Husband wants to move to dubai

[Dilemma87]

My husband is a businessman in property and with the recent proposed tax changes and new rules putting limits on how long he can keep doing things from the UK, he’s now saying he needs to move to Dubai and operate from there.

We actually have some friends there, and his business partner is already based out there, so on paper it all sounds easy enough. His plan is to buy a second property in Dubai and move there by himself, while I stay here with the kids.

The problem is, the children are really settled one’s in high school and the other is due to start soon, so moving them just isn’t an option. He’s suggested that we (me and the kids) fly out to Dubai every school holiday to spend time with him.

The catch is, under his visa he can only be out of Dubai for 90 days a year, so he’d basically have to live there full-time.

AIBU to think this is just not going to work long-term? I can’t help but feel like this is the start of living completely separate lives.

Part of the problem here is you have people spouting about living in a place you have never been to.

Generally speaking kids get more out of quality time with their family than ‘tons of money’.

It’s arguably a much less sport-friendly climate than the UK so I’m not sure why you’re trying to put that forward as a plus point.

the biggest danger to teens in the uk is drivers. Its not being confronted by anyone but being killed by drivers

It's not 40 degrees all year round but it is a place where you rarely get rain unless they are cloud seeding. The temperatures do vary. Less sport friendly than the UK? 😀

It’s all true but it’s the same in India or Thailand and I don’t see people not travelling there on moral grounds

You seem to be forgetting that football training, for example, continues through the winter in the UK. Much easier to play sports in cold, wet weather than sweltering heat - over the half the year is 35+!

Sorry, I confused you with a pp who was living in Dubai. If you're not living there, I totally get not knowing the conditions.im fairness, they've also been reported less in the past few years as there have been reforms, but clearly not enough

My uncle was obviously onto that trend back in 2005 🤣

Malta has its issues but I think it's better than Dubai. Only so much room there, though...

No teenager in the UAE is going to get stabbed to death that's for sure.

Kids don't face severe danger here by default. But yes, I agree violent crime must be tackled ASAP.

Ofc no place is perfect - but that ignores that there are degrees of morality and Dubai is hardly the top given it's currently driving a genocide by the RSF army in Sudan.

If you want to move, go to Malta as pp posted. Or Lithuania, Poland, Czech Republic...nearly every country in Europe is safer than UK, without being as immoral as Dubai. I find the trend to relativise Dubai's morality and pretend we're just as bad very sinister.

So no one can have an evidence-based opinion on a country they haven't visited, @ozarina Plenty of people visited Mao's China, for one, and saw nothing wrong, even during the famines. Visited/= knowledge.

So you deny that these things are a problem?

Facilitating ongoing Sudan genocide, porta potties, migrant slave labour, princesses held captive by the ruling family, gay sex and adultery illegal, flogging on the cards for breaking the alcohol laws,...the list goes on..

Do they treat migrant workers as badly as Dubai? Personally I think people SHOULD boycott both for multiple reasons.

So it's 'hysteria' to disagree with the Sudan genocide they're currently enabling?

Porta potty abuse? Migrant workers treated like slaves? The royal family holding the princesses prisoner? Gay sex being illegal? Alcohol lawbreakers potentially being flogged? Death penalty?

The Sudan stuff idk. I'll have to read.

Sex workers and migrant abuse - fair.

Royal family abusing their princesses - fair

Gay sex being illegal - it's a Muslim country, what do you expect? For them to allow something that's the complete antithesis to their faith?

Muslims are supposed to drink alcohol.

The death penalty is a good deterrent for murder, but I understand the issues around it

They treat their own workers like that

do you really have no idea? you are only obsessed with Dubai?

So where would you travel? US ?

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not anymore!

I know people who live there and love it, but why is he leaving you behind? If the business is doing so well, why not all move? There are excellent schools, you could have a fabulous lifestyle, and he's not a man on his own miles away from you, with all the attendant risks and temptations. However, on the flip side, I have Syrian friends who say they would not dream of moving back to any of the Arab states, it's too volatile out there, plus human rights issues etc. If you do all go, keep a property in the UK as a safety net.

Apart from anything else this is a one- way road to Affairsville and Divorce City

I agree, and the op seems to be in denial about this.

Yes these things go on. Dubai is for sale.

Many Arabs indulge in gay sex. It's encouraged as opposed to mixing with women before engagement.

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