Husband wants to move to dubai

[Dilemma87]

My husband is a businessman in property and with the recent proposed tax changes and new rules putting limits on how long he can keep doing things from the UK, he’s now saying he needs to move to Dubai and operate from there.

We actually have some friends there, and his business partner is already based out there, so on paper it all sounds easy enough. His plan is to buy a second property in Dubai and move there by himself, while I stay here with the kids.

The problem is, the children are really settled one’s in high school and the other is due to start soon, so moving them just isn’t an option. He’s suggested that we (me and the kids) fly out to Dubai every school holiday to spend time with him.

The catch is, under his visa he can only be out of Dubai for 90 days a year, so he’d basically have to live there full-time.

AIBU to think this is just not going to work long-term? I can’t help but feel like this is the start of living completely separate lives.

Does it have to be long-term? Why not see how it goes?

I think he should pay his fucking taxes in the UK. Especially if his family will be here anyway.
People bailing out because they may have to contribute a bit more are supremely selfish. And any man who would move to Dubai gives not one single fuck about women.

To be honest, your children would benefit from moving away also. This is not an opportunity afforded to everyone. You should take while you still can. This country is going to the dogs faster than you can say canine. Get out while you can.

I don’t see him wanting to come back once he has moved and settled there

Why are you so angry about a stranger’s husband on the internet. It’s beyond weird.

So he wants to move to Dubai to avoid paying taxes, he sounds like a twat to be honest.

No you don't have to move to Dubai and uproot your whole family just so he can dodge paying tax.

Yanbu, you tell him that YOU will move to dubai and he can take care of the kids 🙄

Not an option imo, he said marriage vows and needs to respect them and be present in the family home.

He sounds completely rational actually. But then all those leeching off the system don’t like it when the hand that fed them has been bitten raw and they stop paying towards other people to live for free.

I’m not angry about her husband per se. I’m angry about people taking the advantages of this country to get into a good position then thinking they can fuck off. And also the sort of misogyny that thinks it’s ok to do so to Dubai.

Totally.

Hmm why is he happy to live in Dubai by himself and you and the kids remain here just to avoid the rise jn taxes??

So you’ll see him a few times a year? Doesn’t sound like a decent marriage. Seems he wants to get away from you and the kids. How can anyone want to voluntarily be that far away from your family? If he leaves, I’d be saying it’s the end of the marriage.

I’d just all go if you can afford good schools for the kids out there . Loads of my friends moved for the start of high school and again start of GCSEs, it gave them much better opportunities than staying in the UK

Don’t move yourself and the kids. If he wants to go, that shows how much he values you and the family. Ask him if he really wants to lose you for the sake of saving a bit of money on tax. Money can’t buy love and happiness.

Most people who move there go home eventually.

How are they taking advantage? The people taking advantage are the ones who think they can squeeze people paying for this system and are then surprised when they up and leave.

Get used to it. Thats how socialist utopia works. All the ones with money leave, and the ones used to living off other people then fight for scraps.

That's the strange bit

I hope your dh's business thrives there. Reeves will make it super hard for you and your family here. No income tax is the dream

He sounds completely selfish, he's prioritising money and himself over his family

I would never even consider moving somewhere where women’s rights are in comparison to dog shit.

OP, you won’t get any sensible replies here, too much hysteria about Dubai.

Totally agree with this.

I’d be very upset if DH was willing to only see me and our kids in school holidays. What does that say about him??

Bear in mind also that the long summer holidays are horrifically hot in Dubai, there’s no way you’d want to go then.

As the saying goes…..anyone who thinks money doesn’t buy happiness hasn’t given away enough of their own.

Moving to Dubai, to count money, whilst completing screwing any semblance of a normal family life…

Sounds dreamy.