To consider Only Fans

[Daydreamnotbeliever]

So for background im a single parent of 3. 2 uni age kids, one older but has additional needs. All 3 live with me still. Im supporting all 3 more or less full. Their father is no contact and has been for over a decade.

I work full time and earn a salary of £40k. Which on paper is ok. In reality, more or less funding 4 adults, not so much. The kids contribute what they can. They pay for their own items. My eldest works part time which is about as much as he can manage. But its not enough. My wage doesnt stretch far enough. I run out of money every month. Theres rent bills heating food etc all falls on me and i cant survive. Theres no luxuries. No fun. No anything. When they move out ill manage but at the minute its impossible. And i cant expect them to contribute more. The eldest doesnt have the capacity and the other two need uni to be the priority they are both doing courses that are intense and do a lot of work outside of lectures.

Im single. However. I have a friend who i hook up with. Its safe. Hes safe. But i have no desire to live with someone and share a life. We date, kinda, go out for drinks sometimes or the cinema, hook up, and have fun.

The idea is he manages an account i make. He makes vids, edits, promotes, markets etc. I do the chats, conversations etc in the eve. We split anything earned, more to me. My suggestion not his. All my idea.

i know its not guaranteed money, infact the opposite, it takes a lot of effort to make something. He has the time to market etc. i dont. It would be faceless. I wouldnt put my face out there. But pretty much anything else goes.

I just cant manage at the minute. Earning more in my role is impossible at the moment. Theres no second jobs i can do. No local bar work. I dont drive. I have no “talents” for an etsy side hustle. I dont have the money to buy equipment to start a printing side hustle or something. I dont have the time for much around my job at the moment. Theres just not other way to make money. Im out of idea and i need to make a few hundred a month to keep my head above water now im funding 4 adults alone pretty much.

The concern is obviously my kids, even though they are all adults. We are a pretty liberal open family and discuss anything and everything. Id probably tell them, but its still a worry.

Would you do it? Could you do it? Have you done it? Can you suggest an alternative?

I don’t know why I keep coming back to this thread , this is really not how I pictured I’d spend my Saturday afternoon.
judging by the horrible OFs requests mentioned ,Honestly I don’t even think hundreds of thousands is worth the mental and physiological damage,
it’s heavy perverted stuff.
call me privileged or sheltered but I really believe it’s important for young adults to enroll in as much courses as possible.

If he's agreeing to being your pimp, it's very hard to agree that he's a good man. It's no less pimping just because it's online.

Nope. Not in the scenario you describe.

Also any man who cared about you wouldn’t be happy to put videos of you online for other men to masturbate to. If it was a kink and no money was involved, I could imagine it. But facilitating sex work just isn’t want loving partners do. He should be offering you money not marketing dirty videos for you.

That's because the minute you suggested this, @Daydreamnotbeliever , a decent man would have sat down with you and helped to to find other ways of making money. Maybe driving you to a shift somewhere. Not this!

Exactly.

Have a look at adult work as its a lot busier than only fans + you wouldn't need to involve this man you could just keep your money for yourself aside from the cut adult work take

You can do videos and images on there that people have to pay to view

Yeah…because that’s so easy!! Ffs!🤦‍♀️

I think escorting would be the most lucrative and discreet especially if you did it in a different city. Most men aren’t going to admit to having to pay for sex and on the off chance they do say anything, it’s your word against there’s aslong as you don’t put your face on your profile.

Tbh I can imagine most of the woman on OF will have the faceless idea and be wearing a gimp mask to hide their identity. You won’t be able to compete with the ones showing their face.

Someone I used to work with did webcamming and on the site she used you could block out certain countries where people can view you. Not sure of the name of it but might be worth looking into.

Disgusting.

I can understand your desperation, I think anyone who's struggled financially, will understand. However, I do agree with others, to succeed on OF, you have to have a large following on SM to start with. You also need to show your face, and market yourself. A faceless woman, regardless of her body and the content she's producing, isn't going to be earning a huge amount. You'd have to find a particular niche in the market to make any money. I'm not going to judge, I'm not in your shoes.

I really wouldn't want to be a person that fuels the fetishes of random strangers. Who knows what kind of people they are and how they get their kicks when they don't have money for onlyfans. They could be sexual predators, rapist, abusers.

Nah. Not in a million years.

I'd rather wash up in the local caf.

If they are living at home but attending university then you need to take more fro their student loan - what else are they spending it on? At your salary (and assuming you live in England) they’d be getting over £6,000 a year each as a maintenance loan i.e, money they are meant to live on. I doubt they are spending that all on their commute, so most of the rest should really be going towards their rent and food.

This. And so many other negatives. Just forget this OP. It's a bad idea.

Depends how much demand you expect there to be for your content. Once it's out there, it's discoverable for ever. Has to be lucrative against the associated risks.

In the kindest way possible, I think you have to have a family conference and ask your kids at Uni for an extra £10-20/week each extra. That'll make a huge difference to you - and very little to your kids: round here that's perhaps an hour tutoring or an extra hour or two a week or one extra shift a month bar work for the other. Oldest, an extra hour a week.

