To not really get why people don’t like clothes?

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I’m not talking about specifically liking fashion or following certain trends.

I mean in general, clothes are a personal choice. They can express who you are, there’s do much choice out there. Why people say they don’t care what they wear?

I disagree, because I dress exactly the same way on days when I'm not even leaving the house so I'm definitely not doing it for others. I don't identify with any group or follow trends but I always dress in a particular way (long, dark layers) and that doesn't change on days when I won't be going anywhere.
I don't really care what people think about my style but I wear what I like and it's always a long dress, because since the menopause I find jeans uncomfortable on my belly.
But I always dress in the same way because it pleases me to wear nice things and it would never be leggings or joggers and a sweat even if I was alone on an island. I dress for myself, not for others.

it is rare, but some people are not vain
and/or do not judge by the trappings hanging off another

Ok, but you can’t assess a uniform. Running late is a one off and doesn’t happen to everyone. If someone’s bf is buying their clothes then they are being controlled but I’ve never ever known that.

Not interested says as much as someone who is interested. Financial reasons l mentioned previously. Although you can still dress well cheaply.

But whatever, they all say something.

I honestly never realised people actually cared so much about what total strangers choose to dress themselves in.

I love this. We need to get joy where we can.

I like clothes, make up and putting together an outfit but it’s more for how it makes me feel and the happiness it brings rather than how people perceive me.

To you. Clearly, not to some other people.

Ok. So now I know clothes are a language.
Is it a universal language?

Do we all know the same language?

So if im feeling low, should I wear black to show my mood or bright clothes to make me feel more cheerful?

If im wearing black will people know im depressed ? If I wear bright clothes will they know im feeling low and trying to cheer myself up or will they wrongly assume im a cheerful upbeat person?

What clothes mean what mood or personality trait?

Im currently wearing a long grey dress with some lighter flecks in it. Its got a v neckline and a wavy trim on the sleeves and hem. Im also wearing leggings under it.

What am I telling the world about myself by choosing this outfit?

A) im cold

B) its clean and i could reach it

C) its dirty because ive been wearing it for 3 days and cant be bothered to change it because I am feeling so low

D) I am a mysterious individual who is reserved and private

E) I am practical and wise, with a secret mischievous side

F) something else, all ideas welcome and I've invented a new game. Describe what you're wearing and we'll guess what you're feeling and who you are.

I love clothes. I love thinking about what outfits to wear and what combinations I can wear. A cracking outfit really lifts my day.

But today I'm in the house all day, so I'm wearing fleece lined leggings and a hoody, which feels one step up from pjs. My ds has absolutely no interest in clothes whatsoever. We do not understand each other😄

Some people just aren't very "visual." They get no joy from the visual arts, their imaginations work in words, not pictures, and they just don't have any preferences about how they should look visually. Their brains don't work that way.

Others might have sensory issues that mean the comfort of their clothes is more important to them than anything else.

A few might have grown up with the message that it is shallow or even sinful to care about clothes, so they've trained themselves not to.

Some people who grew up so poor that they just had to wear whatever cast-offs were available might never have unlearnt the habit of being grateful for what they had.

Some might secretly long to dress more individually but be afraid of criticism. My mum was one of these!

Me, I love clothes that are a bit different and am not afraid to stand out and be noticed. I guess to someone who slavishly followed mainstream fashion that might seem like a sign of "not caring."

Adore the visual arts. Collect paintings, love theatre, concerts, gallery, museum, cinema, photography, books. Just not interested in clothes 🤷‍♀️

I’m wearing somewhat trendy jeans and a pale pink frilly top with black boots.

(Space for assumptions to be made…)

My sister bought me the jeans and the top is my least favourite but only clean one that allows for breastfeeding access. The trainers I wear every day are in the washing machine, the boots are old token ‘work’ ones that were near the top of my box of unworn footwear. I don’t think any of that is visible in the outfit nor do I think it conveys anything accurate about me to anyone walking by.

I had some minor interactions with people this morning - a builder, a barista and a random old lady - I think from exchanging a few words they formed a far more nuanced impression of who I am than anyone could based off my clothes. Can’t tell you what any of them were wearing except the builder who was in fetching fluro - from our short interaction he was a polite, slightly shy, affable man. Couldn’t tell that based off his clothes designed for visibility and practicality though.

I used to work with art teachers. They were just like this.

Design teachers however were a different matter.

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow not entirely on topic, but as someone who has an MA in this area I'm genuinely intrigued by your own aesthetic.

Could you tell me a bit more about your personal style and where you shop? Has your style changed as a result of your studies?

Hmm I’ll get pasted on here if l post that.

Simple and unfussy l guess.

This 💯 Baffling. There have been numerous excellent and interesting responses in this thread, but the OP insists we're all "missing the point".

Oh now this I can get behind! Along with 'that's what faces are for,' and the poster who said they attempt to be appropriately attired for whatever occasion.

I'm not very interested in clothes beyond what's appropriate, comfortable and clean.

I know! The arrogance is off the scale! 😂

I think that clothes probably do say something about the wearer, but it seems we fall into different camps in respect of deliberately using them to express ourselves, or not.

I’m wearing fleece lined leggings and an oversized hoodie. The outfit is saying one thing about me, and one thing only. And that is that I have a massive hangover 🤕

Maybe they just have different priorities to you. We're all different after all.
My DH probably doesn't understand why I don't like watching football on tv but I don't lol.

My opinion is the One True View and if you disagree it is because you don't understand what I'm saying. Once I explain it to you, you will say oh right now I understand, of course you are right.

I've come across a fair few of these over the years. They genuinely can't believe that anyone could disagree with them so it must be that they don't understand.

I find clothes frustrating because my body is not a standard shape. My boobs are too big. My top is a clothes size bigger than my bottom half, my legs and arms are too short for normal ranges and petite stuff is mostly online. If I had a personal tailor I might love clothes shopping but the reward does not balance the frustration.

It changes according to where you are l think. Black is a passive colour.

My question would be ‘why are you wearing leggings under a long dress and what sort are they?’

I don’t have a masters in the subject, but my uneducated guess would be that the leggings are because it’s freezing today and QueenC would like warm ankles.

My interest extends to being in clean, pressed, not tattered or holey or otherwise damaged clothing, that I like the colour or style of.

Where it comes from, what special brand it is - and most of all - what you or any other random stranger think of it, are not important to me.