To feel sad that my Dd will not really know what it’s like to be British

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We live abroad, Dh and I both British, Dd is 6 and was born where we live. We have been ‘Back home’ a couple of times for short holidays, but mainly everyone comes to us.
Ive started to feel sad recently that she won’t experience a British childhood/upbringing, unless we move in the next few years-will it be too late then?
How important is it that we try to keep her informed of her heritage (if that’s the right word!)

Where do you live?

South Europe

I understand your feelings, but maybe let her be what she is - she's presumably bilingual, and will have 2 rich sets of heritage from which to draw. Win-win imho.

Come on. That's big. What country?

Why does it matter 😅

YABU
Being British is pretty embarrassing these days. I'd adopt the other nationality for the whole family.

No it isn’t 🙄

But yes, make sure she always speaks fluent English as that's useful all over the world.

Because we’re nosy and as somebody who has never emigrated I find it really interesting.

It is for me

😂

Op isn’t you

Leaving aside the fact that at this moment in time being British is possibly more of a curse than a blessing, I do understand the sense of wanting her to understand her heritage.

But I think you can instill that in her in the culture you have at home and the way you talk about Britain. Is she bilingual?

Let her be herself. Both British and whatever. It's an advantage being multicultural these days.

I have an English Dad and a Mum from an EU country, and I grew up in a third EU country.

I have now lived in London for three decades and am probably more British/English than anything else but not in the way people who grew up here are. I do feel rootless but English is my mother tongue and that does have the biggest impact.

Just trying to say that while I probably wanted to be more English while I was growing up, it is not something which I am at all sad about now. Now I wish I had more of a connection to my Mum’s country because while I do speak that language, I sound like a foreigner when I speak it.

What language (or languages) is your daughter being educated in? In my experience that will have the biggest impact.

Because her childhood will be different to yours, thats ok. And you didnt experience what she will.
Is there anything you think she’s missing out on that may be valuable?

She is

She’s being educated in the language where we are
What age did you go to live in England?

I'm just curious that's all. If you don't want to say I'll respect your boundaries

What’s wrong with the heritage of the country you live in, that she’s growing up in?

Not valuable as such, just everything Dh and I had, that sort of childhood I suppose- silly things probably-conker fights, the ice cream man, rainy caravan holidays, Blackpool, English countryside, British primary schools, proper libraries, just the whole culture really..she’ll be different to us…hard to explain really

Nothing’s wrong with it at all, it’s just not ours, which may sound odd

I don't think a 'British childhood' means the same thing anymore anyway. Times have changed.
I lived abroad in South Europe as a teenager from age 12 onwards. Had the best possible experience. Your child will love her life.

Do you feel more connection to that place or your earlier childhood?

That place. 100%. Which may not be the answer you're looking for, but I had an amazing life. England would never have provided me the experiences I had there.