DP’s family have uninvited my DLabrador from Christmas

[Hols25]

Feeling a bit pissed off. First Christmas with DP and he invited me to his parents house. They live a few hours away so I haven’t been there before, but have met them once for a meal where we live.

DP knows I have sole custody of my DL following breaking up with my ex last year, and he hates going into kennels. When he asked me about Christmas, I checked about whether DL could join and he said yes.

Fast forward to today and he’s told me his parents aren’t able to accommodate DL. They aren’t really dog people and are worried about their cream carpets.

It turns out he hadn’t actually checked with them before and only spoke to them last night.

This means I can’t go and won’t be spending Christmas with DP or the days either side as he’s travelling the morning before.

He says its just one of those things.

AIBU to feel upset with him?

It's your partner's fault for lying to you. Lots of people adore their pets, they're part of the family and sometimes you have to make sacrifices because of them which you'll already know.

So basically he has to make the choice now - either he goes to his parents alone or you stay at home together. God forbid if you have any children and his parents object to them too because of their cream carpets. I get why they don't want a dog in the house, not all people are animal lovers & that's their choice. Maybe they could arrange to come to you sometime but that's another story x

You've answered your own question, not everyone is a dog lover😅

I think realistically you have some time between now and then to shop around to try and find a kennel or home from home pet sitting that your dog will be comfortable with but you'd need to start now, especially if you wanted to do a test run before Christmas itself.

I had a bad experience with a kennel once so I do really understand the hesitance about using them but we were headed away not long after so tried a different kennels and it was a completely different experience. The one we used was part of a shelter so they were well used to prioritising nervous/ anxious dogs and my dog was really content coming out, had clearly been very well looked after and was excited to see the staff the next time we used them. It was a huge weight off my mind knowing we had that to fall back on if we ever needed him minded which wasn't often. It's not a bad thing to get them used to, if you took ill or something you wouldn't want them to have that as a shock to their system.

@sesamecroissant

i like animals. But I wouldn’t want a dog in my house as I am very house proud - I have spent a lot of money on my house and I also have cream carpets. What’s worrying about me do you think?

I wouldn’t go , dog your priority. Partner lied , well dodgy . U can trust your dog not the partner.

@PortSalutPlease

it’s a DOG, I don’t think it gives a shit whether it’s Christmas or Easter. Don’t be ridiculous

On Christmas day with less than 3 weeks notice? I think anyone working that day will have been booked up long ago. The boyfriend has screwed OP over on this occasion

@Cactusmad

you can never fully trust a dog, because they are an animal and not very clever and could bite.

But it knows if it's been left alone all day. Possibly howling and annoying the neighbours.

@CaptainMyCaptain

Presumably OP works so it wouldn’t be an unusual occurrence for the dog to be left home alone.

Just an idea!

Maybe but just an idea that must’ve not been considered

There are quite a few agencies like Trusted Housesitters, who supply people stay in your house with the dog while you are away.

I would guess OP has a dog walker to check every few hours if those occasions arose or so but on Christmas day? Doubtful.
OP has already said he parents are a few hours away so just a round trip is too long to leave a dog unattended

And at any other time of the year, possibly.
Christmas day. I seriously doubt it. OP has already explored the housesitter route in an earlier post

@Judecb

i wouldn’t fancy having some random staying in my house

What the fuck does that have to do with the price of sugar? That doesn’t mean OP has to put her dog in kennels. It just means that her DP’s parents are a no go.

I think she said the partner's parents live a few hours away so it might be longer than a normal working day.

Seriously. Go have a nice Christmas. You love a few hrs away. Not a few days away. How do you go to work? Also I agree with his parents. Absolutely no dogs in my house, even with black carpets. It isn't a baby. Its a dog. If you are staying for a few days, I may have missed it, then either board him or get a dog sitter. Plenty of young students looking for a warm house over Christmas.

He didn't bother to ask so the fault's on him.

I'd be dumping him.

It's an idea that has been suggested on this thread a hundred times and it has been explained that the OP is unlikely to find kennels or a dog sitter at such short notice.

It seems reading comprehension is not your forté, so here’s a wild piece of information for you. The OP is a human, and therefore fully versed in the salient points of Christmas or Easter. I said why should the dog have to be in kennels for Christmas when to OP the dog is family. And I said this because OP would want her loved ones near her for Christmas and that includes the dog, not because I thought the dog would be upset not to be slurping Buck’s Fizz and opening a stocking

This is ridiculous

Ditch the boyfriend, the dog is more important.

DL .... really? Is this serious?