To not really get why people don’t like clothes?

[keeponwishing]

I’m not talking about specifically liking fashion or following certain trends.

I mean in general, clothes are a personal choice. They can express who you are, there’s do much choice out there. Why people say they don’t care what they wear?

No lashing here 😊 based on how you've described yourself, it sounds like you have a really strong interest in fashion and style, and you choose clothing and dress yourself in a way that expresses this to the world. People respond positively to this and if I saw you in the street I would respond positively too (I love vintage clothing and appreciate the aesthetic, although my personal style is much simpler).

That said, I work in an industry with lots of very interesting people and I have to say, what they wear is probably one of the least interesting things about them.

That's not to cast judgement on people that are interested in fashion, but to base your opinion on someone's character (particularly whether they're interesting or not) on what they're wearing seems very short sighted and limiting.

I find shopping for / choosing clothes stressful and time consuming and because l’m a stone heavier than l’d like, depressing too !
I wear a lot of black and love it !
Dress in the morning in outfits l think flatter me - even if l’ve had them for years - then l can go about my day without a second thought about what l look like .

I don't always wear vintage clothing, I buy many new outfits and brands I like, and have them altered to suit my body shape, if necessary. As for judging someone's personality by the clothes they wear, I agree it would be short sighted. It's true that when I see someone dressed in the clothes I described in my post, I assume they must be boring and uninteresting. Of course, this assumption would very soon change if I get a chance to talk to them and they prove me wrong... All that clothes provide is a first impression. The most interestingly dressed person in the room can have nothing else going on for them, or otherwise.

That's exactly the kind of look I always try to go for... a touch that makes the whole outfit unique. And I also love to find this in other women!

I said ' I'm sure I'm wrong.' That's the impression I get, or the way my mind reacts... boring clothes, must be boring. Then I talk to them, and most times I change my mind.

So why do you still judge them negatively if you freely admit you regularly get it wrong?

I used to really love choosing clothes. Since getting unwell, it now becomes a pain in the backside. I have to go for comfort over things I’d really like.

I'm interested in clothes - used to buy so many that now I have some still stashed away, luckily, because there's NOTHING in the shops that I'd currently buy.
Always wondered if it's some mysogynist that designs them..

I make my own clothes generally and I've found a few dressmaking patterns which suit me and are comfortable and so I just make those in different materials/patterns and wear with jeans. I also think to an extent that age is a key factor, once you get past your forties you care a whole lot less what other people think and by the time you get to your sixties comfort is key.

I'm currently wearing jeans, jumper puffa facket and UGGs. The thing I'm projecting is that it's cold out

I'm not particularly invested in fashion but neither do I want to walk around looking like a bag lady. The jumpers I have are not particularly new as I've seen loads in shops with thick polo necks which I detest.

I don’t choose to express myself through what I look like. I express myself through what I read, what I listen to, maybe my actual personality.

Yes, I look at them and invariably think 'Why would anyone choose to wear such boring clothes?' Then of course, if I talk to them and discover a vibrant, interesting personality under the boring clothes, that's great (I will still wonder why they dress that way though). I am sorry that my inner thoughts disturb you so.

And that's fine, because clearly clothes are important to you. Whereas I would look at what you call "boring" clothes and think "practical" instead, probably a byproduct of growing up in a farming community. I just don't really clock clothes in that way - I clock whether someone is looking nice, or whether I want what they've got on, or whether they have merch on that shows a common interest, or whether they're dirty, or whether their activewear makes me feel guilty for not exercising that day etc. If it's not one of those then it doesn't really register.

There's also probably at least a 20% chance I'm simultaneously thinking of something random while I'm talking to you, like what an anvil would look like rolling down the street, and whether the guy behind us would get hit or run away squealing, and what sort of pile up that might cause and could I take work off if this happens despite the fact I'm fairly sure anvils don't roll? Not ADHD, but Lorelei Gilmore's writing rant is scarily accurate to what's going on behind closed doors. Only the closest people to me get to see that side out loud though, it's nicely tucked away behind my boring practical professional wear or bogan home clothes.

I don’t think the poster said that she was disturbed by your thoughts, just confused by them.

I’m not disturbed at all 🫣

I just find it interesting that your judgements have been regularly proved wrong yet you still persist with them.

I have a uniform that I’m completely comfortable in, which I wear every single day of the year.
I wear a Superdry t-shirt and a hoody, Fat Face jeans, and trainers

I must have about 30 Superdry t-shirts!

An inner thought isn’t automatically judgemental

juts because someone thinks someone else’s clothes are really boring doesn’t mean they assume they are a boring person - just that they wear boring clothes

people can like different things without letting that interfere with their judgement of character

Someone mentioned practical clothes that farmers may wear and it made me think of Amanda Owen. I know she started off as a model but I wonder if she gets sent clothes by companies. Either way I love her style . Windswept hair , silver jewellery and olive wool jumpers that sort of attire.

Except this particular poster actually said she assumed that people who wore boring clothes were boring. It’s right there on the thread.

@HJC88 I'm almost 70 and the comfort imperative has yet to take hold here, although I do consider it. It's not quite as important as aesthetics, but ideally garments are both comfortable and stylish.

I think it's you with the comprehension issue. Some of us don't want, or feel the need, to express ourselves with clothes. What I wear doesn't say anything about my personality, mood, identity or confidence. To me, and many others, they are just clothes.

Did you read the part where she said ‘I assume people who wear boring clothes are boring themselves’?

Apparently not 😬

Why continue to wonder why people dress in boring clothes when it has been explained countless times on this thread? You don’t need to wonder any more because you know the answer.

For some of us, putting on clothes in the morning is just a part of meeting our basic needs. Brush teeth, wash face, put on clothes that are appropriate fabric and fit for whatever we are doing that day. That is literally the only thought that goes into it. We are not thinking about expressing ourselves or giving a particular impression or creating a vibe or any of that. If I’m expressing anything through my choices it is: ‘I’m not interested in clothes’.

Because it’s easier to carry on judging than it is to actually use your experience to change your thought process.