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chunkymum4 · 07/11/2025 23:48

KitTea3 · 07/11/2025 23:11

Meh

My opinion on dangerous dogs is that it's entirely dependent on their owner and how they are trained/raised.

My best friend adopted an XL bully, she had just given birth to a litter of puppies despite being very young herself (and this was believed to be her second litter) and thankfully they all got adopted into loving homes. (Jat before the ban came in)

I have absolutely zero fear being around that dog. Because I know my friend and I know my friend takes it very seriously. She has made sure she's been trained, she is always nuzzled in public, she is registered and well cared for. And honestly she is soft as a fucking brush. I have no qualms fucking cuddling her because she has never and I doubt would ever show any signs of aggression because she hasn't been brought up to. The issue with many, especially those owned by idiots who like to act tough is they are treated like shit with no training and encouraged to be violent.

I feel safer around an XL bully than I do many men... 🙄🤦🏼‍♀️

But that’s what everyone says don’t they? Loving family pet, never done this before, properly trained. I don’t doubt that some are treated poorly because let’s face it, the vast majority of people who actively seek out this dogs are morons who use them as a status symbol and at best don’t train them and at worse wilfully mistreat them.

With most other breeds I think that training is integral to their overall disposition and behaviour but not with XLB. They just aren’t wired up right. I hope you and your friend don’t have to find out the hard way.

Curly66 · 07/11/2025 23:51

Factsoverfiction · 07/11/2025 19:10

What’s an xl bully?

Maybe look it up on Google??

AcquadiP · 08/11/2025 00:23

Aubrielle · 07/11/2025 22:31

I agree @AcquadiP but it's an impossible task. There should have been restrictions imposed on importing fighting dogs like the Perro de Presa Canario and Cane Corso - there was little point in banning Tosa and Fila but allowing these other similar breeds in.

Some of the guarding breeds like Caucasian and Central Asian should also face restrictions. They are not dogs that belong on the average UK housing estate, they need knowledgeable and experienced homes.

They also need to stop the importation of the Eastern European rescue dogs flooding in. Some of these are dangerous due to being a mix of street dogs, hounds and livestock guarding dogs (and I speak as a person with a background in Livestock Guarding breeds). People are taking in these rescue dogs and adopting them into a family home without knowing or understanding they have a strong guarding instinct that can become a liability. So in my opinion, a lot of these rescues are also an accident waiting to happen.

The Dangerous Dogs act was knee jerk legislation that was not well thought out and we will be paying for this for the foreseeable future.

I completely agree, Aubrielle. The whole system needs a thorough overhaul.

The Cane Corso I predict will be banned in the UK in the near future. They seem to be the new dog of choice for the XLB fans and have caused two fatalities in the UK already. The Dogue de Bordeaux is another contender. Livestock Guarding Breeds are great dogs in the right hands but as you know need careful management, a traumatised one especially. We have enough dogs in this country in rescue centres, we shouldn't be importing them!

Crochetandtea · 08/11/2025 00:48

The family should be charged with manslaughter. They chose a dog over their baby. Congratulations on the outcome! They will live with this forever knowing it is their fault and their fault alone.

Crochetandtea · 08/11/2025 01:07

Perhaps this is an example of natural selection- stupid people keeping dangerous dogs which kill their own offspring?

Mayaameliaa · 08/11/2025 02:31

Of course yanbu. Never mind muzzling these monsters, this breed should be wiped out completely.
I just don’t get the mentality of XL bully owners - what the fuck is actually mentally wrong with them? So many of them really believe their perfect velvet hippo wouldn’t hurt a fly, right up until the moment they do - what actually is it about their XL bully that convinces them they are so special and different to all the others? And why risk it? Owning a dog like this is beyond stupid. And unfortunately it’s innocent children who have to pay the price.

Duckie2025 · 08/11/2025 02:37

They should be shot dead on sight. Every last one of them.

Bones101 · 08/11/2025 02:40

Parents knew the high risk and they didn't care.

We all know what kinds of people have these dogs.

goldboots · 08/11/2025 07:24

KitTea3 · 07/11/2025 23:11

Meh

My opinion on dangerous dogs is that it's entirely dependent on their owner and how they are trained/raised.

