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To feel the Disenfranchised have been Scapegoated.

181 replies

Gilead · 26/11/2025 17:28

Just fed up with a society that has become so incredibly selfish. The vilification of disabled people and the drubbing of benefit claimants whilst managing to forget that most of the people on universal credit are working families. Forgetting that most pensioners have worked and saved all their lives, some still paying tax. And let’s not forget those lazy bastards who are putting on an act in order to get a ‘free’ car.
I predicted this was the way we were headed on mumsnet in 2010. Got called all sorts of names, but, at that point in time people were a lot more understanding of the issues encountered by the disenfranchised.
If you want to come on here and tell me you don’t want to pay extra for someone else to have kids you can’t afford, research it first, look at the (myriad) reasons for this, the figures, the number of women who had extra children during the period. Then think how it would be if you suddenly became disabled, or more severely disabled.
Im off with my carer in a bit. In my Citroen C3 that actually cost me a wee bit more because I had to pay for the wheelchair hoist as well as the (approx) 350 quid every four weeks to cover the lease, and the insurance.

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thewintergarden · 26/11/2025 21:14

edwinbear · 26/11/2025 21:12

But this is the issue isn’t it. They are working 16 hours a week safe in the knowledge the tax payer will pay ‘something towards their rent’. If they worked a few more hours they could pay their own rent.

Quite.
She's been offered a promotion and turned it down. She's been offered full time hours and turned them down

frogalo · 26/11/2025 21:14

I agree with you OP, it was ever thus. Its all a big distraction though, blame the migrants, blame the poor, blame the sick and disabled, blame the old or the young. They want people pointing the finger anywhere but at the real culprits and a surprising amount of people fall for it hook, line and sinker.

hamstersarse · 26/11/2025 21:16

frogalo · 26/11/2025 21:14

I agree with you OP, it was ever thus. Its all a big distraction though, blame the migrants, blame the poor, blame the sick and disabled, blame the old or the young. They want people pointing the finger anywhere but at the real culprits and a surprising amount of people fall for it hook, line and sinker.

So why is the welfare bill so high in your view if it’s not immigrants or people swinging the lead?

hazelnutvanillalatte · 26/11/2025 21:16

thatsalad · 26/11/2025 19:48

You're right about the other two, but I promise you someone who works 16h isn't living the high life on universal credit, UC tops up your earnings up to minimum wage and that's about it.

That doesn't count all the schemes and things you don't have to pay for though. Council tax, prescriptions, winter hardship fund, dental, housing element, after school and holiday clubs, holiday food vouchers. That's thousands in savings. There's even a savings account called right to save that doubles your payment.

KitTea3 · 26/11/2025 21:17

Ahhh

Fucking Reach Media

They own all of the "local" papers and I keep seeing out the same bullshit rage CLICKBAIT anti benefits rhetoric.

You'll notice they all post the exact same shit that usually isn't in anyway actual "news" and just is regurgitation of bullshit meant to divide everyone and drum up social media engagement from people frothing at the mouth at people getting so called "pip perks" 🤦🏼‍♀️

Hoardasurass · 26/11/2025 21:18

thewintergarden · 26/11/2025 21:12

I've seen their bank statements. They earn £2k a month and get £1.5k in UC. It's not a lie. I wouldn't have believed it if I hadn't seen it.

Then they are committing benefit fraud as its not possible to earn £2000 per month and get £1500 per month in UC if you don't believe me put those wages into the benefit calculator plus 2 dc and the award will be 0 not £1500 per month
Edited to add that the £2000 per month wages would be after tax so their actual before tax income would be more

thewintergarden · 26/11/2025 21:21

Hoardasurass · 26/11/2025 21:18

Then they are committing benefit fraud as its not possible to earn £2000 per month and get £1500 per month in UC if you don't believe me put those wages into the benefit calculator plus 2 dc and the award will be 0 not £1500 per month
Edited to add that the £2000 per month wages would be after tax so their actual before tax income would be more

Edited

I put their wages into entitled to and it said they would get £1500 per month. They have 3 DC .

