To consider Only Fans

[Daydreamnotbeliever]

So for background im a single parent of 3. 2 uni age kids, one older but has additional needs. All 3 live with me still. Im supporting all 3 more or less full. Their father is no contact and has been for over a decade.

I work full time and earn a salary of £40k. Which on paper is ok. In reality, more or less funding 4 adults, not so much. The kids contribute what they can. They pay for their own items. My eldest works part time which is about as much as he can manage. But its not enough. My wage doesnt stretch far enough. I run out of money every month. Theres rent bills heating food etc all falls on me and i cant survive. Theres no luxuries. No fun. No anything. When they move out ill manage but at the minute its impossible. And i cant expect them to contribute more. The eldest doesnt have the capacity and the other two need uni to be the priority they are both doing courses that are intense and do a lot of work outside of lectures.

Im single. However. I have a friend who i hook up with. Its safe. Hes safe. But i have no desire to live with someone and share a life. We date, kinda, go out for drinks sometimes or the cinema, hook up, and have fun.

The idea is he manages an account i make. He makes vids, edits, promotes, markets etc. I do the chats, conversations etc in the eve. We split anything earned, more to me. My suggestion not his. All my idea.

i know its not guaranteed money, infact the opposite, it takes a lot of effort to make something. He has the time to market etc. i dont. It would be faceless. I wouldnt put my face out there. But pretty much anything else goes.

I just cant manage at the minute. Earning more in my role is impossible at the moment. Theres no second jobs i can do. No local bar work. I dont drive. I have no “talents” for an etsy side hustle. I dont have the money to buy equipment to start a printing side hustle or something. I dont have the time for much around my job at the moment. Theres just not other way to make money. Im out of idea and i need to make a few hundred a month to keep my head above water now im funding 4 adults alone pretty much.

The concern is obviously my kids, even though they are all adults. We are a pretty liberal open family and discuss anything and everything. Id probably tell them, but its still a worry.

Would you do it? Could you do it? Have you done it? Can you suggest an alternative?

I feel for you OP, I think when you are in your situation that seeing the woods for trees can be so difficult, PP have given some great advice about other options, I would look into all of those ideas before you basically prostitute yourself on the internet, which I do think will come back to bite you in the future

As to the unpleasant posters you seem to have attracted, ignore them!, nasty pieces of work.

This issue is, once your videos or pictures are on the internet, you cant take them back. They are there. Even if you close the account, your videos and pictures could be sitting anywhere, copied, downloaded and shared. This will hamg over for you for eternity.
The other issue is that most peeople make peanuts, research what it actually takes to have a successful account, how many hours and years to build up. Most people make hardly anything.
Professional content creators are making a lot, but its the same as youtube or instagram. A successful account can make a lot of money but most people are not making that. I woukd suggest somrthing like tiktok to start making non sexual content. See if you enjoy making content on a daily basis and like doing all the other stuff around growing an online account.
None of them are overnight unless you go viral, even than can be short lived.

Pet sitting is something you and your young adult kids could all do to bring in extra cash. They could take uni work with them to do.

i want them to enjoy uni and their free time, make friendships and mistakes, and get the best grades they can.

They can still enjoy uni, free time, make friendships, get good grades and also pull their weight. I was a poor student who worked long hours in a bar, and have also taught lots of students who need to juggle. Some worked substantial hours and still got a good 2.1, some even better.

What some did was cut their hours in the final two months, living off credit - because they were going to be able to pay it back soon.

Could they try part-time nannying - covering the school run? £10-£15 an hour and less tiring than bar work.

They have plenty of time, they just need to manage it more tightly. You can't carry them.

You can cut your food bills - move onto porridge, potatoes, lentils etc where the priority is nutrients not enjoyment. Aim to cut £100 a month. Yes, I know it's not fun, but it will make a difference.

Students can suspend for a year and work/save - think creatively.

They can also look at part-time status; or extensions (submitting a dissertation in August for example) on the basis of the stress caused by supporting an elder sibling/burned-out parent.

I'm suggesting this not for moral reasons but because your idea just won't work.

Try again with PIP. I know it's a tricky process but he should be getting it.

The younger ones won't be at college forever. Just hold on.

The pet hotel is a good idea.

The time you spend making content could be spent cleaning, stacking shelves, tutoring, ironing etc.
why don’t you post a list of expenses and income and we can try and save you money if earning more isn’t possible?

To be brutally honest, I think your "friend" is taking you for a mug. He'll be in control of the content and will be able to post things (maybe on other porn sites) that you don't know about and have no control over. He may also be doing it for his own "fun" rather than for your benefit. As many others have said, "simple" content without face and doing pretty "normal" basic things doesn't pay much money - people will only pay to see your face and to watch you doing more and more extreme things. I fear you're going to get suckered in, at the start your content will be faceless and anomymous and pretty vanilla but then when the money doesn't flow, your "friend" will suggest more and more outside your comfort zone. Please don't do it and find other ways to earn a bit of money. How about a few odd shelf stacking shifts at a supermarket, or bar work, etc?? I'd also suggest starting to withdraw from your relationship with this friend.

Since you're dismissing most of the suggestions, it sounds like you need to look at bank work for a second job. That would be more money and less time intensive than the sheer amount of content you'd need to create to make ANYTHING on only fans. Health and social care is probably your best bet for bank work.

Also your adult children need to do more. Whether that's work more themselves or support you in a second job. Do they get student loans? Or are you funding literally everything except what they make on a couple of evenings?

