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To feel the Disenfranchised have been Scapegoated.

181 replies

Gilead · 26/11/2025 17:28

Just fed up with a society that has become so incredibly selfish. The vilification of disabled people and the drubbing of benefit claimants whilst managing to forget that most of the people on universal credit are working families. Forgetting that most pensioners have worked and saved all their lives, some still paying tax. And let’s not forget those lazy bastards who are putting on an act in order to get a ‘free’ car.
I predicted this was the way we were headed on mumsnet in 2010. Got called all sorts of names, but, at that point in time people were a lot more understanding of the issues encountered by the disenfranchised.
If you want to come on here and tell me you don’t want to pay extra for someone else to have kids you can’t afford, research it first, look at the (myriad) reasons for this, the figures, the number of women who had extra children during the period. Then think how it would be if you suddenly became disabled, or more severely disabled.
Im off with my carer in a bit. In my Citroen C3 that actually cost me a wee bit more because I had to pay for the wheelchair hoist as well as the (approx) 350 quid every four weeks to cover the lease, and the insurance.

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localbutterfly · 27/11/2025 02:50

I predicted this was the way we were headed on mumsnet in 2010. In 2010, the Conservatives had just taken over government in the UK under David Cameron. Conservatives held the office of PM and ran the government until July 2024, when Labour came in with Keir Starmer as PM. And yet, you blame Labour for the current state of affairs? How?

HelenaWaiting · 27/11/2025 02:52

MrsMurphyIWish · 26/11/2025 19:47

My son is in receipt of DLA, he has an EHCP. DH and I are teachers and we live in a deprived area - we do see see people abusing the system and it 1. angers us as we work full time and can’t devote the time to DS that he needs and 2. We are worried because he will need a welfare state in the future that I don’t think will be there.

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How can you possibly know whether or not the people you "see" are abusing the system?

UserFront242 · 27/11/2025 02:56

Hoardasurass · 26/11/2025 20:28

There was a woman in the question time audience recently who claimed that she gets PIP for anxiety bad enough to prevent her from working but had no problem going on tv and asking questions of politicians and robustly defending herself. I and many others who've struggled with anxiety all our lives see people like her as piss takers, if she can go on tv and debate politicians she can get a job, which btw would help her anxiety.
I know that this is just 1 example but its 1 of many and it's examples like this thats used to disparage everyone on disability benefits.
Yes certain MH conditions and severe asd mean some people cant work but far too many who could work wont even try because it would mean doing a low skilled job or 1 that they deem beneath them. I worked for decades in the hospitality industry and I've seen the entitlement and lack of work ethic grow amongst our younger generations exponentially since the Blair/Brown government's push for university education for all. We no longer teach real life skills or anything of any use anymore other than how to pass tests.
People throw about self diagnosis and shop for a dr who will agree with them instead of listening to the multiple professionals who tell them that they're normal and just going through normal life struggles (yes i know quite a few young people like this) and then theres the parents who decide that their perfectly normal child is asd because they've hit the terrible twos or tiresome 3s, there's posts on here all the time by these parents. Something needs to change in society to fix this and if that means stricter rules around what classes as a disability or how severely someone needs to be impacted to get benefits then so be it. I also believe that we need to split asd diagnoses again to differentiate between my asbergers friends, myself moderate to high functioning asd and my ds whos low functioning (yes I know outdated terminology but its more accurate than a one size fits all label)

I saw that too. She did not "robustly defend herself". She said her piece and that was it.
She also said she had applied for PIP, was not claiming it, and said she was looking for work.
I have seen many people reference this tiny snippet from question time over and over, and they all embellish it to make her look awful.

Trumpisacunt · 27/11/2025 03:06

Kleeneze · 26/11/2025 20:48

I think everyone who watched that question time thought that woman ought to have been working. It was pretty outrageous. But that’s how brazen people have become. It’s like an article the BBC posted a while back about PIP. One of the recipients admitted that she got cash that was supposed to go towards therapy and she just spent it on bills. She didn’t even have the intelligence to PRETEND she was putting the money to the right use. It’s like she didn’t even think she was supposed to spend it on getting better. Just so brazen. And galling.

Pip payments can be spent on anything so I'm not sure why its supposed to be spent on 'therapy' .Just another typical comment from someone who doesnt achieve a clue how the system works and decides to believe the propaganda.

labamba18 · 27/11/2025 03:13

25% of working aged people are on benefits. 1 in 4. It’s not sustainable. I am more than happy for my tax to go towards supporting parents of disabled children, or disabled/chronically ill people that cannot work. But is that all 11 million in the uk?

UserFront242 · 27/11/2025 03:14

The lady with anxiety on question time... this was actually what she said.

