DD and Friend hurt me yet I’m in the wrong?

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DD had a friend over for a sleepover last night, they are 12. During the course of the night one or both of them wrote a “horror” message on the bathroom mirror which was a shock when I went in and saw it. I went in to speak to them both and DD screamed that I was embarrassing for crying. The friend looked shocked like she’d never seen an adult show emotion before and said they had done it to her mum too who had found it funny. She did apologise but added “it’s only lipstick, it wipes off easy”. DD then stormed out and told DH that I was embarrassing her and DH has taken their side saying it was a harmless prank and I need to lighten up.
Feeling so upset today. I thought DH would at least back me up.

Your poor daughter must have been mortified.

Terror ?????????

That's as OTT a reaction as OPs

I can’t understand why you would have felt terror? Did you think a monster had done it?
I’m starting to think this is a wind up.

You cried at REDRUM but didn’t know the context because you’ve never watched The Shining? I smell bullshit. But if it isn’t then your kid is going to have the pissed ripped out of her.

I'd be annoyed with 'all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy' as that would take a metric fuckton of lipstick. And then ignore it.

Redrum, meh. I'd laugh and ignore it. And not embarrass my child.

Are you quite a nervous person generally?

Well, unless you catch sight of yourself with a bad hangover. Then it’s a completely natural reaction.

Terror? Where did you think it came from before you realised it was a kid?

But why did you cry?

OP has very strong feelings about the horse racing industry.

Do you think murderers generally write "Murder" on mirrors to give you a bit of advanced notice?

Is there a reason your reaction was so OTT?

I think you're just bored on a Saturday afternoon and playing a prank on us...
Oh how we laughed......

Oh, get a bloody grip of yourself.

I think regardless of whether or not different people think you were overreacting, if they pull a prank that upsets rather than amuses someone, they should apologise.

I smell the shit of the bulls.

I don’t get it. You didn’t know the context so how was it scary?
And my first thought would have been the kids not some psycho lurking in the bathroom.

There's no way this is true. No one is this ridiculous.

I suspect an incoming post claiming to be a massive empath. I have no truck with such silliness.

Oh your poor DD, she must have been so embarrassed! Do you over react like this a lot OP?

You shouldn't have had such an extreme reaction. Obviously it was meant to cause some kind of reaction but not you bursting into tears.

What would you do if something genuinely life threateningly serious happened?

It would have to be a big mirror to write that with lipstick. Or they used one of those really narrow ones, and at the price some of those are, that would be pretty horrific, I suppose.

You cried? In front of them? You actually went into the room and cried at a couple of 12 year olds because of a lipstick message on a mirror prank?

You really need to get a grip, how mortifying for your daughter.

The title of this thread is that DD and friend hurt you. How did they hurt you? Do you mean they hurt your feelings?!

So you knew it was them when you confronted them...you knew there was no danger.

I genuinely don't understand your reaction in challenging them there and then other than either attention seeking or anger at your daughter and wanting to embarrass her, which worked and was uncalled for.