To not really get why people don’t like clothes?

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I’m not talking about specifically liking fashion or following certain trends.

I mean in general, clothes are a personal choice. They can express who you are, there’s do much choice out there. Why people say they don’t care what they wear?

Why do you care?

Yip missed that bit - skimming

kind of reinforced the idea that people in silly clothes can be shallow

Because I don't care

I think too much focus on appearance can often be hiding a lack of substance beyond. As a pp said, in terms of the signals it sends about you, few people are truly creative and most people are just copying styles they've seen elsewhere.

For me clothing is about function, practical considerations like temperature, and about being comfortable & tidy.

I also detest the way that to a high degree, what is available for me to buy is heavily dictated by what clothing manufacturers choose to make, and that the vast majority of commercially available styles are designed & tailored for slim young women. I'm 40, I've had two kids, my shape has changed.

If you think people wearing "boring clothes" must be boring, remember that other people don't all make the same judgement as you. I've always worn pretty boring clothes but it hasn't stopped me finding a fantastic husband and having a great career.

Men by and large all dress pretty "boringly". Why must women be held to a different bar?

Do you really think people are paying close attention to what you're wearing? They're not.

It's nice that you have something you enjoy in your life, but I promise you nobody is analysing your outfit as closely as you think they are.

I'm short, so all those lovely, expressive clothes don't fit. I look like I'm playing dress ups. I also have huge hips, small shoulders & tiny boobs, so nothing fits. Designers think petite means short and thin as.a bean pole.

I just don't enjoy it and have given up. I would LOVE to feel nice in clothes, but I'm stuck with whatever I can find. I see the nice clothes & want to cry.

Hmm I dress beautifully 90% of the time. I wear classic clothes , nothing whacky and do my hair and make up and always have my nails done. But it takes a lot of thought and effort and some days when I’m not leaving the house I make zero effort, to counteract this! I do it not to express myself but to looked groomed for life and work and I’m slightly larger (size 16) so I need to counteract this by well thought out outfits as I can’t just wear anything.

But I don’t question others or even think what they’re wearing - I don’t think I’ve ever been chatting with someone and thought about their clothes or appearance as I’m interested in them and what they’re saying.

in terms of saying it’s how you express yourself- for some it is and for some it isn’t. I wouldn’t say what I wear expresses myself, bar the days I make zero effort and wear joggers etc/ that’s definitely expressing myself and what I’d love to wear normally 😂 comfy easy snuggly clothes

They say it because - are you ready for this? You might want to sit down - they say it because they're trying to get over the idea - bizarre as it may seem to you - that they don't care what they wear.

Me, I do care what I wear. I care very much that I never wear anything that looks like I might care what I wear.

Because being really, properly into clothes and knowledgeable about fashion is a time-consuming (and expensive) hobby. I already have hobbies (and work and relationships) that consume all my time (and money).

I'd actually quite like to be more into fashion and I admire those who are, but I tend to be either wholly in or wholly out and I just don't have the time to make it a big part of my life. So it's boring staples for formal occasions and an athleisure-adjacent sporty look for casual occasions and I don't have to think about it.

I also really dislike shops - being in them, traipsing round them, finding that 90% of clothes are either not to my taste or not in my size or not flattering to me or not in a comfortable fabric.

This is where you're going wrong OP.

SOME people use clothes to express who they are. Others do not.
My clothes don't show my personality, or my mood, or my identity - and they do not do that because of my confidence, which is secure enough that i dont feel the need to express myself or communicate with others via an outfit.

You sound like you spend a lot of time following influencers.

I guess because it's another thing to care about. I'm in the middle. Currently enjoying my new jumper, but sometimes you just aren't that bothered. I'll just shove on what's clean from yesterday.I guess it's like people who aren't into food; I love food, but sometimes it's just eat to live, and find whatever in the fridge. Like clothes the decisions involved with cooking get wearing.

The other part is if you don't feel you are particularly attractive it's psychologically easier to opt out and not be that bothered.

My husband and son wouldn't dress boringly if they had a decent choice. They both bemoan the lack of bright clothes and imaginative styles for men.
DH used to wear bright colours back in the 70s and 80s and still would if such things were available (nope- neither of us are skilled enough to make them).
If he spots something interesting that's not a stupid price he'll have it. He has a lovely gold coloured velvet jacket with a butterfly pattern for instance and several striking shirts. We managed to get him a scarlet suit to wear to DD's wedding (DS wore bright blue that he'd covered in embroidered designs).

Just rather go on holidays and days out more