We do live in an area with expensive housing though (albeit hers is a lot cheaper than mine)

Hoardasurass · 26/11/2025 21:25

thewintergarden · 26/11/2025 21:21

I put their wages into entitled to and it said they would get £1500 per month. They have 3 DC .

We do live in an area with expensive housing though (albeit hers is a lot cheaper than mine)

They will only get benefits for 2 dc right now so your sums are wrong and remember to put the before tax earnings in

thewintergarden · 26/11/2025 21:25

Quote from another thread for those who don't want to believe how much people can get

*This is lifted from the Guardian today looking at whether hypothetically people stand to lose or gain in today’s budget: ‘The Smith family have three children and live in a rented flat in the Midlands. Jack works 35 hours a week in a distribution centre and is paid the NLW. His partner Mia isn’t working. After tax and NI his take-home pay is £1,627 a month. This is topped up with a monthly universal credit and child benefit payment totalling £1,457.
Under the two-child cap parents could only claim universal credit or tax credits for their first two children. The decision to abolish this rule , and the uprating of benefits, mean the family should be able to claim £304 a month for their third child. They will also benefit from the 2026 uplift in the NLW.’ I read this to mean that this hypothetical family are now going to get more in UC than if the mum were working full time at the minimum wage. How on earth is that incentivising work? Their combined income with his salary and their new monthly UC amount will be £3381 (including the uplift for their 3rd child) It would take one salary of £52k to get that after tax. *

thewintergarden · 26/11/2025 21:26

Hoardasurass · 26/11/2025 21:25

They will only get benefits for 2 dc right now so your sums are wrong and remember to put the before tax earnings in

No because all 3 children are pre benefit cap age

And it's the net salary we each get that is relevant as that is what we actually get to live off

Lostthetastefordahlias · 26/11/2025 21:27

Gilead · 26/11/2025 19:12

@crossedlines how do you decide who has a mental illness and who doesn’t? How do you know whether or not someone is capable of work or not?

This is the issue in a nutshell isn’t it? These conditions are too easy to fake

edwinbear · 26/11/2025 21:27

frogalo · 26/11/2025 21:14

I agree with you OP, it was ever thus. Its all a big distraction though, blame the migrants, blame the poor, blame the sick and disabled, blame the old or the young. They want people pointing the finger anywhere but at the real culprits and a surprising amount of people fall for it hook, line and sinker.

Who are the ‘culprits’ then? Me? I earn a lot, I also get up at 6am every morning, work 7.30am-7.30pm in the office 5 days a week, whilst my kids get themselves up and to/from school. £70k of my annual salary goes to HMRC, I don’t use state schools and now pay £10k pa VAT on school fees. I have no personal tax allowance, no personal savings allowance, HMRC are going to be taking 47% tax on the interest I earn on my savings - money I have left over after I’ve paid 62% tax on part of my salary. Am I really the problem here? Am I the drain on society?

Tigergirl80 · 26/11/2025 21:28

KitTea3 · 26/11/2025 21:17

Ahhh

Fucking Reach Media

They own all of the "local" papers and I keep seeing out the same bullshit rage CLICKBAIT anti benefits rhetoric.

You'll notice they all post the exact same shit that usually isn't in anyway actual "news" and just is regurgitation of bullshit meant to divide everyone and drum up social media engagement from people frothing at the mouth at people getting so called "pip perks" 🤦🏼‍♀️

Exactly this but most who comment on them don’t even bother reading the article anyway just the headlines.

thewintergarden · 26/11/2025 21:29

frogalo · 26/11/2025 21:14

I agree with you OP, it was ever thus. Its all a big distraction though, blame the migrants, blame the poor, blame the sick and disabled, blame the old or the young. They want people pointing the finger anywhere but at the real culprits and a surprising amount of people fall for it hook, line and sinker.

I'm disabled and I work and don't get any benefits. So please don't use disabled as shorthand for claiming benefits

frogalo · 26/11/2025 21:32

hamstersarse · 26/11/2025 21:16

So why is the welfare bill so high in your view if it’s not immigrants or people swinging the lead?

