Help end medical misogyny. Sign our petition.

Help end medical misogyny.
Sign our petition.

Sign the petition

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Misunderstood Xmas gift

626 replies

Idontpostmuch · 03/12/2025 10:42

Just for fun, what have you given as a Christmas present that totally fell flat and was misunderstood? My bad idea was a box of luxury crackers. It was some yrs ago, late 80s. Very cheap crackers were the norm and the luxury sort were more of a rarity. So I bought a box for my sister. She and her husband always had friends round on Boxing Day or NY Day, when she pulled out all the stops. The crackers would have graced any table. White with golden ribbons, they looked classy, and the items inside were so much nicer than the usual trinkets. Twice as expensive for half as many, it seemed the sort of thing many would like but would never justify buying. However, my sister decided that since nobody would give anyone crackers, they had to be intended just as packaging, so she proceeded to pull them all one after the other, and ended up with a pile of trinkets, albeit superior trinkets.

That's my best flop, but a close second is giving a friend a metal water bottle because she carried water in an old plastic lemonade bottle. So she now uses the bottle at home when the rest of us use glasses and carries on with her ancient plastic bottles outside.

OP posts:
VeterinaryCareAssistant · 03/12/2025 15:10

I once spent quite a bit of money on a meat hamper for my parents and they asked what they were supposed to do with it.

I also got my parents Christmas cushions with embroidered messages in the handwriting of both their mums that I had got from old Christmas cards and they were non-plussed.

Dullday · 03/12/2025 15:10

Idontpostmuch · 03/12/2025 10:42

Just for fun, what have you given as a Christmas present that totally fell flat and was misunderstood? My bad idea was a box of luxury crackers. It was some yrs ago, late 80s. Very cheap crackers were the norm and the luxury sort were more of a rarity. So I bought a box for my sister. She and her husband always had friends round on Boxing Day or NY Day, when she pulled out all the stops. The crackers would have graced any table. White with golden ribbons, they looked classy, and the items inside were so much nicer than the usual trinkets. Twice as expensive for half as many, it seemed the sort of thing many would like but would never justify buying. However, my sister decided that since nobody would give anyone crackers, they had to be intended just as packaging, so she proceeded to pull them all one after the other, and ended up with a pile of trinkets, albeit superior trinkets.

That's my best flop, but a close second is giving a friend a metal water bottle because she carried water in an old plastic lemonade bottle. So she now uses the bottle at home when the rest of us use glasses and carries on with her ancient plastic bottles outside.

I don't think it was the presents that were the issue!

perenniallymessy · 03/12/2025 15:12

AllJoyAndNoFun · 03/12/2025 15:05

When my son was about 18 months old he was obsessed with motorbikes so I bought him a ride on motorbike that you sat on and pushed along with your feet and I was so excited to see him open it ….. except he wasn’t quite tall enough for his feet to reach the ground so he couldn’t move it and he had an almighty meltdown for about an hour.

Also when he was 14 I got him some artisanal beef jerky for his stocking but I didn’t read the wrapper properly and it turned out to be for dogs. Fortunately he realised before he ate it.

I'm wondering if your son grew up to be the husband that ate the bird fat ball thinking it was an artisanal snack (post on here quite a while ago).

Calliopespa · 03/12/2025 15:14

AllJoyAndNoFun · 03/12/2025 15:05

When my son was about 18 months old he was obsessed with motorbikes so I bought him a ride on motorbike that you sat on and pushed along with your feet and I was so excited to see him open it ….. except he wasn’t quite tall enough for his feet to reach the ground so he couldn’t move it and he had an almighty meltdown for about an hour.

Also when he was 14 I got him some artisanal beef jerky for his stocking but I didn’t read the wrapper properly and it turned out to be for dogs. Fortunately he realised before he ate it.

it turned out to be for dogs.
😂

Gall10 · 03/12/2025 15:14

Moltenpink · 03/12/2025 13:50

I cringe at this, but I tried to give my very elderly grandad copies of my wedding photos as a gift (of his side of the family), thinking he might like to show people in his care home. He clearly disagreed and forced me to take them back home with me 😂

No one is remotely interested in other people’s wedding photos….not even grandads! Sorry!

Dullday · 03/12/2025 15:14

pottylolly · 03/12/2025 14:22

Lol I bought a set of 6 gin crackers for my sister and she proceeded to drink all of them on the spot. I think that was the worst Christmas as she passed out and lost bowel control in the downstairs loo & I had to clean everything up.

This actually made me laugh out loud😂

Idontpostmuch · 03/12/2025 15:15

NimbleDreamer · 03/12/2025 14:43

Me too.

I was like "a box of luxury crackers would be nice actually" but then I realised they were Christmas crackers and then thought "oh fuck no" 😅

Tbf the water bottle present was a good idea though.

@NimbleDreamer I don't think my friend thought the water bottle a good idea. She seemed bemused, as am I, since why would you use a water bottle at home? Wasn't a brilliant idea on my part, but what can you give someone who can't eat chocolate or wheat (so posh crackers are out 😄), who doesn't see the point in bath products, using only imperial leather bar soap, who wears the same gloves all the time, and has 2 bags filled with gloves given over the yrs, who doesn't like ornaments, who likes books but can only find time to read book club books, who likes films, but has 2 shelves of gifted dvds, all unwatched, and who doesn't like jewellery. Just wrapped up fudge for her, and yes, it's a rogue gift.

OP posts:
RamsaySnowsSausage · 03/12/2025 15:16

NoKnit · 03/12/2025 14:25

Not quite giving but receiving. A gift I received was what I thought was homemade bath salts so I used them in the bath. I later discovered they were actually a spice mix for steaks/pork chops etc. I felt like a bit of a wally when I found out.

