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To feel the Disenfranchised have been Scapegoated.

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Gilead · 26/11/2025 17:28

Just fed up with a society that has become so incredibly selfish. The vilification of disabled people and the drubbing of benefit claimants whilst managing to forget that most of the people on universal credit are working families. Forgetting that most pensioners have worked and saved all their lives, some still paying tax. And let’s not forget those lazy bastards who are putting on an act in order to get a ‘free’ car.
I predicted this was the way we were headed on mumsnet in 2010. Got called all sorts of names, but, at that point in time people were a lot more understanding of the issues encountered by the disenfranchised.
If you want to come on here and tell me you don’t want to pay extra for someone else to have kids you can’t afford, research it first, look at the (myriad) reasons for this, the figures, the number of women who had extra children during the period. Then think how it would be if you suddenly became disabled, or more severely disabled.
Im off with my carer in a bit. In my Citroen C3 that actually cost me a wee bit more because I had to pay for the wheelchair hoist as well as the (approx) 350 quid every four weeks to cover the lease, and the insurance.

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notallwhowanderare · 29/11/2025 01:19

Celestialmoods · 26/11/2025 17:36

I don’t think people have become more selfish. It’s not selfish to want a decent standard of living for your own family before paying for others to have more. People can’t afford to be generous, unless they’re doing it with other people’s money. It’s very easy to claim that you are a selfless and generous person who would never begrudge others taking what you have earned when you are in the position of receiving free money from the state.

First reply nails it.

Kirbert2 · 29/11/2025 01:19

Slightyamusedandsilly · 29/11/2025 01:16

The relative that I have that has recently applied was told to keep receipts in case of auditing.

Told by who?

I get DLA for my son and no one has ever said that to me.

Slightyamusedandsilly · 29/11/2025 01:33

Kirbert2 · 29/11/2025 01:19

Told by who?

I get DLA for my son and no one has ever said that to me.

By the DLA department when she spoke to them. I have no idea who.

Mum of a child in possession of DLA at school also said she kept receipts just in case.

Tigergirl80 · 29/11/2025 03:30

kornwall · 26/11/2025 21:55

No they are not traumatic to fill in, lengthy, confusing, frustrating all words that could be used but not traumatic. Your last sentence is interesting as you state you can barely do something, which suggests that you are basically incapable of doing it. However you then go on to say you can in fact do that exact thing if you need to. I think people are fed up of people saying they are unable to do something when the actual situation is that they can do it albeit they find it very difficult. There appears to be a sector of society who now believe that they and their children should never have to experience any level of discomfort or challenge, and it is the responsibility of the government and rest of society to ensure they don't.

It depends on the circumstances. I have friends who say filling them in for their child who is disabled because of mistakes made during their birth and are living with the consequences of the brain damage. They don’t know how long their child will live for that’s traumatic. They hate having to go over it again with each new Dr they see.

With my uson a contributing factor is an undetected placental abruption we both could have died.

Gilead · 29/11/2025 07:22

Slightyamusedandsilly · 29/11/2025 01:16

The relative that I have that has recently applied was told to keep receipts in case of auditing.

That maybe because they have other benefits too,but PiP is not an out of work benefit.

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Kirbert2 · 29/11/2025 08:08

Slightyamusedandsilly · 29/11/2025 01:33

By the DLA department when she spoke to them. I have no idea who.

Mum of a child in possession of DLA at school also said she kept receipts just in case.

I don't keep any receipts. I won't unless it becomes a requirement.

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