My best friend adopted an XL bully, she had just given birth to a litter of puppies despite being very young herself (and this was believed to be her second litter) and thankfully they all got adopted into loving homes. (Jat before the ban came in)

I have absolutely zero fear being around that dog. Because I know my friend and I know my friend takes it very seriously. She has made sure she's been trained, she is always nuzzled in public, she is registered and well cared for. And honestly she is soft as a fucking brush. I have no qualms fucking cuddling her because she has never and I doubt would ever show any signs of aggression because she hasn't been brought up to. The issue with many, especially those owned by idiots who like to act tough is they are treated like shit with no training and encouraged to be violent.

I feel safer around an XL bully than I do many men... 🙄🤦🏼‍♀️

The family whose dog just killed that baby also registered their XL bully.

It still killed a 9 month old in their own home.

A few owners who came out on social media to defend the breed insisted their dogs were fully trained and treated well just as you are saying now.

Their dogs killed them a few months later.

Velvian · 08/11/2025 07:39

KitTea3 · 07/11/2025 23:11

Meh

My opinion on dangerous dogs is that it's entirely dependent on their owner and how they are trained/raised.

My best friend adopted an XL bully, she had just given birth to a litter of puppies despite being very young herself (and this was believed to be her second litter) and thankfully they all got adopted into loving homes. (Jat before the ban came in)

I have absolutely zero fear being around that dog. Because I know my friend and I know my friend takes it very seriously. She has made sure she's been trained, she is always nuzzled in public, she is registered and well cared for. And honestly she is soft as a fucking brush. I have no qualms fucking cuddling her because she has never and I doubt would ever show any signs of aggression because she hasn't been brought up to. The issue with many, especially those owned by idiots who like to act tough is they are treated like shit with no training and encouraged to be violent.

I feel safer around an XL bully than I do many men... 🙄🤦🏼‍♀️

That theory may apply to some entent with most breeds, but not with this one.

Does your friend have children?

MrJollyLivesNextDoor · 08/11/2025 07:45

KitTea3 · 07/11/2025 23:11

Meh

My opinion on dangerous dogs is that it's entirely dependent on their owner and how they are trained/raised.

My best friend adopted an XL bully, she had just given birth to a litter of puppies despite being very young herself (and this was believed to be her second litter) and thankfully they all got adopted into loving homes. (Jat before the ban came in)

I have absolutely zero fear being around that dog. Because I know my friend and I know my friend takes it very seriously. She has made sure she's been trained, she is always nuzzled in public, she is registered and well cared for. And honestly she is soft as a fucking brush. I have no qualms fucking cuddling her because she has never and I doubt would ever show any signs of aggression because she hasn't been brought up to. The issue with many, especially those owned by idiots who like to act tough is they are treated like shit with no training and encouraged to be violent.

I feel safer around an XL bully than I do many men... 🙄🤦🏼‍♀️

The dog has never shown aggression etc etc. they never do, do they.

Until it does and then it’s too late and you will have difficulty stopping it.

Its your choice to be around the dog but if you have children you need to be very careful indeed.

ohwoaw · 08/11/2025 11:32

goldboots · 08/11/2025 07:24

The family whose dog just killed that baby also registered their XL bully.

It still killed a 9 month old in their own home.

A few owners who came out on social media to defend the breed insisted their dogs were fully trained and treated well just as you are saying now.

Their dogs killed them a few months later.

Edited

Idiots the lot of them!

Ihatetomatoes · 08/11/2025 12:42

MrJollyLivesNextDoor · 08/11/2025 07:45

The dog has never shown aggression etc etc. they never do, do they.

Until it does and then it’s too late and you will have difficulty stopping it.

Its your choice to be around the dog but if you have children you need to be very careful indeed.

This. To others with XL bully types, they don't harm a fly but then they kill a child when in a rage. Children need protection from idiots that spout this

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Whaleandsnail6 · 08/11/2025 12:46

MrJollyLivesNextDoor · 08/11/2025 07:45

The dog has never shown aggression etc etc. they never do, do they.

Until it does and then it’s too late and you will have difficulty stopping it.

Its your choice to be around the dog but if you have children you need to be very careful indeed.

100% agree with this.

With xl bullies, it really feels like all of the taking the usual precautions of not getting in the face, not leaving kids alone woth them etc doesn't matter...these dogs just turn and kill /seriously harm with their aggression.

