Not going halves with friend on lunch

[Rachaelf37]

So I went for lunch with one of my close friends a few weeks ago. She chose a slightly more expensive main and after had a small pudding whilst I just had a hot drink. When it was time to leave she said shall we split the bill. I said shall we just pay for our own as I didn't have a pudding.
I got a slight discount with a card I had (gave us both a discount). I then worked out my share rounded it up slightly and paid mine. She paid hers but was complaining why can't we split it.
I already had explained I was pretty broke that month for various reasons.

She is now not talking to me, weeks later. Was I being unreasonable?

OP doesn’t have £3.50 or £7 because she’s overdrawn. It’s all being paid for with debt. What friend wants their mate to get into debt to pay for their food?

I don’t get the upset at all. I’m quite happy either splitting the bill or each of us paying for what we ate. IMO, your friend is the one being petty, OP, by making such a big fuss about it.

And she’s calling you petty ! She’s a right one .

Is she 13? She's so childish and petty to hold a grudge about this. Just ignore her. Why would you want to be friends with someone like this.

I do think that you made a mistake in agreeing to have lunch at a restaurant when you are over draft though. That wasn't sensible or necessary. You could still have met her at home for lunch or had a coffee and catch up in a cafe if you really didn't want to meet at home for some reason.

I think I would reply with

"So let me get this straight.....you havent spoken to me for TWO WEEKS over this and you think I am being petty? Have a look at yourself".

No worries!

He had the “idea” but did it ever come to fruition. It’s not really fair on a business or supporting one. But each to their own.

You had NOTHING to apologise for @Rachaelf37

She deserved no apology, you did nothing wrong. She's a horrible friend, treating you in this sulky, "mad at you" manner, when you are overdrawn!!

Honestly, Rachael, you can do better than this person who is the petty one! Her lack of understanding of your current financial predicament says more about her than it does you. And now you've learned your lesson not to get yourself further into overdraft for the likes of her.

And I know you've already replied, but I'd have replied with:

"In my view, it's a tad dramatic to be "mad at me", for not subsidising your meal when you know I'm already into an overdraft at the minute. Sure, it was a few quid, but I'm literally really struggling financially right now. I wasn't being petty whatsoever, your silent treatment and madness at me is the only pettiness going on here."

Wow, she's a piece of work. I bet if you looked back at the friendship overall, there will have been indications of her petty and selfish nature. Drop her. You don't need people like that in your life.