To think I’ve blown my chances of looking after DGD again

[BadGran]

I recently looked after my DGD who has just turned 1 for the first time.

It was all going really well and I was holding her on my hip whilst making her tea and she arched back and I accidentally dropped her 😢she fell head first onto my wooden floor and obviously cried a lot.

I obviously have apologised profusely to DS and DIL, and to be fair they were very understanding about it but they haven’t asked me to have her since. I know they’ve got quite a lot of Christmas parties coming up so I’m guessing they don’t trust me now.

Should I say something or just wait for them to ask me. I’m so cross with myself !!

Yes I believe in following guidance where it is provided by a reputable source and written by people much more knowledgeable on the subject than me. If I were a head injury specialist maybe I would feel my knowledge outweighed the NHS guidance but I am not. Lots of people on the thread have said them same. You don’t have to agree but it is not a crazy stance for me to take to think it’s right to follow national medical guidance especially with a child.

Accidents happen, no matter who is in charge. 🤷‍♀️

I’d also have taken the baby to a&e, but the parents may well have done so after they left and not told the op

You can't tell by looking at a person how serious a head injury is. A person may appear OK initially and the effects take hold later. I have worked with babies and children who have suffered head injuries that appear OK at first, those injuries can have life changing, life lasting effects so yes, unless I could see what's going on inside I would absolutely follow NHS guidelines.

The thread is about the op and how she felt about what happened she is obviously still shook. Not about whether she should have taken her grandchild to A&E in August and we are now in November and the child is still fine. It's okay to use commonsense and you know when your child is unwell. She played after and they felt confident that she was okay. No need for the judge and jury comments. You weren't there.

The op hasn't returned and I don't blame her. Start your own thread and talk about the NHS and there guidelines. Berating the op about an incident that happened in August is wasting your time.

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Either you or the parents should have sought medical attention for an infant falling headfirst onto a hard floor. This is mostly on the parents though as they obviously decided not to for whatever reason
Regardless, making a hot drink and balancing a baby on your hip is a really silly idea. I’m sure you look after dgd well most of the time and are mortified about the incident but if I was the child’s Mum I would be really wary of you minding her again

My husband literally dropped one of our babies on his head. Should I have banned him from any childcare, or accepted that all humans are fallible and accidents sometimes happen?

Mumsnet: OMG. My child had an accident while my parents were looking after her!

Also Mumsnet: Why won't my parents provide me with free childcare???

Liam Neeson’s wife seemed fine after an head injury after skiing accident. She died some days later.

You understand your husband is a parent, and doesn’t baby sit. Unlike a grandparent, right, as it indicates you don’t grasp the difference?

What's that got to with the op and her situation. What are you wishing to happen to her grandchild. It happened in August and now we are in November. All is well for the child.

It appears you don't grasp the point I'm making. The husband is allowed accidents, the grandparent isn't.

I too made this point some days ago - obviously a fall from arms say 4 feet onto a hard floor should have been a fast trip to A&E …. Just so OP will know if she happens to drop a baby again heaven forbid (or any of us falling on our heads for that matter!)
Truly amazed you don’t ‘get’ that!!
MN is a learning curve for all of us otherwise why have it??

To be honest i wouldn’t let my mum have my dc if this happened, i would wait till dc are bigger till asking them to babysit again.

A skiing accident is more serious and would require immediate hospital attention. You are trying to compare that to the op. She said she was fine after a few tears and continued playing. The parents didn't take her to the hospital. As I said before if a parent is worried call 111.

Sure but they didn’t know that at the time. All head injuries need to be checked out, that was my point, going forward.

Wishing something on the child? Of course not, what a peculiar thing to say!

Comparing a skiing accident to the ops situation was peculiar to me. The child was fine and playing after. I am sure if there was anything wrong op would have taken her to A&E. On that occasion the op and her parents saw she was playing and she was fine.

Op accidents happen my DD came back with a burn , they had also dropped her somewhere etc and i understand accidents happen but they never apologised. I let it slide at the time.

As long as they know your sorry there isn't much else you can do but I hope you do appreciate why they can't trust you ?

They have to put the safety of their DC first and tying to cook her with her wasn't a wise move so they are correct to question your judgement .

However ....millions of gp have wonderful relationships without having DC alone !

If inwas you I would just say this ..be open as possible and try and spend time with her with them

You did the right thing. I am assuming they drove straight to you. They felt she was okay nothing more you can do.

The point is the ski incident wasn’t a serious ski accident at all. Natasha Richardson was having a ski lesson on a nursery slope and fell over - she got up, felt fine afterwards and wouldn’t get checked out, sadly a few days later she died of a bleed on her brain. Tragic.
I would certainly have taken this baby to A&E, (she fell headfirst on to a wooden floor) - I would say this family have been very very lucky it wasn’t more serious.

The op called her parents and they felt she didn't need medical attention. The responsibility is with the parents as soon as they arrived and decided no further action was needed. They were lucky it wasn't more serious.

Unfortunately us humans don’t have X-ray/CT scan vision - the family were very very lucky their baby was ok on this occasion.

When it comes to the head even with immediate treatment there is no guarantee. It depends on the hospital and who is available at the time. I read a story a woman fell out of bed and hit her head hard enough it killed her instantly. On the occasions when my children have had falls I used my instinct's on whether I should or shouldn't go to A&E. Not all bumps and falls require immediate medical attention. Obviously some do.