I just don't think "normal rules" safeguard against the risk. Everyone always says "my dog would never hurt a fly/daft as a brush/big softie" and maybe it has until the moment it isn't., and the potential for death or serious injury is too high with these dogs in my opinion

loobylou10 · 08/11/2025 16:43

yes of course they do, did you read the post I was replying to? That post said that staffies are not XL bullies. Which is correct.

loobylou10 · 08/11/2025 16:45

That’s was to @EasternStandard who asked me if XL bullies concerned me

Hallywally · 08/11/2025 16:49

Again- all the precautions/training don’t matter. They’re not like any other dog breed. I stand by the cat vs tiger theory. They just aren’t comparable to ordinary domestic dogs.

Pedallleur · 08/11/2025 17:03

ohwoaw · 07/11/2025 07:14

Chav status symbol

Intimidation dog. I'll generalise and say you look at the owners and you know why they have that dog.

Cherrysoup · 08/11/2025 17:04

Trouble is, an outright ban would bring about even more underground/unlicensed breeding (litter round my way over summer), it’s all about the money.

Statistically, the numbers show that labradors are more likely to bite (not kill!) purely because of how many are registered annually: a quick look on a popular selling site shows almost 700 litters for sale today (compared to 180 springer litters).

As already mentioned, any dog (including the much touted spaniel, I’ve had one that was an absolute horror with other dogs and would snap at people, he was attacked as a baby and totally changed 😢, had to be muzzled, of course) can be aggressive.

dynamiccactus · 08/11/2025 17:15

Rowgtfc72 · 07/11/2025 06:42

Honestly it could be any dog. Its an animal. You never, ever leave a dog alone with a young child.
They are not furbabies.
Thinking of the family of the baby.

Agreed. Certainly some breeds are far more likely to attack but any dog can turn.

A friend of my mum's had a dog (don't know what breed, it wasn't a little dog, that's all I know!) and she dropped something when doing a household job. For some reason, it flipped and bit her and took a chunk out of her arm (she'd had it for some years but it wasn't old). She had it PTS as she had a small grandchild.

Also agree with the PP who said the parents should be charged with manslaughter. Basically if your dog kills or injures someone you should be prosecuted as if you had done it.

I think that would concentrate minds, but unfortunately as so many people have dogs and say they won't hurt a fly (it's not the flies I am worried about!) the government won't do anything.

Pedallleur · 08/11/2025 17:16

Factsoverfiction · 07/11/2025 19:10

What’s an xl bully?

Devil dog. Basically 25kg plus of teeth and muscle with a determination to kill whatever it is fighting with. Others may disagree with opinion. Nothing charming or cute about these dogs. They are used to intimidate or act as a weapon.

ClareBlue · 08/11/2025 18:51

KitTea3 · 07/11/2025 23:11

Meh

My opinion on dangerous dogs is that it's entirely dependent on their owner and how they are trained/raised.

My best friend adopted an XL bully, she had just given birth to a litter of puppies despite being very young herself (and this was believed to be her second litter) and thankfully they all got adopted into loving homes. (Jat before the ban came in)

I have absolutely zero fear being around that dog. Because I know my friend and I know my friend takes it very seriously. She has made sure she's been trained, she is always nuzzled in public, she is registered and well cared for. And honestly she is soft as a fucking brush. I have no qualms fucking cuddling her because she has never and I doubt would ever show any signs of aggression because she hasn't been brought up to. The issue with many, especially those owned by idiots who like to act tough is they are treated like shit with no training and encouraged to be violent.

I feel safer around an XL bully than I do many men... 🙄🤦🏼‍♀️

There are loads of examples of where owners think this and something catastrophic happens. Why are you so arrogant that you think you can socialise instincts that have developed of hundreds of years and by how we bring them up. We can't even bring our own children up to not to sometimes end up violent even with the most nuturing upbringing. Why should we be able to do it with animals. We do not know all the triggers of animal behaviour and never will. It's manageable with dogs that we can over power when they are triggered to agression, but these dogs are powerful enough to kill adult men. They shouldn't be within our society or anywhere near our children.

Factsoverfiction · 08/11/2025 18:57

Pedallleur · 08/11/2025 17:16

Devil dog. Basically 25kg plus of teeth and muscle with a determination to kill whatever it is fighting with. Others may disagree with opinion. Nothing charming or cute about these dogs. They are used to intimidate or act as a weapon.

What?

ClareBlue · 08/11/2025 18:58

https://bbc.com/news/articles/c3gg6zql03eo
This poor lady was an advocate of 'there's no bad dog, just bad owners' and that properly trained dogs are not a risk. RIP

OmNomShiva · 08/11/2025 19:02

Duckie2025 · 08/11/2025 02:37

They should be shot dead on sight. Every last one of them.

100% - without hesitation. BAM.