Is it high? We spend less on welfare as a proportion of GDP than many other European countries, we spend less than most others relative to wages making our system one of the least generous in Europe and overall social protection spending is low. We do spend quite a lot on housing benefits which is hardly surprising and who do you think is the ultimate beneficiary of that public spending?

SpoonBaloon · 26/11/2025 21:37

Hoardasurass · 26/11/2025 20:28

There was a woman in the question time audience recently who claimed that she gets PIP for anxiety bad enough to prevent her from working but had no problem going on tv and asking questions of politicians and robustly defending herself. I and many others who've struggled with anxiety all our lives see people like her as piss takers, if she can go on tv and debate politicians she can get a job, which btw would help her anxiety.
I know that this is just 1 example but its 1 of many and it's examples like this thats used to disparage everyone on disability benefits.
Yes certain MH conditions and severe asd mean some people cant work but far too many who could work wont even try because it would mean doing a low skilled job or 1 that they deem beneath them. I worked for decades in the hospitality industry and I've seen the entitlement and lack of work ethic grow amongst our younger generations exponentially since the Blair/Brown government's push for university education for all. We no longer teach real life skills or anything of any use anymore other than how to pass tests.
People throw about self diagnosis and shop for a dr who will agree with them instead of listening to the multiple professionals who tell them that they're normal and just going through normal life struggles (yes i know quite a few young people like this) and then theres the parents who decide that their perfectly normal child is asd because they've hit the terrible twos or tiresome 3s, there's posts on here all the time by these parents. Something needs to change in society to fix this and if that means stricter rules around what classes as a disability or how severely someone needs to be impacted to get benefits then so be it. I also believe that we need to split asd diagnoses again to differentiate between my asbergers friends, myself moderate to high functioning asd and my ds whos low functioning (yes I know outdated terminology but its more accurate than a one size fits all label)

You are being too kind. The woman you are talking about claimed she deserves the PIP because the process of filling out the form to claim it is traumatic.

To use such strong language to describe typing in your name and address into an online form just goes to show how much people are taking the piss. And it’s taking money away from people who genuinely need it.

I would love for more money to go to improve the lives of the disabled. I know people who have professional roles despite having hugely limiting physical disabilities due to conditions they were born with.

Instead - as seen on QT - this money is being siphoned off to sedentary twenty-something women with facial piercings and badly dyed hair who “really want to work”.

Which is ironic, because I really particularly want to work at all, but still manage to work full time in a stressful, underpaid role.

frogalo · 26/11/2025 21:39

thewintergarden · 26/11/2025 21:29

I'm disabled and I work and don't get any benefits. So please don't use disabled as shorthand for claiming benefits

I'm quite reasonable to point out that the disabled people who do rely on benefits are used as in the national press and by some in government as a way to misdirect peoples frustrations. I never said every disabled person claims benefits and it isn't some kind of covert insult. I know a consultant doctor who claims PIP because he is a wheelchair user as he is entitled to. Whether you chose to claim is neither here nor there the point stands.

Gilead · 26/11/2025 21:48

@SpoonBaloon Pip forms are not available on line. And they are bloody traumatic to fill in.

@Hoardasurass you have no idea what it took for that woman to speak out on Question Time. Your assumptions are just as bad as staff telling me in hospital that I don’t seem autistic.
I can barely have a conversation with people outside my circle, but if I need to I can talk to pharmacies and hospitals about diagnosing and prescribing for autistic people.

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edwinbear · 26/11/2025 21:51

SpoonBaloon · 26/11/2025 21:37

You are being too kind. The woman you are talking about claimed she deserves the PIP because the process of filling out the form to claim it is traumatic.

To use such strong language to describe typing in your name and address into an online form just goes to show how much people are taking the piss. And it’s taking money away from people who genuinely need it.

I would love for more money to go to improve the lives of the disabled. I know people who have professional roles despite having hugely limiting physical disabilities due to conditions they were born with.

Instead - as seen on QT - this money is being siphoned off to sedentary twenty-something women with facial piercings and badly dyed hair who “really want to work”.

