DSis is skimping on Christmas because she’s obsessed with her Skye trip?

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DSis has announced on the family chat that she’s doing a smaller Christmas this year so she and BIL can save for their big Isle of Skye holiday next summer.
Fine in theory, except last year she happily accepted the tasteful and expensive pile of gifts I bought for them both, and now I am apparently only getting a little token.

DM has already chimed in with something about memories meaning more than materialistic things which pissed me off.

AIBU to think she can save for her holiday without cheaping out on me and the rest of the family?????

I'd much rather spend money to visit Skye than buy a gift for an ungrateful sibling. I hope my family only spend what they can comfortably afford and nobody is keeping a tally (what an unhappy way to buy gifts).

Wow this can’t be real.

Could your presents last year embarrass her? So she’s trying to request a cut back whilst trying to not offend?

She given you notice. We don't buy adult presents here so maybe suggest that. I do buy for my parents as they wouldn't get to open anything otherwise. Or do a secret Santa in the family so you only buying one present for adults. Yabu.

Just agree and get her something small too.

this is basically the same thread as the one about the friend not spending much on ops kids this year because she’s saving to go to centre parcs 😂😂

This.

What is with MN today?

I’m not keeping score, I’m simply pointing out that DSis set a precedent. If she wants to renegotiate the terms of the Christmas gifts, that’s fine, but I’m going to need notice, not just one month!

I was just thinking the same thing! Entitled family members expecting lavish gifts.

You have had your warning OP. Christmas is scaled back so these people can focus on
their own lives. You are not entitled to their money and neither are they to yours. Set a budget if you want to do tit for tat.

Yabu...Why not just agree not to do gifts this year.

My family now partake in secret santa, including the kids...we set a limit and each choose a thoughtful gift and open them all together on a "fake Christmas day" obviously we buy for our own children but I don't buy nieces and nephews anymore (and my sis doesn't buy mine), they are included in secret santa.

Saves drama and upset

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Many outdoors folk swear by it, and by giving it as a gift, it shows thought in that you researched it. I used to buy it from a local Avon agent years ago, and it worked then.

Article linked here on what one works best. I think they changed some items in the range, so a quick google to find what one is best might be good.

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So have you already bought her gift? Return it if you no longer want to give it to her

Just give her a smaller present this Yr. She can save for a holiday if she wants. Not sure why she's 'obsessed' though.

Nobody forced you to spend loads on her. I think a holiday is a much better use of money tbh, and hope she loves Skye!

Why didn’t she get you a present last year?

Do not give presents this year.

And give a basic £20 wedding present.

Christmas is weeks away. How much notice do you need?

Last year was last year. What did she give you? This year give her a smaller gift. You have well over a month to find said smaller gift. This couldn’t be less of an issue.

I haven’t even started shopping yet! Your sister has given you plenty of notice.

Why do you need more than a month's notice?!

Just waiting for the drip feed now.

"renegotiate the terms of the Christmas gifts"
"I’m going to need notice, not just one month" (it's 10th of November)
Comedy gold 🤣🤣

This is the second “they’re spending less on Christmas” thread I’ve seen. what’s the issue?

It’s a ridiculous idea to spend stupid amounts of money giving ‘stuff’ to people on a day that been over commercialised by retailers. No one needs half the crap that’s bought and ends up the charity shops in January, or worse, landfill.

We only give to the children in our family to avoid all this overspending and unneeded gifts nonsense.

Another transactional present giving thread. Just give what you want to give and what gives you pleasure to give. Then move on.

Just stop with the “tasteful and expensive pile of gifts I bought for them both” last Christmas. Nobody, and I mean nobody, needs this. Most people already have too much stuff. Chances are at least some of the tasteful stuff ended up in a charity shop.

Let her make experiences. Why don’t you do the same? And enjoy Christmas as an opportunity to spend quality time with the people who matter to you.

Last year doesn't matter. She's letting you know we'll in advance not to go all out spending for gifts for her family because she's not going to.

It's normal to want a nice holiday and cut spending accordingly. You're being very unreasonable.

You've got a month and a half's notice. Surely that's more than enough!