DSis is skimping on Christmas because she’s obsessed with her Skye trip?

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DSis has announced on the family chat that she’s doing a smaller Christmas this year so she and BIL can save for their big Isle of Skye holiday next summer.
Fine in theory, except last year she happily accepted the tasteful and expensive pile of gifts I bought for them both, and now I am apparently only getting a little token.

DM has already chimed in with something about memories meaning more than materialistic things which pissed me off.

AIBU to think she can save for her holiday without cheaping out on me and the rest of the family?????

Return all their presents and give them Costa coffee gift cards for their trip instead

Sounds like your DSis has come to her Christmas senses.

It's a month and a half. Most people haven't started buying yet, YABU.

We do Secret Santa for adults with a £50 limit and it’s genuinely great.

We started it because my DM and my DB and DSIL were struggling financially but it’s also been great for reducing the amount of stuff you get. We use a website to draw names and create a list so everyone gets something they actually want rather than a panic buy the day before (my brother’s signature move).

I think good for your DSIS spending money on something she really wants instead of buying crap for the sake of it. Maybe you can follow her lead!

I'm glad you're not my sister.

Good for your sister !! Live is about enjoying yourself not about wasting money for one day !

Why not return any gifts over what the OP wants to give (and I’m fair,y sure she hasn’t bought any or she’d have said) and choose a thoughtful cheaper gift? Why put no thought in just because the DSis has requested less to be spent?

What has what you got her last year got to do with what you get her this year? You don't need to get the number or expense of presents you got last year. At least she's told you now in November and hasn't gone 'oh, by the way, we've cut back on expensive presents this year because of our expensive holiday next year' when you all meet up on Christmas Eve...

Oh my God, is there such a thing as a Christmas-zilla? You are surely it.

I do think this is unreasonable.

however, I think there must also be more to this. Do you have resentment between you in other ways?

I really don't get full grown adults being materialistic about gifts. I don't really buy anyone except my dd much for Christmas because it's stressful and pointless. Most of the people I know are just happy to enjoy some time together. Just take this as an opportunity to by them a box of quality street each instead of wasting the time and money and you can all get on with your lives.

I don't give people gifts just to get gifts in return, people can spend their money on whatever they want to.

Yuck. This is exactly why Christmas can be bloody depressing. What a grubby little attitude.

😂

I’ve never known an adult get into such a strop about adult to adult presents.

I would match energy, even at this late stage.

I know one of my sisters already has presents bought, and probably wrapped. I wouldn't change goalposts set for years by setting a new, lower budget now.

Reverse surely?!!

This is like the cutla thread!!!!

entitled people expecting expensive gifts!!

Why do people keep using the word "obsessed" to describe things that aren't actually obsessive at all? Budgeting for a trip doesn't mean you're obsessed with it.

Oh my goodness I’m so sorry to read that. Sending so many hugs. ❤️

This is enough time for you to do the same in return! It’s like 44 days until Xmas!

My SIL did this and they’re loaded! Now we get token shit and I give token shit in return!

Christmas gifts are not about an equal exchange of expenditure.

It sounds like you've already bought gifts so I understand where you're coming from. Return if possible, and ask for a budget that everyone is working to. If you can't return could you say you've already bought something lovely and will be doing a combined birthday and Christmas gift. Or if you like it keep the gift for yourself 😁

I'm sure someone has already said this but what if her circumstances had drastically changed in the past year and she had no choice but to spend less , would that roll on to next year's Christmas? 🤔

The terns of the Christmas gifts???

Do you only buy to recieve?

If you have got presemts that you feel you no longer want to give, then return them

So you give to receive?