To think the problem with wealth inequality is that rich people don't know how rich they are?

[Neeroy]

Article in the Times today saying that people earning six figures 'don't feel rich'.

Because they are surrounded by six figure earning peers they are comparing themselves to people who have more rather than the 90% of the population that have far less. This is why the budget is poorly received in the news, because rich people think they already shoulder too high a burden when in fact compared to everyone else they still have far more disposable income. Even if they have to cut down on the number of holidays they go on. They aren't sitting in the dark under a blanket. Or only making food that doesn't require turning on the oven.

I don't think they realise how so many people have to live.

www.thetimes.com/article/1fb46414-8f65-436f-8f95-451d69626148?shareToken=8061d939633164c0dfbd805240c8e008

AI’s take on this…
It is not accurate to say that avoidant attachment types are more likely to be high earners; in fact, their attachment style can lead to financial difficulties, although the link is complex. Some avoidant individuals may be successful in their careers because they prioritize work over relationships, but others may struggle with finances due to avoiding them or engaging in compulsive spending to meet a perceived need for validation. Financial habits are often linked to emotional well-being rather than income potential.

I'm not saying that everyone with an avoidant attachment style is rich though. I should have made it clear i was responding to a previous comment from someone who queried why have children then work all day. I just knew plenty of people who hated spending time with their families and adored work. They paid staff (or had a stay at home partner who put up with their unavailability) instead.

Crazily so. My DH and DC are heaven on earth. DH and I have date night every week it’s the highlight of my week - we spend all our free time together - we just love to talk to each other - we’ve been together for 12 years and I have been adored all that time and I adore him. My little boy is the most loving, gentle, gorgeous soul. Sometimes I think that my time is running out in some way because I feel there is more happiness than is allowed and so I obsessively text my husband to check that his seatbelt is on for example 🤣

DH and I have date night every week it’s the highlight of my week

I bet it’s the highlight of your week!!

What do you do for date night?

We go for dinner - we also both love food and wine and restaurants. Always just the two of us (maybe three times in a year with friends) - some of our friends think this is weird!

What cuisines do you like?

Everything! Sorry I feel like I have hijacked this thread!

Your friends think it’s weird to go out for dinner weekly with a husband you barely see?

They think it’s weird we always have date night together and not with other couples. I don’t feel like I barely see him. He comes home at 8.15pm - I go to bed at 10.30pm - we are together all weekend. It has never occurred to me before this thread that other couples/families spend all weekend plus many hours a day together.

I think it’s weird your friends think it’s weird!

He is up and out from 6am for 14.5 hours a day. Sees his child almost not at all during the week. No doubt returns at 8.30 quite keen to decompress!

im surprised that it’s only once a week, especially as you’re in Dubai!

he used to work more.

what made him work less @percypiggy200 ?

A new job where he is more in control.

I bet you were happy!

Oh absolutely. Not just because of the hours but because he is essentially running things himself and he is happy and fulfilled - it was like night and day to be honest.

So In previous job he was working even longer hours but wasn’t happy and fulfilled?

Irony.

They do already. No children though.

If people feel shame it’s not down to me.

It's relative. How much do you earn, have in savings and investments compared to your immediate peers. While I have much less than uni friends, compared to closest friendship group, I'm apperently 'rolling in it' as I have no mortgage and some savings.

You said “good” when someone asked why you were trying to shame others

so presumably that would be your feeling of you made your adult child feel ashamed for doing the same

You probably need to budget better. If you're on £100k+ and your partner bringing in something (even £20k pa), you should have savings and be able to travel.

"where you choose to live"

This is you projecting.

I hope that was sarcasm.