Husband wants to move to dubai

[Dilemma87]

My husband is a businessman in property and with the recent proposed tax changes and new rules putting limits on how long he can keep doing things from the UK, he’s now saying he needs to move to Dubai and operate from there.

We actually have some friends there, and his business partner is already based out there, so on paper it all sounds easy enough. His plan is to buy a second property in Dubai and move there by himself, while I stay here with the kids.

The problem is, the children are really settled one’s in high school and the other is due to start soon, so moving them just isn’t an option. He’s suggested that we (me and the kids) fly out to Dubai every school holiday to spend time with him.

The catch is, under his visa he can only be out of Dubai for 90 days a year, so he’d basically have to live there full-time.

AIBU to think this is just not going to work long-term? I can’t help but feel like this is the start of living completely separate lives.

What an utterly abhorrent selfish man. I’m not sure I could look him in the eye with any respect again.

Agree away. How are you going to keep people who pay for this system in the UK. They are fleeing in their hundreds of thousands. Good on them.

Sounds to me like you don’t understand democratic socialism. I mean, Finland seems fine.

No they aren’t.

Maybe because the husband expects other taxpayers to pay for services his children use, while he swans off to avoid paying tax?

What sort of school are your DC in OP? Is it state or grammar or private?

Why? Can't think why anyone what to visit and no idea why anyone want to live there!

It doesnt sound like you like each other very much if you are even considering this. Why are you married???

He needs to move to Dubai?

No he doesn't.

He fancies moving to Dubai to be an "expat" semi bachelor, whilst the little wife raises the kids and allows him to pretend he's making a big sacrifice being away from his family (sacrificing actually bringing his kids up for the worthy cause of not paying taxes).

Your children do not need to move to Dubai especially at secondary age. If you all moved with him and your marriage broke down (as often happens) you would lose your children - trying to bring them back to the UK without his permission would be kidnapping.

Your husband is pulling a fast one here - he's seen a chance to have his cake and eat it.

This ⬆️.

I'd divorce him for even contemplating moving there.

Its.also going to be a dire place to be once climate change really starts biting

But it's full of vapid materialistic people so it sounds like he will fit right in.

I'd support my DH if he wanted to move and have his business thrive.

Your DH is doing this for you and your kids in the long run.

Like the money he makes he'll send to you and your kids right?

No, this can’t be true.

No income tax is a nightmare. How do you pay for roads? Police? Health care. The army? Schools?
So selfish and so deluded. If you have to fund all that yourself you would be in real trouble.

Yeah most people I know who work in Dubai come back to the UK in August

Ah yes, women’s rights. Like in this country where if you object to man calling himself a woman and forcing himself in your changing rooms, you’ll get fired from your job and get done for non-crime hate incident.

He wants you to fly TO Dubai in July/Aug school holidays??

Does he not know what temperatures/humidity it gets to?

This is not normal OP. Either you all go or you all stay.
the only guy I know with this arrangement is divorced.
I can understand why he’s fed up with the situation here. But leaving you behind is not the solution unless it’s the precursor to a split.

Divorce him now while he's in the UK and you have chance of a fair settlement.

You’re right. In Dubai, they have no roads, police or schools. That’s why people flock there in their millions.

How do they do it in the UAE

I’d be very worried if I was married to a man who wasn’t concerned about living separately from me and our kids. It can’t feel nice to know you come second behind his job.

Im going to guess you’re already wealthy? When you marry someone, you want love and commitment - none of which he’s showing you and your kids. Your kids must be gutted he’s considering leaving them.

No way would I ever move my kids to Dubai. Personally I wouldn’t even go there on holiday even if you paid me.

You want the benefits of this country decent schools etc but your DH doesn't want to pay tax towards it.

Pay taxes in the UK. Don’t support a hideous regime with appalling human rights. Sleep at night.