AIBU to be furious?

[havasack]

On Thursdays I meet my childminder at the school gates to hand over my 1 year old while I’m picking up my 6 year old.
We had a brief chat and then she said (in front of a few other people) she’d seen we’d been away at the weekend and that ‘maybe I should pay my childcare bill before I book holidays’. Three people turned around and I was bright red in the face. How unprofessional!
For context - payment was due Monday and she’s sent me no reminders which she usually does after 2/3 days then I always pay! I’ve never not paid.

I’m thinking of transferring to a nursery as there may be more professional boundaries in place. She should not have mentioned that in front of others. AIBU?

Must be a reverse. No one is this thick and entitled.

So that’s at least ten days that you’ve been late paying your bill.

Do you think she is a childminder out of the good of her own heart? That she does it for fun? How would you feel if she turned around and said she couldn’t feed your child that day because you’re not paying your bills?

Now I think she’s in the right, I’m pleased she called you out and embarrassed you.

I’m thinking of transferring to a nursery as there may be more professional boundaries in place.

I hope you don't think that nurseries will be fine with frequent late payments.

Pay your bill in time!!

It probably is a reverse but trust me anyone who has ever worked in education, childcare or retail will agree people are indeed this thick and entitled!

So you'd be fine with your own salary not being paid, and having to email payroll each month to remind them?

Payment due not pay after.

What’s stopping you paying on time?

Does she charge the same rate each period? If so can you set up a standing order so it’s paid on time?

Or if the billing amount changes then can you set reminders for the same day each month to just pay?

She was probably hoping that the late payment charge would make you pay on time, and now that isn’t worked she has expressed what she said in frustration.

Well stop paying her late then you won’t have to give her money ( that in your words) hasn’t earned
although she has by looking after your kid

@havasack are you having a laugh here? Why on earth do you think it’s ok to pay her late? She’s clearly sick of it. Why should she have to chase you? Do you pay her for the time it takes her to do this?

Chasing up payments is work. If you're self employed you still have regular monthly bills just the same as an employed person. If they're getting paid late by yourself and possibly other clients, then it's possible they're incurring late fees and bank charges.

She was unprofessional to address the issue in front of other people. However I'm guessing she's not keen to keep your custom, so has reached the point where she hopes you make alternative arrangements.

Team childminder here!

Honestly it sounds like you are always late paying ( bet you pay rent/ mortgage on time with no reminders). So the late fees etc are justified. If you are unhappy find another childminder but no one will accept constantly chasing late payment

YABU
You sound like are regularly late with payments so it sounds as if she’s had enough and decided you needed showing up in public.
Unprofessional? yes. A cow? Yes. But necessary in your situation.
You obviously feel you're entitled to pay late.

You do realise she’s doing a job ( not a favour) and expecting timely payment for her services ??

I assume you work ?
How would you feel if your employer was regularly late paying your wages and you couldn’t pay your bills or your direct debits defaulted ?

You are being unreasonable being late at all - she can’t pay her mortgage a few days late and needs the money she has earned from you. You should never need a reminder. Sounds like the relationship is soured though so look elsewhere - nurseries won’t put up with late payments either though

Exactly this. Frankly I think you are extremely lucky she hasn’t sacked you as a client.

This has got to be a wind up !
and if you’re silly enough to pay 10 days late at a cost of £100 then bigger fool you 😂

Why the hell are you paying a few days late every time!! she has bills to pay, Christmas things to buy. I am self employed and the way employed salaried people fuck me around drives me insane.
You should pay your bills on time, she didn't shame you, you shamed yourself.

She has earned it. You also earned the late fee by choosing not to pay ger on time.

She’d had enough of you and I don’t blame her, perhaps now you’ll pay on time, unless you flounce off.

Would you be happy for your employer to pay you late? No. Would you pay your mortgage late? Well if you did, the repercussions wouldn’t be great, so you’d more than likely pay on time. Paying her is no different.

if you do move your child from her, she won’t give a toss and will fill the space quickly.

Its not on her to remind you to pay. The entitlement of some people these days is mad.

So what if she refused to have your child because you had not paid? Would you like that? Don’t be shady, she wouldn’t be doing it if she didn’t need the money.

It’s called an invoice and it’s perfectly normal to wait until someone has billed you before payment them. You are funny

I'd be pissed off if my employer was continually paying me 'just a few days late'. My bills are set to go out when my salary goes in. I do the work, I expect to get paid on time. Anything else is extremely unprofessional.

Fucksake, saw the update - you've gone to far now, you had us all going at the start.