Son not invited to friend’s birthday party (13)

[PeoniesGinandBags]

My son is part of a group of a dozen or so boys in our smallish community who went to the local primary school together and then moved to the secondary school. Much bigger as it takes in from all the villages etc.

It was one of the boy’s birthdays and, it turns out, he had a birthday party at what looks to be a kind of snooker, bowling type place. I only know because his mum just shared all the photos on Facebook.

all of the boys from the group were there. My son had not been invited.

The family live a few doors down and whilst as parents were not friends on our own, we are friendly because our boys are.

Most nights, all of them are playing online together. As they are right now!

I feel really angry and upset that my son didn’t even get an invite. I’ve not asked him about it because I don’t know what to say. Am I wrong to think this is a bit of a crap thing to do? He’s absolutely the only one not invited. I know all of them as they’ve grown up together. It feels really exclusionary.

my son and the birthday boy did have a really small falling out perhaps 8 or 9 months ago but it was all done and dusted in a day and was nothing major. O even spoke with his mum above it.

i feel so sad that my son wasn’t included. And honestly, annoyed. Who does that? I would understand if it was just 2 or 3 pals but it is absolutely all of them!!!

Well that’s a shocking update.

Who the fuck does she think she is?

OMFG. Well maybe at least tell your son it was nothing he did. And be glad you asked (when the usual advice is don't)

I'm quite impressed that she is sticking to her principles.

That seems quite odd to me. I mean, they’re 13. Surely they’re at the stage of choosing their own party guests and friends, regardless of their mother’s opinion of their friends’ parents’ politics?

What a nutjob. And what a poor role model for her son.

Well, at least your boy will know it's nothing to do with him.

What a knob head. Please ensure you never invite her child to anything ever ahain.

What a fecking cowbag. Kids get to hang out with their mates, you don't have to like their parents so she is bang out of order. The poor kid probably wanted your son there as well. Good on you for asking what the issue was. Avoid her at all costs but do not exclude her son. It's really not his fault. Invite him to your son's birthday as well. Sorry OP what a shitty thing for her to do.

Principles of what? Her argument doesn’t make sense unless ops son has been giving pro Palestinian speeches whilst they’re all playing Fifa.

She sounds batshit crazy

But you weren't invited to the party. I suppose she thinks political leanings are transmitted to our children via DNA? 🙄

Can you invite her son over, to really wind her up? I'm very sorry for both boys. Can you explain to your DS that it wasn't anything he has done wrong or that his friend didn't want him there?

I wasn't expecting that! The woman is potty

Absolutely awful behaviour on her behalf. Did you respond?

There’s always one fool 😂

Jesus! I mean I’m glad she was honest with you and you know that your son is not disliked by his friend in some way, which was your original worry. But that is quite insane. I hope you are planning to tell your son.

@PeoniesGinandBags the update about DS not being invited because of your political beliefs is really bonkers. Your poor DS! Well at least you have a reason I suppose & you’re not imagining him being left out. It’s cruel to leave one child out like that. What a horrible thing to do.

WOW was not expecting that.

whatever her beliefs or yours it’s totally shitty to take it out on your kid. Jesus. Hopefully the fact it’s about you will make your kid feel better though.

Now I have actually heard it all! Poor ds.

Wow…no contact with that monster is totally in your interests, she is literally hateful. Keep caring about the mass murder of children OP 🫶♥️

To a child's detriment?

I would never punish a child for a parent's behaviour.

I'm sorry OP. That is wild.

Hold on to that text.
I would be totally screenshotting thr conversion and passing it on.
She's batshit.
Tell your son so there is no confusion.

Neither am I, but you dont need to study much modern 20th c history to totally get why Israel will defend themselves and their population to the end. She was honest with you. I would accept that feedback and be understanding why someone might find that offensive. And to be frank when I see Palestinian flags in the UK, I immediately stop and remember the Holocaust. I am studying and part of my degree covers this period.

That has taken a weird twist.
So she didn't invite someone to her son's party because she doesn't like/doesn't agree with the views of their mum?
I find it quite far fetched tbh

She is insane. Wow!

Do you think, if you had been around in the late 1930s and early 1940s, and were aware of the Holocaust: do you think you’d have spoken out and said that “this is wrong, the murder of all these innocent people, it’s wrong”?