with me” 😂unless it was a specified let’s go for a dog walk and grab lunch type of meeting!

It’s very rude to just assume the dog would be coming to your house. I hope you said no.

‘No, that doesn’t work for us’

People don't seem to put 2 and 2 together and think that.you don't have a dog because... you don't want a dog! In the house, to make plans around...

But you shouldn’t even be put in the position of having to say that.

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If i was invited to someone's house i wouldn't assume i could take my child unless specifically invited so why on earth would I drag a dog along?

I'm a bit worried our relatives will assume they can bring their dog to our new home every time they come over, I'm worried about insulting them by asking to keep the dog at home but I've got to find a good way to say it....

YANBU, but I am amazed you allow this. I will not allow my sister to bring her dogs to my home and she respects that. It’s your home- enforce your expectations!

I think modern day dog owners are creating all sorts of anxiety issues in their dogs by taking them everywhere and treating them like people- they are not, they are animals. Nobody did this when we were children, it is very entitled.

Just say no. I am a huge animal lover,
we have 12 different animals including our 2 wonderful dogs. They are wonderful to us, we dont expect everyone else to feel the same. We never take them to other people’s homes. I would not allow others to just turn up to mine with theirs either. It disrespectful to force your life choices on others.

I often take my dog but 100 percent check first. If I can't or don't want to take her she goes to a sitter
TBH most people actually want her to come along, I suspect she's more popular than me!

Thank you all for reinforcing that I’m not going mad.

With all those "dog nutters" who prefer dogs to humans and don't trust anyone who doesn't like dogs I think their boundaries can get very blurred.

I'm a dog owner, and it's just common sense that you ask whether the other people are ok with you bringing it, whether they're dog owners or not!

Totally agree. Before getting a dog I did check with non dog owning immediate family members their opinion as I wanted to factor in kennel costs if they weren't happy having dogs (they all live quite far away).
For local family and friends it wouldn't occur to me to take them.
However shopping wise I do take him. Partly due to my laziness! I can walk into my local town so makes sense to kill two birds with one stone.

I never take my dog with me on visits. Nor do I want dogs I don't know in my house either. On occasions when people have rocked up with their uninvited pooches, one shat on the floor, another ran riot through my veggie bed (the dogs, not the people). Fuckers.

Some people come as a package deal, they want to bring dogs, just say no if you don’t want them in your house but expect them not to come. If you have a visitor bringing a dog, just do activities more suitable like walking rather than museum visits

TBF my MIL’s dog is very well behaved, she is not so much 🤣 but we have worked out a system which works with the cats

I’m another one who wouldn’t dream of taking my dog anywhere unless expressly invited. I wouldn’t even ask.

My dog is 4 and he’s been to my parents house once when they asked to see him as a puppy. He’s been to my siblings house twice by invitation to family BBQs where there were several other dogs. I don’t think he’s been in anyone else’s house ever apart from the dog sitter.

I wouldn’t dream of it. How rude.

I wouldn’t even take my dog when she’s invited - she’s massive and hairy and bit of a pain in the arse to be honest. It would be fun for no one, including her, she’s happiest at home.

Dog owner here and she’s my baby and right hand etc etc

Id never dream of taking my dog to someone else’s house unless dog was invited

We have a dog and would never dream of just turning up with her somewhere! She has come with us on visits but only because she was included in the invite! If we go out to meet friends in a pub or elsewhere, we always ask first if they mind if we bring her. If they do, she stays at home, not an issue.

I would never ask to bring a dog if people mention it to me fine bit I would never put position in the position in the first place same as with children

I refuse to allow the dog in. They can tie it up outside.

Hmm. I think “back in the good old days” people didn’t realise the impact of leaving dogs alone for long stretches - yes, they are animals but they suffer stress and anxiety like any mammal and mitigating that and not being cruel is part of being a responsible dog owner.

But I agree they don’t need to go everywhere. I WFH but regularly go out to ensure dog has alone time and therefore doesn’t have separation anxiety.