AIBU to be furious?

[havasack]

On Thursdays I meet my childminder at the school gates to hand over my 1 year old while I’m picking up my 6 year old.
We had a brief chat and then she said (in front of a few other people) she’d seen we’d been away at the weekend and that ‘maybe I should pay my childcare bill before I book holidays’. Three people turned around and I was bright red in the face. How unprofessional!
For context - payment was due Monday and she’s sent me no reminders which she usually does after 2/3 days then I always pay! I’ve never not paid.

I’m thinking of transferring to a nursery as there may be more professional boundaries in place. She should not have mentioned that in front of others. AIBU?

Agree. Either that or OP is a total dick.

You are funny with your made up added details.

It’s called an invoice. They bill you, you pay. Yes?

You sound really unreliable. My guess is she is sick of chasing payments. It’s awful having to beg people to pay you money you are owed. I’m pretty sure you would be annoyed if your work consistently paid you several days late.
Set up a standing order so you don’t have to remember or put a reminder on your phone to pay the day it’s due (or earlier)
How you felt in that playground is how she will feel every time she has to chase payments. Remember that. She’s not your skivvy, show her some respect

You MUST have heard of an invoice surely? Google it, it will explain all.

I’m actually surprised she hasn’t binned you as a client

Why waste time with unreliable customers who CBA to pay on time and get offended when rightly called out

The shame you felt was due to your own behaviour - own it

So she has tried:

• Reminders
• Threatening suspension of services
• Extra charges

And you still can't pay on time. In that case I don't really blame her for being a bit grumpy when she asked you and thinking she didn't care who heard.

I'm not sure I believe this, as it's so self absorbed! By all means find a nursery. I don't think they will necessarily be more discreet about reapeated late bills. There will likely just be more people around at drop-off and it will be less convenient.

Pay her on time then! She’s running a business and she needs to know when she’s going to get paid. Would you find it acceptable to have to remind your employer to pay you every month?

Are you actually jealous of all the negative attention the OP's getting? 😄

depends what’s in the childcare agreement.

@havasack this is a reverse, right?

You can’t seriously be thinking it’s ok to pay your childminder late as a matter of course?

If it ok if your employer pays you a few days late?

Absolute fuckery.

If you regularly pay late or EVER need reminding, you are in the wrong. You must pay on time. You would not accept your workplace paying yo a few days late or you needing to remind them to pay you! Outrageous behaviour - on your part.

You're being completely reasonable, how dare she embarrass you like that!!!

It's not as though you only pay a few days late all the time is it? Or as though when you do pay a few days late she hasn't got loads of money in her bank account to cover it anyway.

I'd definitely switch to a nursery setting, they'll let you pay late all of the time because holidays before bills always🙃

OMG you are being completely unreasonable. Just pay your bills on time and don’t have the childminder acting like a beggar for her earned money. As someone who is self employed there is nothing that gives me the rage more than having to beg for money I have earned.

You pay late regularly and complain about the late fee. You don’t sound like you value her as your child care at all. Pay on time and stop messing her about. As a self employed person late payment has a real impact. Cash flow is impacted, it causes stress and anxiety, and causes additional work and effort to chase. It is your responsibility to pay promptly not be chased.

Pay her on time! She shouldn't have to remind you!

An invoice with a due date of Monday was presumably raised at least a few days/week before.

She’s earned every penny. Pay on time. She has bills just like you do. I’m sure her mortgage company will be happy to wait just a few days…
She has already introduced fines due to your lateness and still you can’t pay on time. Good luck with finding a nursery who will tolerate your tardiness.

The OPs probably logged in on another account and decided to put Yes, at the end of each statement.

Why should she be responsible for continually reminding you that you haven’t paid her?? I don’t think you’d like it if you had to remind her your child needed picking up from school.

YABVU. This wasn’t a first time offfence. This seems to be the standard for you. People have bills to pay and need paying. She was right to call you out and even late fees haven’t worked to help you learn a valuable lesson. Maybe now you might set your own reminders.

She was unprofessional, but you are a self-centred twat if you think it is acceptable to forget to pay on time and to turn up late for collection.

Try paying a private nursery a couple of days late and see what happens. Or perhaps the mechanic when you have your car fixed.
Got to be a reverse.

She has more than earned in in the stress involved in not knowing ever if you will pay. Also the admin of chasing.

you absolutely deserved being called out as this is entitled behaviour and frankly quite horrible as it causes another person stress - because of you.

I’d suggest setting a reminder to pay your bill on time if you don’t want to pay late fees.

she’s providing you a service and you don’t think that’s worthy of payment when it’s due

I’d be pissed off too if I was her