You marinated yourself 😂

EarringsandLipstick · 03/12/2025 15:17

Pallisers · 03/12/2025 15:01

I bought an electric razor for DH's stocking one year. Turns out it was a special electric razor for trimming your pubes.

Oh god, fantastic!

Idontpostmuch · 03/12/2025 15:17

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 03/12/2025 15:10

I once spent quite a bit of money on a meat hamper for my parents and they asked what they were supposed to do with it.

I also got my parents Christmas cushions with embroidered messages in the handwriting of both their mums that I had got from old Christmas cards and they were non-plussed.

They both seem good ideas.

OP posts:
EarringsandLipstick · 03/12/2025 15:20

I also got my parents Christmas cushions with embroidered messages in the handwriting of both their mums that I had got from old Christmas cards and they were non-plussed.

That's a wonderful gift, so thoughtful. I can't imagine why they didn't love it, I would adore it. Really good idea.

InterestedDad37 · 03/12/2025 15:22

Bought my dad a cossack hat.
Only the younger me knows why. I genuinely thought he'd love it, and I could picture him wearing it. He hated it 😂 and it gradually retreated towards the back of the understairs cupboard.
I rescued it some time later, and wore it to punk gigs for quite a while 🎶

KittyFinlay · 03/12/2025 15:22

Oh and my Mum talks a lot about how important cards are and how terrible we are if we ever forget to send one or it arrives late. One year, my husband spent 2 months cross stitching a beautiful Christmas card, assuming she'd keep it after Christmas. She binned it with all the other cards on Boxing Day.

sprigatito · 03/12/2025 15:22

I gave my then 12yo autistic DS a pair of Doc Martens. He was just entering a grungy phase and I thought he’d love them. He looked deeply confused, looked up at me and said “Why have you bought me lesbian shoes?”

tryingtobesogood · 03/12/2025 15:23

sprigatito · 03/12/2025 15:22

I gave my then 12yo autistic DS a pair of Doc Martens. He was just entering a grungy phase and I thought he’d love them. He looked deeply confused, looked up at me and said “Why have you bought me lesbian shoes?”

oh that is the best one yet. Not lesbians, women in comfortable shoes

Isayitasitis · 03/12/2025 15:24

Aroundthebend · 03/12/2025 14:58

I bought my exH a colonic irrigation voucher for Christmas. When I went to the salon that did them, I asked for a voucher to wrap up and they said they didn’t do vouchers as they had never known them to be bought as a gift!
On Christmas Day I suggested we opened our presents before our parents arrived…he insisted we all opened our presents together… he wasn’t impressed when he did open his as he then had to explain what was involved to his parents!

Edited

Did you buy him that because you didn't like him or did he express wanting one?

NecklessMumster · 03/12/2025 15:25

I once got given sequined nipple pasties for my work secret santa....from a female colleague/ friend 😶
Worst one I've given was a cute tiny pottery fish vase from an independent art gallery in Cornwall. It was labeled as a toothbrush holder but I thought my friend wouldn't know that so I bought a glittery toothbrush to put in so she'd know what it was supposed to be. She then stopped talking to me for a while as it turned out she'd thought I was hinting that she'd got bad breath, which I guess I should have seen coming. After a lot of apologising she forgave me 🙂

WallaceinAnderland · 03/12/2025 15:27

Years ago when I was about 7 I bought a hairnet for my nan for 3p and a tin of dog food for her dog for 6p 😂

ConnieHeart · 03/12/2025 15:27

I'm still a bit confused as to why she pulled the crackers, OP. Is it because she didn't want to share them?

Grammarnut · 03/12/2025 15:28

Just remember that late DH (who had a weird and wicked sense of what to give people - I will never forget the bag of clowns he gave GGS one Christmas, it did not go well) gave DiL a pink belly dance outfit one New Year. Not a good choice (and I banned him from buying presents thereafter).

Isayitasitis · 03/12/2025 15:29

sprigatito · 03/12/2025 15:22

I gave my then 12yo autistic DS a pair of Doc Martens. He was just entering a grungy phase and I thought he’d love them. He looked deeply confused, looked up at me and said “Why have you bought me lesbian shoes?”

Lesbian shoess.... I'm dead! 💀💀💀💀

ErrolTheDragon · 03/12/2025 15:29

EarringsandLipstick · 03/12/2025 15:20

I also got my parents Christmas cushions with embroidered messages in the handwriting of both their mums that I had got from old Christmas cards and they were non-plussed.

That's a wonderful gift, so thoughtful. I can't imagine why they didn't love it, I would adore it. Really good idea.

I’d have been extremely nonplussed by it too. Christmas cushions? Signed by grandparents? Why?Confused

DH was on the receiving end of a misunderstood present request as a boy in about 1970. He asked his parents for a recorder, meaning a tape recorder…

OnlyHasEyesForLoki · 03/12/2025 15:29

Not given but received from my vicious ex mother in law. She constantly commented on my weight and bought me a size 24 pair of horrible pyjamas. I was a size 14 and am tall so hardly huge! She gave them to me and said “Only, I hope you’ll be a size 10 next year!” 😲

butterfliesandrainbows2022 · 03/12/2025 15:30

I think i'll end up in here next year, As part of my gifts are the plastic can openers the ring pull ones( I love mine as my thumb was hurting opening pop ) and bag resealers. I do have more normal gifts to go with them. And in my defense I know they'll end up being used alot

Calliopespa · 03/12/2025 15:31

KittyFinlay · 03/12/2025 15:22

Oh and my Mum talks a lot about how important cards are and how terrible we are if we ever forget to send one or it arrives late. One year, my husband spent 2 months cross stitching a beautiful Christmas card, assuming she'd keep it after Christmas. She binned it with all the other cards on Boxing Day.

😱I audibly gasped on reading that!

Swipe left for the next trending thread