Would you be put off a nursery if it employed a man?

[Eaglesfortea]

I’d like to think I’m open minded and not sexist, but I would be put off… I have no issue with male primary school teachers or sports club leaders, but I wouldn’t want an unrelated man changing DD’s nappy.

YABU - men working in nurseries wouldn’t bother me at all
YANBU - I’d be put off too

There were 2 men at DC nursery, one still works there 8 years later, the other went on to university from memory.

DC loved the nursery nurses and a few weeks ago we were driving by nursery and he was putting some rubbish in the bins and waved at DC. They were very impressed he still remembered them and they talk of him fondly.

Yes exactly. No one is tracking their job history from one nursery to another here either. The staff turnover is so high anyway - it wouldn’t even stand out as unusual.

You can see from the lack of awareness on here that it’s as much to do with parents not realising the risks fully.
We see this in other areas of family life too.

Someone saying they would have no problem or issue with a male they don’t know that’s only just joined their nursery changing their baby’s nappy says it all.
Even a known male changing a nappy can be a serious risk. It’s like they are not aware of the various forms of depraved abuse that can and does happen to babies and toddlers.

It is very worrying.

Yes 100 percent

Yes, viewed a nursery a few months ago. On the show around saw a male, around 40 yrs old, working alone in a toddler room. Confirmed with the manager and fairly quickly finished the show around and left.
They rang for feedback and I was honest. Said it may not be a very PC opinion but I’m not happy to accept the increased risk of unrelated males caring for my child, especially unsupervised. Sure he’s a lovely man etc etc.

I don’t care if I sound daft, it’s my baby and my choice to make. I voted with my feet.

Ive chosen a lovely nursery with no male staff currently. It won’t always be within my control if baby is settled somewhere and they employ a male later on but I think I’d feel comfortable requesting the male is not my child’s key person and that specific member of staff does not change my child’s nappy. The nursery can accept my request or decline in which case that’s my problem and I could go elsewhere or accept their decision.

Yes

I’m in two minds. There was a young male at a nursery used by the 2 elder Gdcs for quite a while. Among other things he played the guitar and sang to them. Whether he ever changed nappies I don’t know - all other staff were women - but the Gdcs (G and B) both loved him.