Sister has inherited huge wealth. Help

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My sister has inherited huge wealth... multi millions. Through sad circumstances.
Myself, my younger sister and our parents are all struggling money wise, due to poor pay (work two jobs to try to help), sister is divorce, parents just pensioners. I am trying so hard to be happy for her as she spends spends spends, one day she spent £300k! I try to oo and aa over what she buys, but I'm dying inside and drowning at home. Please help me be more positive, or explain nicely how it's making me feel without ruining our relationship.

I'd keep my mouth shut until I'd recieved my Christmas present then say something. Now is not the time to risk falling out with a multi millionaire

What good fortune? The OP says sad circumstances, so it sounds as though somebody has died.

Sad circumstances could easily lead to her throwing herself into a spending frenzy as a diversion from grief
Unless she’s always been selfish ,shallow and self absorbed??

It all depends on your relationship with each other really.

If I came into a massive sum of money my siblings would receive none of it. And it would be the same if they did - I wouldn't see any of it. We are not on any kind of terms and don't see each other at all.

But in other families, close and loving ones, no one would be able to imagine a scenario where they don't share some of it.

So, it all depends which kind of your family yours is closest to.

I wouldn't expect a handout but I als wouldn't expect it to be thrown in my face.

She is a selfish cow. If I had anywhere close to that amount of money the first thing I'd do would be help my family and friends.
Unpopular view on Mumsnet but hey ho.

Tell her let's share in the joy and buy as all houses?
Pay of some debts etc
Multimillionaire you say?
Some people do not know how to share ttt

I once spent over £300k in one day too.

I’m guessing her husband or partner has passed away and that’s why she’s inherited. In which case maybe the spending is her way of grieving. Just be there for her if that’s the case and when the time is right suggest therapy .

People saying share the joy - that spending isn’t joyful if she inherited it in sad circumstances. In fact deep down I suspect she’s very unhappy and the spending a facade. Show some kindness to your grieving sister and she may rebalance

I would just say to her something along the lines of, I'm happy you're having fun with your money, you deserve it after what you've been through rather than feigning excitement at her big spending.

I would wait to see if she does / gives you all something extra at Xmas
If nothing or just usual bits i would try and have less contact just for your own sake.

She can do what she wants its her money but to be insensitive to family's position I def would think less of her.

Wow, I know for an absolute fact if my sis became a multimillionaire, my dps and myself wouldn't have to worry about money ever again, and vice versa...presumably you aren't very close if 1. She hasn't given you any money and 2. You can't discuss it with her

The absolute level of entitlement people have to other people’s money never ceases to amaze me.

a sports car and a holiday home...
My mum and dad do feel disappointed that she isn't even helping a little as it is multi millions and not through hard work. So almost like a lottery win. Not a deserved, worked for kind of thing.

Her money won't last long, if she spends like a nouveau riche. Before long, she'll be asking you for cash!

You said ‘sad circumstances’ - what are they?

That is extraordinarily tactless of her. I earn several times more than the vast majority of my friends and relatives and have never made comments like that (they don't even know how much I earn).

I think you need to be honest and say "I love you. I am happy that you are enjoying the money so much, and know that you would rather not have inherited. But I am struggling financially, as you know, and hearing about your spending habits is hard for me."

I can’t imagine inheriting millions and not helping out my family.

How heartless of her.

This. I disagree with others that it’s acceptable for you to suggest she gives money to your parents as a way of broaching anything. It will be seen as manipulation to get money from her yourself.

I'm going to go against the grain and say if she has the money due to losing her husband then your jealousy and resentment, as well as your entitled expectation, aren't a good look.

Tell her.

Say
“I really want to be happy for you but I’m struggling so much financially that I’m finding it really hard to be.”

If she cares about you, she’ll rein it in. If she really cares about you, she’ll help you out.

This! Make polite until Boxing Day. Then let rip 🥊

If not property, I'm guessing jewellery.

Its from a separated from but not divorced partner who died. They had separated but shared a child, but never got round to changing will. no other girlfriend/spouse on the scene. Not grief, they separated for a reason.