Yeah, please take note of what @taxguru says - this friend could well be planning to exploit you.

This is what I was going to suggest. (I have read all your posts @Daydreamnotbeliever , but not all replies).

Set up costs are minimal (I understand that that is a stretch atm though), and it could be a family business, run by all the adults in your home. It might also be a good way of improving your son's long term earning prospects if he's ok with animals and he's not able to work full time. If your son is ND and does not have any sensory issues which mean animals are a no-no, then time with pets (even other people's) could be really positive for him/his nervous system.

@Daydreamnotbeliever You have achieved too much under incredibly difficult conditions to think about risking it by turning your FWB into your pimp on OF. I don't know what line of work you are in, but consider whether or not the OF/pump route (which sounds more risk than reward tbf) would put you at risk of losing your job or being barred from your profession.

Like many other PPs, while I can understand and admire your desire to support your kids to have the 'ideal' (or idealised?), uni experience, but you simply cannot afford it. They already have it a million miles easier than you did/do, so they need to step up a bit before you drown under their weight. It would be a lot worse for them if you burnout totally and lose your job!

So, like many have suggested, go through your income/outgoings as a family - all your kids need to be involved - and see what can be cut or moved. Then work out how EACH of you is going to contribute. This excercise in itself will be far more useful longterm for your kids than realising that their mum felt she had to prostitute herself on OF to pay their way. Trust your young adults to help you make it work, they are not little children anymore (even though they will always be your 'babies').

There is a lot of good money saving and making advice on Martin Lewis' MSE website. There is also a forum on there where people will give constructive feedback on your budget etc.

Good luck! I'm sure you and your young adults can turn this around!

Just wondering if your eldest child might be eligible for some universal credit. He/she would be treated as a separate household to you.worth a try.Ask citizens advice about this.

One of the most valuable parts of uni is living independently and learning to manage your money (or at least trying!). So I don't think there is any harm in saying to your kids 'really need you all to contribute a bit more financially, so can you all try and get an extra shift a week'. It sounds like that would make a massive difference to you and not impact on their uni experience at all. I'm sure they'd all much rather hear that than 'kids, mum's doing OnlyFans'!

To clarify, I meant there's more people than ever looking to economise, so you'll have plenty of potential subscribers.

It’s nice that you want to give your kids the best uni experience but let’s face it if you are thinking of getting naked on camera then it’s a luxury you can’t afford. Can’t imagine how I would feel if my mother did something like that in my behalf.

Like many other posters already noted, it is a copout. The OP pretends this is for money, but I think she wants to be pervy, yet understands this is pervy and needs an excuse. Some people are warped, both sexes, granted.

I wouldn't do it because the content creating process should be constant and it's exhausting, and don't get me started on how you can't undo this once you put your content out there, faceless or not. The choice is yours of course, but I wouldn't do it.

This, plus... do not tell your kids!!! But I would say not worth it. Just cut back in other ways, get another 2nd job. Sell on ebay... anything else!

@Daydreamnotbeliever , I second what @goingoffonatangentagain and @taxguru just said. Very sound practical advice. There are better paid, less risky options than OF - you and your family should be all over those first.

You are clearly a tough and determined woman - you CAN do this!

You say its faceless but how then are you going to compete with the hundreds of women who ARE showing their faces and are willing to do "anything goes" too?

Sorry, but I think to go all in on only fans you are either going to have to put yourself properly out there which comes of course with huge risks of being recognised OR not bother with it at all.

But the idea you can make thousands of pounds when there are women out there who are willing to show everything (including their face) whilst you are hiding yourself is a little bit naive I'm afraid. Thats not even examining whether it violates your personal ethics and how you'd feel about yourself afterwards!

Then change sectors and get a higher-paying job. It’s not rocket science. Excuses excuses excuses. @MyAmusedOpalCrab

Wow, who are you, Jake Berry?

That's just a really hortible judgemental thing to say to a woman who is clearly stressed out and desperate because she is supporting four adults on a modest (considering the situation) salary.

She makes a fortune from foot stuff. Someone paid her £60 for one pair of socks.

She does food things - £200 for smashing a cake in a bowl.

People also pay her to be mean to them, essentially. “Mummy kink” stuff.

Other than that she charges per image for pictures of her body - she’s approx 20 stone and 52.

No videos, nothing genitals related. Just foot pictures, specific kink things that are worth a fortune and pictures of 52 year old’s bum!

If someone pushes too far or is offensive, she just blocks them.

She’s made about £7k this year. Uses it for holidays and Christmas shopping.

More power to her as far as I’m concerned!

So your DP gets to do the fun stuff and you have to do the humiliating bit.

sorry but I judge him harshly, he'll be like your pimp.

Where do all the PP saying “your uni kids need to get a job” actually live?! Part time work is incredibly difficult to find for students and young people. In fact for anyone. My DS applied for a Saturday job, they rejected him because he goes to college and couldn’t pick up extra hours on an ad hoc basis. That was in a local cafe, same in most other places. This is true for most of his mates too, only one has a job - on his grandparents’ farm.

The Uni kids need to get part time jobs and look after themselves. As most students do, with the loan and grant as a back up.

The child with special needs should sort out the benefits.

I wouldn’t set myself up with this - most people earn nothing from it, and once stuff is out there, it can’t be deleted.

It’s not always easy, my student grandkids had to apply for many jobs. But they are around - especially this time of year.