They need to take responsibility for themselves and realise everything costs money, and that has to be earned.

(One wonders what they are spending their loan money on, as well as that they are earning in their various jobs! At that age my eldest (living at home) was saving every penny she could that wasn't keep, fuelling her car, paying her minimal mobile bill, or paying for her horses alongside uni, working on a dairy farm and riding peoples horses (this was the most lucrative) and worked all days in the holidays that she could including Christmas, so I'm quite sure your kids will have a fair bit of disposable income if they also are getting a student loan too - although DD had no loan (not including course fees), she still paid us a small sum to cover her food etc from her earnings).

Don't be too kind to them, they need to be able to plan to support themselves should you drop dead tomorrow!

Your children live at home while studying at university - they have some part time work in the evenings. OP - you are financially supporting them by providing a roof over their head. This is your financial contribution, but I’d expect they took a maintenance loan plus they have income.

How much do your children give you a month for their keep? Why do you buy their food at all? How much does your son who works part time contribute? Have you lost your single person discount on council tax since your eldest started working - do you charge him the difference of this? When your child graduates next year will you be charging them a decent rent and expecting them to get a full-time job? Do you pay for things for your children - like subscriptions, phones anything else? These things would be the first to go. When it is the summer holidays do your uni kids work the holidays and pay you?

Speaking for myself, I wasn't judging. I was simply pointing out that he could be prosecuted and end up with a criminal conviction and a hefty prison sentence, and trying to encourage you to explore alternative solutions.

I posted out of concern and a desire to help. I am sure many others have been motivated by the same. Some of the bluntness on this thread is likely because you don't seem to appreciate the reality of what you would be getting yourself into. People are trying to break the spell of your daydream about how easily and harmlessly you've imagined this solving all your problems.

Why ONly Fans? It's saturated and the days of making big bucks are long gone. That was for the early adopters.

Why not work on another online product like a course or other type of podcast?

I'd also do it alone and not with a guy. Men will pay to pretend you care about them and that would be the angle I'd go with, alone.

Changed my name for this as I know the mumsnet hive thought on OF. I stopped doing OF last year having done it on and off for a few years. I did pretty well on it with a few dips here and there. I never offered porn. But I started with 30k instagram followers anyway.

It’s not about what you look like, it’s not what your figure looks like. It’s about people wanting to see you. How will you promote it? People only pay because they want to see someone they know or could possibly bump into on the street naked. There is free porn everywhere. Why would they pay for your page? This is all stuff you need to think through. OF is absolutely oversaturated with models and the only people who do well are influencers.

How will you promote yourself? Genuine question as there isn’t a browser where people can scroll through and decide to view your content. Are you going to go public with it? I imagine if you did the first month you’d get quite a few subs of people you know to see if you are naked on there but it’ll die down pretty fast after that. Faceless creators have it 1000000x harder because you have to decide why someone would pay for your content, unless you’re offering something extreme.

The average OF user makes £200 a month. The majority of the income is made by the top 0.1% of earners on the site. There’s a huge jump in how much a person in the top 2% and the top 0.01% earn. I’m talking tens of K.

Beside anything I’m not sure how your plan is viable- just some honesty here. It really isn’t some quick rich scheme people seem to think it is. In fact I think a lot of women end up absolutely violating themselves on the internet having come away earning about a hundred pounds or so. If you do it go into it well researched with your eyes wide open.

we could say that the idea that Only Fans is the only solution was delusional working class shite (I was born into a very poor working class family and now live a slightly wealthier middle class life). There are times when even as a professional I have needed more money and I would rather do care work or be a cleaner (which all my friends turn their nose up at) than do OF. But each to their own.*

*Many years ago I was in desperate financial straits and considered sex work as a solution. I am so glad I didn’t do it. I believe that the only reason I considered it was because it was becoming normalised in society. People like Katie Price and Kerry Katona make out that it is an easy way to make millions but when you really think about it who wants to sell their body like that. I personally think it is degrading.

@SquareEyedSue - I think that's a good point, how much this kind of work has been normalised in society. I've been really desperate for money as well, but did cleaning and shifts in a care home.
I think there's a real shift in society about these things.

Who appointed you thread police? 🤦‍♀️

Don’t do it.
You are at the moment unable to change what is coming in so you must change what is going out.
Benefit check for you.
Benefit check for non student and another application for PIP. If he is medically unfit to work full time then he needs to apply.
If the students are living at home with small loans and have some earnings each then they should start to take over their own costs like phones. If they cannot contribute money then they can contribute time. To do housework, to do the time consuming food shopping and bulk cooking which helps bring down food bills.
Absolutely thorough look at all outgoings, for forgotten subscriptions, for memberships you don’t need.
Consider things like Airtime where you get money from certain spends which you use for phone bill. Bank accounts with cash back or round up. Tiny amounts but every little counts.

Are you exceptionally attractive for your age OP?
No offence but the average mother of 3 adult kids is not going to be pulling in much money from OF… why don’t you get one of your daughters to pimp herself out instead and fund herself.