To think skid marks are not normal?!

[Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh]

SD’s shitty pants are really, really revolting😫

It’s not normal for a ten year old, is it???

Quite right.

Does anybody else have a feminist problem with the fact that period blood is left out of the PPP list, though?!

I know, I know, including it would probably encourage people to flush tampons. It's just that excluding it is kinda anti-feminist IMHO.

(Why yes I am fun at parties!)

The rejects club? What’s that?

I don’t think this is a step mother issue! I am one and I think you are being mean.

Just speak to her. The poor girl will be mortified if her dad brings it up. Surely you have enough of a relationship with her to do that? Say you’ve noticed it when doing the laundry and ask if she’s ok? Then see where the conversation goes.

What are you going to do if she gets her period for the first time when she’s at her dad’s? Make her talk to her dad? Step up here OP.

Totally agree.

There’s no way you would talk about your own precious child in that manner. Where’s your compassion? Just loathing & resentment. Poor kid. Is it possibly every Friday that it happens b’cos she knows she’s coming to you for the weekend? Quite literally shits her pants at the prospect??

I don’t think this is a step mother issue! I am one and I think you are being mean.

I agree. It's about the actual tone and circumstances being described. It's always such a lame cop-out when people try the "SM hate" card to wiggle out of their nasty attitudes.

I had this with my DD - a clean pants sticker reward chart - but when she was 3/4 years old and in school nursery! Not at the age of 10!

I would rather manage skid marks in pants than reams of poopy wet wipes in the bin.

Skid marks - one of my kids was more prone than the others. That child tends to looser BMs so I guess wiping is mildly harder, plus he was pretty dyspraxic - clumsy, always covered in bruises, poor handwriting, dirt magnet. They grew out of it, but it would have been around age 12.

You're not supposed to flush them you put them in a bin

You wish harm on people who disagree with you?

I don’t want to be touching anyone’s shit??

You sound cruel TBH.

I have no issue with wiping the kids bums, changing pissy sheets, picking up dog crap, but they’re my children and I love them.

Your post just oozes disdain for this girl.

Why is she going to get an infection?

I suggest you contact ERiC for some compassionate and helpful advice.

And she could actually be having health problems, even if it's not all the time.

Also do you have an easily accessible shower with a moveable shower head? Get her to wash herself down there.

Well this is just the sort of ableist post MN should be dealing with under its new moderation policy.

Reported

Vile.

Her mum needs to deal with it, child live with her most of the time and she is less likely to be defensive with her mum. There may be an underlying with issue which you and your husband are not aware of.

This little girl needs your help, not your criticism.

So what do you suggest 'flushable' means if not the toilet??
These Companies will have done their research, they wouldn't legally be able to state their claims if they were inaccurate.

Kindly, op you haven't taught her because she doesn't know how to do it still. It just needs reinforcing. Kids develop at different ages

Not really I can't remember many occasions when blood went directly into the toilet. When I was younger it was deemed acceptable to flush tampons but obviously it's not now. It's 25 years since I actually had a period, I had very heavy bleeding leading to a hysterectomy but still don't remember bleeding into the toilet.

Where does she drive at that age ? Just tell her to slow down a bit.

Time to talk menstrual hygiene at this age, so that’s an opportunity to combine the two chats. Could you take her to Primark or somewhere and pick out some nice multipacks, and talk really frankly about feminine hygiene, teach her how to rinse out stained knickers, how to dispose of a pad, etc. And say that other people will notice if her hygiene isn’t good. I hear your frustration, and I also feel sorry for her that she doesn’t have the self-awareness yet.

My son has this sometimes due to constipation. She maybe needs a doctors appointment to try some lactose or alternatives.

What are you feeding her? Maybe she has sensitivities and it is giving her looser stools.