Nanny wearing my slippers when I'm not there

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This is a bit of a weird one - so I popped home today unexpectedly while the nanny was in my house with the kids. Everything seemed fine, but then when she was talking to me I looked down and saw that she was wearing my slippers. It made me feel sick. They're not the cleanest or newest of slippers, but I didn't know what to say. I don't know if she's been doing this the whole time or what but I feel like binning the slippers and hiding my slippers in future. I also feel like letting her go over it. It just makes me wonder what else she might do when I'm not there. She's from Brazil. Is this normal in Brazil to just wear someone else's slippers? Am I being weird to have a total icky feeling about this?

Here we go again - people focusing on completely the wrong thing! Saying it made her feel sick is probably just a turn of phrase! it is not normal to wear other people's slippers or shoes without even asking or saying something! Would you all say the same if she was walking around in the Op's stilettos - it is simply not normal!

That would completely gross me out, so I would quite nicely say to her oh goodness you shouldn't wear those they are very old and stinky! Ill get you some new ones, and buy the girl some cheap ones she can wear. And because Im a bit ocd Id probably replace my ones too!

You are obviously not hard up. Why not buy her her own slippers to wear? You can get a nice pair from Primark.

YABU because you didn’t just ask her there and then to take them off and not do it again. What is wrong with everyone on Mumsnet not being able to use their ‘big voices’ and say when they are upset about something to the person’s face and instead just rant about it in FB and let loads of strangers try and guess random reasons behind slippergate.

Communal slippers 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢

Buy yourself a new pair and give her the old ones to wear. Put your new ones away. Explain that we don't wear other people's clothes or shoes.

I would totally react the same way!..after initial shock and cringe,I would buy her a pair of slippers and give them to her( so she knew they were the designated slippers for her to wear) and buy myself new ones,but keep them out of the way.....alot of people wouldn't see a problem doing it/ someone doing it

Put your slippers in the washer, put them away so she can't find them.
Buy her a pair for Christmas and tell her to leave them at your house to wear.

I would have thought she would have a pair of her own to bring. After all, not everyone has the same size feet.
Perhaps you could say nothing, leave them out for her and get yourself a new pair and hide them under the mattress or something. 😀
Everyone has different feelings about this and you are entitled to yours.

Thank god it's not just me! 🤢🤢🤢

How bloody disgusting!

Why should other people help themselves to other people's personal items!
Where's their manners???

buy her a pair of her own, and a new pair for yourself.

She shouldn’t have to bring her own slippers to adhere to your house rules - Why not? Genuinely. This is weird to me.

Would she help herself to a jumper if she felt a bit chilly? Should the employer provide that as well?

Acknowledging cultural differences is racist 😂

Gotta love MN 😂

My DH is from another country and yes, it is 'normal' to put any old slippers on. I realise it's not 'normal' in the UK but it is 'normal' elsewhere.

So please don't have a go at her for doing something that she thinks is 'normal'. Just buy her her own slippers for your house, bin the ones she's been wearing, and buy yourself a new pair.

I take my own slippers whenever I visit my in-laws because there is nothing more gross to me than FIL kicking off his slippers and offering them to me. 😂 I also have to police my own slippers at home incase DH can't find his own and spots mine.

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I am grossed out by it 😂 But you have to admit, this thread is amazing 😂 MNers are flippin' bonkers 😂

At least she won't be leaving her pubes in said underpants.

If there aren't any communal ones, do you just help yourself to the ones belonging to the home owner? 😂

The local nursery has a shoes off inside policy. The staff are not provided with slippers. They have to buy their own.

It's mad to me that some people think this is something employers should provide. "Here's a coat in case you take the kids out" 😂 It's equally mental that people think if it's not provided, the nanny can just help herself to OP's personal belongings, and that's fine. On what planet 😂

I wouldn't sack her over it, but I would feel icky. Feet can be gross, and the wondering what else she's been helping herself to wouldn't feel so hot either.

Personally, I wouldn't like someone wearing my slippers as they might have really sweaty feet. Taking your shoes off at the end of the day and putting on a fresh pair of slippers is one of those things you look forward to. In the past though, I have thought about buying communal slippers for guests, in case they want to use them. In your nanny's situation, I'd have taken my own pair of slippers to work with me. However, it's definitely not a sackable offence, and if your nanny is good enough to look after your kids, they should be good enough to wear your slippers. Surely, you must be sharing the same toilet seat! I wouldn't have mentioned it at the time, or in the future. I'd just buy a new pair of slippers and keep them out of sight, and let guests carry on using your old pair.

Yeah, but you also thought she wasn't wearing your slippers, and look how that turned out 😂

Nanny cams are very reasonable online 🤪

It's such a bizarre thing to do, I think I'd have been lost for words as well, and that does not happen very often 😂

That’s a fucking stretch!

It's a bit weird that the nanny needs to be told not to use any of OP's personal items 🤔

Overreacting on sacking her .. just buy two new pairs make it clear who's is who's.
Unless there is anything else I could get over that.