"Erm, as someone who’s applied for PIP and knows how traumatic it can be to go through it, I can guarantee you that nobody is applying just for the money. They are applying because they need it and because they have a problem. Like, I have worked before. I’m struggling at the moment to find a job anyway, but it makes it worse being anxious and I think people need to have a bit more compassion. It is so traumatic going through all this assessment and you wouldn't actually do it unless you had a need"

She is getting brought up a lot on here, and people seem to think she was sat laughing in the audience and bragging about benefits. The above is all she said.

UserFront242 · 27/11/2025 03:18

labamba18 · 27/11/2025 03:13

25% of working aged people are on benefits. 1 in 4. It’s not sustainable. I am more than happy for my tax to go towards supporting parents of disabled children, or disabled/chronically ill people that cannot work. But is that all 11 million in the uk?

No, a lot is people who do work but get a top up anyway because they have high rent costs.

MyTrivia · 27/11/2025 03:21

JHound · 26/11/2025 18:57

It’s not selfish to want a decent standard living.

But it is selfish to be angry at disabled people for your problems when you voted for the Tories for 14 years and voted for Brexit.

Why do most people not realise that we are in this position due to Brexit? The other reason is Covid and furlough payments which were beyond anyone’s control. BTW, you’re a hypocrite if you received furlough payments and are now moaning about others receiving ‘free money from the government’. Let me guess, you’re ‘worth’ more? We know how that train of thought ends up…

Today, I heard a political commentator say that the UK would be 30% richer, had we not left the EU.

MyTrivia · 27/11/2025 03:25

Friendlygingercat · 27/11/2025 01:52

If people cannot do salary sacrifice then they are going to change their behaviour. One method is reduce their hours and therefore the amount that goes tinto tax. They will look at how many hours they need to work in order to meet their financial obligations. In many cases swapping from 5 to 4 days a week will leave them little worse off because they will pay less tax. Ive seen the calculations done here on MN. They can then spend more time with their family rather than work for the tax man. Or use the extra time to find some cash in hand work.

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Not everyone is in a position to reduce their hours at work to fiddle their taxes - some people have the sort of jobs that simply won’t allow them to suddenly work part time.

UserFront242 · 27/11/2025 03:26

Kleeneze · 26/11/2025 20:48

I think everyone who watched that question time thought that woman ought to have been working. It was pretty outrageous. But that’s how brazen people have become. It’s like an article the BBC posted a while back about PIP. One of the recipients admitted that she got cash that was supposed to go towards therapy and she just spent it on bills. She didn’t even have the intelligence to PRETEND she was putting the money to the right use. It’s like she didn’t even think she was supposed to spend it on getting better. Just so brazen. And galling.

The lady on question time said she was looking for work. You can also claim PIP and work, as it is not an out of work benefit.

When you are award PIP, you are not told what to spend it on. So the person you read about who is not spending it on therapy is doing nothing wrong. They will have never been told to spend it on therapy, so your little tale does not pass the sniff test.

Many people on PIP do end up using it for food and bills because the cost of living crisis and because UC is not enough to live on.

labamba18 · 27/11/2025 03:40

UserFront242 · 27/11/2025 03:18

No, a lot is people who do work but get a top up anyway because they have high rent costs.

Benefits bill was 36 billion in 2020.

It’s now 52 billion.

14 billion in 5 years.

And it’s predicted to be 75 billion by 2030

That is not just the case of adding people with high rent.

But whatever way you slice it, this is unsustainable. And the people who will be hurt the most are those most vulnerable who need welfare.

I don’t want to see the welfare system collapse. I have people close to me who are severely disabled who rely on that as a lifeline.

But that is where we are headed. And it’s a dangerous place to be!

HelenaWaiting · 27/11/2025 03:51

labamba18 · 27/11/2025 03:40

Benefits bill was 36 billion in 2020.

It’s now 52 billion.

14 billion in 5 years.

And it’s predicted to be 75 billion by 2030

That is not just the case of adding people with high rent.

But whatever way you slice it, this is unsustainable. And the people who will be hurt the most are those most vulnerable who need welfare.

I don’t want to see the welfare system collapse. I have people close to me who are severely disabled who rely on that as a lifeline.

But that is where we are headed. And it’s a dangerous place to be!

Those figures mean zip unless you present them as a percentage of GDP. Of course you can't do that, because it wouldn't present the picture you want it to.

labamba18 · 27/11/2025 04:32

HelenaWaiting · 27/11/2025 03:51

Those figures mean zip unless you present them as a percentage of GDP. Of course you can't do that, because it wouldn't present the picture you want it to.

Yes it’s stayed at 10% ish, however that is of a stagnating economy. GDP growth has been weak over the past decade and taking the same percentage is harder to fund.

On top of that, welfare costs are being driven by factors that are getting worse, not better: high housing costs, low productivity, rising disability claims, and a huge increase in people out of the workforce. If those trends continue, welfare will take more of GDP in the future.

Bringemout · 27/11/2025 05:57

Sorry but stuff like removing the child benefit cap is ridiculous, no-one needs 6 kids especially if you never had a chance in hell of actually being able to support them. You can get a mobility car for fucking anxiety, it’s ridiculous!

