DP’s family have uninvited my DLabrador from Christmas

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Feeling a bit pissed off. First Christmas with DP and he invited me to his parents house. They live a few hours away so I haven’t been there before, but have met them once for a meal where we live.

DP knows I have sole custody of my DL following breaking up with my ex last year, and he hates going into kennels. When he asked me about Christmas, I checked about whether DL could join and he said yes.

Fast forward to today and he’s told me his parents aren’t able to accommodate DL. They aren’t really dog people and are worried about their cream carpets.

It turns out he hadn’t actually checked with them before and only spoke to them last night.

This means I can’t go and won’t be spending Christmas with DP or the days either side as he’s travelling the morning before.

He says its just one of those things.

AIBU to feel upset with him?

Yeah, people who don't want you to bring your dog to their house are evil serial killers 😂. What a weird comment.

I’d just phone my brother tell him what happened and go to his. Not sure I’d be that keen on said partner afterwards tbh, DL is obviously very important to you and you were never going to put him in kennels so was he just going to leave you on your own for xmas? Just go to your brother’s…

Omg I can’t imagine why anyone would think it’s ok to take your dog to someone’s house over Christmas unless they’re a massive dog house. No wonder they don’t want him!

I'm not saying they shouldn't, but the partner has prioritised his plans so the OP needs to take note.

She is actually unreasonable to expect to take her dog to their house when you've only met them once, they are hosting Christmas with family members and invite you and you think asking to bring your dog is the sensible thing???

I am genuinely gob smacked that people think it should be ok to take a dog to someone else’s house and that those people should just “put up with it” - and the fact that said people aren’t prepared to do this somehow makes them unreasonable?!

It’s a big animal…. It’s hardly a hamster in a cage that you can just put in the corner of a bedroom upstairs.

I like dogs but there’s no way I’d want some random dog in my house all day - especially not a Labrador!

She didn’t ask. Read the thread. Please.

She was told by her boyfriend that the dog was very welcome over Xmas. In reality he hadn’t actually checked this with his parents. The OP has assumed nothing and done nothing wrong

You were rude to ask to bring your dog. Also from a dog lover and owner who will not leave my dog in kennels

Because OP’s thread title implies the PIL agreed to the dog going, and that they then changed their mind. Which isn’t what happened at all.

OP obviously worded her title like that to purposely draw the posters in. Click bait at its best 🤣

It worked though 🤣

She didn’t ask. Read the thread.

It’s Christmas. Why on earth can’t they have the dog too. Seems a bit mean. Red flags all round!

Either make arrangements for the dog or don’t go!

I do think it's strange people wouldn't allow a well behaved dog in the house unless they have a fear of dogs - but there are a lot of people like that, especially if they have small houses. It's just a very different opinion to mine. My inlaws wouldn't let us bring our 3 month old puppy to their house and on another occasion made their DS and BIL leave their dog in the car boot on the drive (both on Xmas day). I wouldn't trust a kennel but if you look up dog sitters you might find one near by you could drop your dog off with for a day or two x

It’s their Christmas too. Moreover it’s their home, their furniture and their call. It’s outrageous to assume that anyone wants someone else’s dog in their house.

Have you considered joining a house sitting app? There’s trusted housesitters and housesitters uk which is cheaper (about £30 a year)

People look forward to Christmas all year.

I'm not one of the pp saying just shove the dog in a kennel and don't look back, but I also can see on the other hand that not everyone wants a large, smelly (and sorry op, he WILL be) dog lumbering round their home on their festive break.

I have a lab and would rather spend xmas with him then a partner who is irresponsible and his parents whom I have only met once

Because puppies pee, poo, shed, smell and chew things.

I quite like dogs, but I can see why some people don't want them in their own space.

What an insightful post!

I just lost my beloved boy but previously have had two DLabradors that only one side of the family would have in their house for Christmas, which made things even more complicated when it came to finding alternatives as neither ever went in kennels. It is the homeowners prerogative OP, if someone doesn’t want a dog in their house they have every right to say so (even if we cannot understand how anyone could dislike a lab!)

😂

Why not a whole animal sanctuary and the local psychiatric unit too? It's Christmas after all!

Bet you’re fun at parties.

Just today I saw two dogs being walked and one cocked it's leg and proceeded to walk whilst the pee was still running down it's leg. I made a firm resolution never to allow dogs into my house.

"When he asked me about Christmas, I checked about whether DL could join and he said yes."

She asked and he said yes. Again it's ridiculous to expect people you don't know well to invite you and your dog for Christmas. He is an idiot for saying yes without checking but she is also unreasonable for expecting them to invite her dog