AIBU to be furious?

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On Thursdays I meet my childminder at the school gates to hand over my 1 year old while I’m picking up my 6 year old.
We had a brief chat and then she said (in front of a few other people) she’d seen we’d been away at the weekend and that ‘maybe I should pay my childcare bill before I book holidays’. Three people turned around and I was bright red in the face. How unprofessional!
For context - payment was due Monday and she’s sent me no reminders which she usually does after 2/3 days then I always pay! I’ve never not paid.

I’m thinking of transferring to a nursery as there may be more professional boundaries in place. She should not have mentioned that in front of others. AIBU?

You need to pay on time - you shouldn’t need reminders. She has bills to pay and it’s stressful if you don’t get income when you are meant to. Yes she was blunt, but I don’t really blame her when it’s a pattern of behaviour.

Yes, she has earned it. She has earned it because you keep breaking the rules.

Is this a reverse?

I don't understand why you can't just pay on time?

Why don’t you just pay on time? You’re lucky she hasn’t given you notice yet.

Bloody hell OP. I’d have ended my contract with you long before - you’re a repeat offender. Poor form.

What do you mean that she hasn't earned? She's being paid late every month by the sounds of it so I'm not surprised she's charging late fees and explaining to you that if you continue she won't look after your children for free...

What can’t you just pay her on time? What’s stopping you? That’s very unfair…she has bills to pay you know!!

This might sound harsh but you are using a service and not paying on time . You should not need a reminder . When you pay your rent/mortgage you do not get sent a reminder .

in the nicest possible way you are an adult and your late payment is having a knock on effect. It sounds like the comment was made in a moment of exasperation, not ideal but pay your bills on time and hopefully this won’t happen again.

Don’t cut off your nose to spite your face. She touched a nerve and you don’t like it.

Because she’s hoping one week the childminder will forget to chase and she’ll get a week’s free childcare out of her.

She shouldn't have said anything in front of other people, but she's probably had enough - you say that she "usually" sends you a reminder when the payment is 2 or 3 days late? But this time, she didn't, so you still hadn't paid it?

You're taking the piss. Just set a reminder on your phone and make sure that you pay by the due date.

I think she was dead right calling you out tbh! Good on her!

I wonder if her mortgage company are fine with her saying she’s only a few days late?

This has to be a joke!. You are consistently late paying her. Reminders don't work. Late payment charges don't work. Good on her for trying public humiliation! It got your attention. Try paying her on time in future.

She should have sent you a reminder, but you shouldn't be paying late.

If you were "only a few days" late paying your mortgage you'd get a late payment charge. Do you walk into shops or your hairdresser, get want you want and blithely tell them you'll pay them in a few days? Would you be happy if your salary wasn't paid when it was due, and HR told you to chill because it'll be paid in a few days?

Don't be so disrespectful of your childminder, who is just trying to earn a living the same as you.

But it’s still consistently late.

Yet you can afford to pay for holidays? YABU. Very, very unreasonable. If I was her I’d just stop looking after your child

That's quite a drip feed.

Is this a reverse?

Are you joking? You’re out of order

set up a standing order or move your child. You are an adult. Manage your own schedule and pay for your services on time.

i imagine she’ll get rid, she sounds like she’s had enough

Hang on, so you know payment is due on a Monday but you don't pay then, and wait for her to chase you a few days later? Are you not seeing where this is a problem?

Nurseries will have less patience than your childminder with not being paid on time. You're going to find yourself without childcare if you're not careful

A simple rule is to pay as soon as the bill arrives. Budget for it. Put the money aside or if it's the same amount, an auto payment.

Rude is not paying on time. If she's put a late fee in place it's to try and get you to pay!! The comment publicly was unprofessional, but likely out of frustration. She has bills too. If my employer paid late there'd be mutiny!

You are very lucky she hasn't given you notice. Your attitude towards paying costs you've incurred is astonishing.
She's also right, pay your bills before you pay for holidays.

Reverse?

If you have the habit of paying late, even by 2-3 days, that's still 'paying late'! I agree a reminder once the payment deadline has passed should be sent. I suspect she mentioned the late payment in front of others deliberately, in the hope it would shame you into paying your bill on time. It wasn't very nice, but perhaps she's got fed up with you consistently paying late, and having to send reminders, so she didn't bother this month, and left it to see if you'd pay!!! You didn't, so it's given her the ammunition to take action in the way she did. Set reminders yourself to pay the bill.

Guessing this is a reverse but if not, you'll definitely be paying her on time going forward 🤣

she’s sent me no reminders which she usually does after 2/3 days then I always pay

So you are frequently late at paying, meaning she has to follow up to remind you.

Just pay on time, then you won’t have to whine about her not reminding you, or adding on late payment charges.

You want to transfer to a nursery because it will be more professional? They will also have late payment fees.