Size18onagoodday · 27/11/2025 06:03

A slightly odd thread, OP.

Gilead · 27/11/2025 07:06

@Bringemout no of course you can’t. There are varying levels of PiP.

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HostaCentral · 27/11/2025 08:27

There are too many net takers, it's unsustainable.

BBC piece focused on a 26 year old young lady, 4 kids under 8, one with SEN, in temp accomodation. No social housing available. Single, not working. The usual questions arise, where is the father/s, why did she have so many kids at such a young age, what the hell did she expect.

KilkennyCats · 27/11/2025 09:00

Trumpisacunt · 27/11/2025 03:06

Pip payments can be spent on anything so I'm not sure why its supposed to be spent on 'therapy' .Just another typical comment from someone who doesnt achieve a clue how the system works and decides to believe the propaganda.

Why is it awarded if not to address a particular need?

LadyKenya · 27/11/2025 09:11

Bringemout · 27/11/2025 05:57

Sorry but stuff like removing the child benefit cap is ridiculous, no-one needs 6 kids especially if you never had a chance in hell of actually being able to support them. You can get a mobility car for fucking anxiety, it’s ridiculous!

🥱 Not this weaselly lie again! Educate yourself please.

Celestialmoods · 27/11/2025 09:34

@UserFront242 She also said she had applied for PIP, was not claiming it, and said she was looking for work.

How does that work? How do you apply for something without claiming it? Surely if you apply for something and go through the assessment, you are claiming it?

What would be the point of applying, waiting for the benefit to be awarded, and then turning down the money?

LadyKenya · 27/11/2025 09:37

Celestialmoods · 27/11/2025 09:34

@UserFront242 She also said she had applied for PIP, was not claiming it, and said she was looking for work.

How does that work? How do you apply for something without claiming it? Surely if you apply for something and go through the assessment, you are claiming it?

What would be the point of applying, waiting for the benefit to be awarded, and then turning down the money?

She may have tried to claim it, that does not mean that her claim was successful does it? It was not clear whether she was actually receiving any money, as she did not state that she was, implicitly.

Morningsleepin · 27/11/2025 09:54

Since yesterday I've read several verbal attacks on the elderly and several others on "breeders". Makes a change from immigrants and Muslims I suppose but the UK will never improve its lot as long as everyone is fighting each other

Nothingl3ft · 27/11/2025 10:00

thewintergarden · 26/11/2025 19:45

Then it's not you people are fed up about

It's Bill who gets motability but could buy a Beemer out right.

And Jenny who works 16 hours a week and refuses to take a promotion or do more hours because she's living the high life on universal credit.

And Mary who gets Winter Fuel Allowance even though shes got millions in the bank

I agree on the other two, and used to on 'Jenny' but having experienced it I can assure you UC does not make my PT wages up to £57k a year! (From your later post)
I was earning £28k and then fell ill, had 6 weeks off sick (getting SSP from my employer) and returned to a different job, on a lower wage, and a phased return before the sick note elapsed - so effectively PT hours while I adjusted to the new role and I've just moved up to ft hours in the new role now everyone is happy I can sustain it.
I claimed UC while off sick, and during my phased return, and have had to justify the low hours during that time, repeatedly, plus fill in a capability to work assessment - although I had a sick note and returned to work before I even got the capability to work assessment.
From this month I won't qualify for UC as I'm full time again and although on a lower wage, too much to qualify.
The UC I have received doesn't even make my income up to the £28k I was earning before - never mind £57k!
But the point is, even on more than 16 hours on my gradual return to work, I a) wasn't living the high life and b) wasn't having my earnings supplemented to anywhere near what you say your friend does - and had to explain why I wasn't working 30 hours or more and claiming, and why I wasn't seeking alternative/extra employment to take me to that level.

So if your friend is having 16 hours a week topped up to £57k then we're all doing something wrong because I wasn't even on that before I became ill and needed to claim anything!

Sartre · 27/11/2025 10:05

This has been an issue for years OP, really nothing new. People love to stomp on the poor because they’re such an easy target. Generally less educated and find it harder to defend themselves as a result. Very, very easy scapegoat.

I grew up poor. Council estate in probably the most deprived city of the UK by all indexes. Mum was a dinner lady and claimed benefits to top this up, also did things like hairdressing on the side to earn extra cash. I worked my way out of this through education. Still don’t earn a phenomenal amount but I have a PhD and I do my best. We’re not eligible for benefits, even child benefit. I don’t care about my taxes helping the disadvantaged, I would much rather this happen than it be fed into the pockets of the super wealthy as the tories did during covid.

hattie43 · 27/11/2025 10:07

We have far too many ‘ vulnerable’ in society and the time is coming when those in work cannot support those not working . No one says the genuinely disabled shouldn’t be supported but everyone else needs to play a part .

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