Kid left out of party - why?!

[Partypooper101]

DD9 is in a small very boy heavy class. A girl in the class who she considers a friend, not a bestie, but definitely a friend, is having a party and has invited all the girls in the class bar DD and one other girl. Before everyone comes for me, yes of course I know nobody is obligated to invite anyone to their party, and no there have 100% not been any fallouts etc. There’s definitely no issues between them, DD was surprised not to be invited and although she’s not said anything about it at school, at home she’s admitted to me she’s hurt at being left out and doesn’t understand “what she’s done wrong to be left out”. The parents of the girl whose party it is are known to be wealthy; it’s not a money issue of having to be strict on numbers, and it’s being held at their massive house so not a space issue either! DD has invited this girl to every party she’s ever had (& we’re definitely not wealthy! 😂)
I know I’m probably being pathetic but it stings. DD is lovely. I’m not saying that blindly either, she really is. Why’s she been left out?! ☹️

I wouldn’t tell my DC to invite someone over they didn’t want to. Forcing invites and friendships is messy, especially if it’s a sleepover.
You can be polite and mindful of numbers, especially if it’s a big bouncy castle in a hall type event but not if it’s at your house and DC don’t want them there.

I would say it’s an unfortunate oversight or more likely it’s deliberate and party girl doesn’t want your DD for a reason - it might be a really rubbish reason but 9 year olds can be unreasonable.

Sometimes you have to restrict party numbers fact! Maybe she has family to invite too? I always let my children decide who they wanted to invite and unfortunately we couldn’t invite all the class . It’s not personal .

This type of thing happens all the time to kids all over the country. It doesnt really matter why. We are not going to know and you are not going to know. Instead focus on what you can do instead to support your daughter and the other girl - the other posters suggestion of arranging your own friends thing for the 2 of them is a great one. Focus on your and yours not them and theirs

But that’s sort of what has happened here. You say you would not invite all but one. And in this instance all were invited but two

It's obvious why that child does not get invited to parties. She has a rude, entitled and pushy mother.

@Whammyammy Sorry, are you talking about me?

She commented on the wrong thread. There’s one floating around today where a mum turned up with her uninvited daughter and was turned away.

@Thedevilhasfinallycaughtupwithhim

Oh! 😂 Thanks for clarifying! 😂🙌🏼