Which is ironic, because I really particularly want to work at all, but still manage to work full time in a stressful, underpaid role.

I used to work with a blind, Paralympian gold medalist. He did an absolutely outstanding job, was incredibly talented and was quite rightly, very well paid for it. He’ll be furious about handing over more of his income to a welfare society.

kornwall · 26/11/2025 21:55

Gilead · 26/11/2025 21:48

@SpoonBaloon Pip forms are not available on line. And they are bloody traumatic to fill in.

@Hoardasurass you have no idea what it took for that woman to speak out on Question Time. Your assumptions are just as bad as staff telling me in hospital that I don’t seem autistic.
I can barely have a conversation with people outside my circle, but if I need to I can talk to pharmacies and hospitals about diagnosing and prescribing for autistic people.

No they are not traumatic to fill in, lengthy, confusing, frustrating all words that could be used but not traumatic. Your last sentence is interesting as you state you can barely do something, which suggests that you are basically incapable of doing it. However you then go on to say you can in fact do that exact thing if you need to. I think people are fed up of people saying they are unable to do something when the actual situation is that they can do it albeit they find it very difficult. There appears to be a sector of society who now believe that they and their children should never have to experience any level of discomfort or challenge, and it is the responsibility of the government and rest of society to ensure they don't.

edwinbear · 26/11/2025 22:06

@kornwall quite. DH has absolutely crippling social anxiety. I remember him breaking down in the car once and calling me at home, to ask me to call the AA on his behalf to collect him as he just couldn’t bear to call them himself. He couldn’t call a pizza delivery firm, much less answer the door to them.

Having been made redundant, being out of work for 2 years and it getting to the point where we were going to struggle to pay the mortgage, he realised he needed to get any job he could. He got one in a pub, aged 54. Just about the worst job he could imagine when he couldn’t look at people in the eye, let alone speak to them. But needs must. So that’s what he did. Unsurprisingly, he’s much better at talking to people now. And since managed to get back into his career job. He didn’t much enjoy the first few months, but wasn’t ’traumatised’ by it. And didn’t get any benefits.

Anyahyacinth · 26/11/2025 22:08

Kleeneze · 26/11/2025 20:48

I think everyone who watched that question time thought that woman ought to have been working. It was pretty outrageous. But that’s how brazen people have become. It’s like an article the BBC posted a while back about PIP. One of the recipients admitted that she got cash that was supposed to go towards therapy and she just spent it on bills. She didn’t even have the intelligence to PRETEND she was putting the money to the right use. It’s like she didn’t even think she was supposed to spend it on getting better. Just so brazen. And galling.

This is your misunderstanding PIP does not have a requirement to be spent on a specific thing…it is for the additional costs of disability…your error

Anyahyacinth · 26/11/2025 22:11

edwinbear · 26/11/2025 21:27

Who are the ‘culprits’ then? Me? I earn a lot, I also get up at 6am every morning, work 7.30am-7.30pm in the office 5 days a week, whilst my kids get themselves up and to/from school. £70k of my annual salary goes to HMRC, I don’t use state schools and now pay £10k pa VAT on school fees. I have no personal tax allowance, no personal savings allowance, HMRC are going to be taking 47% tax on the interest I earn on my savings - money I have left over after I’ve paid 62% tax on part of my salary. Am I really the problem here? Am I the drain on society?

Do you use the roads, healthcare or just float separate in every way from society ? 🤦‍♀️

kornwall · 26/11/2025 22:12

Anyahyacinth · 26/11/2025 22:11

Do you use the roads, healthcare or just float separate in every way from society ? 🤦‍♀️

Are you a bit simple? It is clear the pp pays a high level of tax, why should she not use services.

888casino · 26/11/2025 22:16

I don’t agree with scapegoating disabled people but Scraping the two child limit is a joke. I’m not perfect got pregnant at 15 fave birth at 16 but 4+ kids and expecting other peoples taxes to pay is surely taking the piss? I think two kids was a reasonable cap at a push they could have raised it to 3. Shit happens but how did you not learn your lesson the third time
I mean seriously? Raising taxes for THIS?? I doubt many people will vote labour again