Sister has inherited huge wealth. Help

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My sister has inherited huge wealth... multi millions. Through sad circumstances.
Myself, my younger sister and our parents are all struggling money wise, due to poor pay (work two jobs to try to help), sister is divorce, parents just pensioners. I am trying so hard to be happy for her as she spends spends spends, one day she spent £300k! I try to oo and aa over what she buys, but I'm dying inside and drowning at home. Please help me be more positive, or explain nicely how it's making me feel without ruining our relationship.

no, they lived a normal middle management life. He had been hiding money. had a few investments, which paid out.

And why a will is so important if split up !

well she is very lucky to inherit so much money and not feel grief over the ex

all the money in the world wouldn’t have been enough for me when dh died

you need to say to her that it’s amazing she has this money so that she can now help out her loved ones - ie hint about parents and hopefully she will reliese you need some help

as brisk as sounds how much would you be happy with ? To make your life easier

Equally the money will run out one day if she keeps spending £300k a day

Well he could have left his estate in a more vindictive way.

Wow, so she is spending her child's inheritance?

Sorry but what sort of person inherits life changing money and watches their parents and siblings struggle?!

I would absolutely say something along the lines of ‘ you know I’m really happy for you, but had it occurred to you that me and our parents are struggling and you could make all of our life’s easier and that would mean so much’

Selfish cow!

That's what I think too.

It's actually quite unmaternal.

Just be less available.. By the sounds of it she won't be rich for long.
I always thought I and a half decent relationship with my df until he Won Big. He walked away. Yet again... Was fuming he'd done to my dc what he did to me though.

Id be brutally honest. Tell her you’re all struggling and her flaunting it is making you all resent her.

Have you considered taking out a life insurance policy for her with you as the beneficiary?

It sounds as though there will be plenty left over.

Clearly it depends on the individual.

Is this going to be one of those posts where every answer is made to make the sister even worse.

well maybe she’s grieving. Definitely not THEY hated him.

used to a rich live style. Oh no he hid the money

We get it you’re jealous. You can say you don’t want the money all you want but you clearly do.

Her and her child are celebrating the monster being dead and enjoying spending their money from the monster husband and father.

Just stop being their sounding board. It’s only you it’s hurting not her or her happy child.

I’ll assume the child is a teen to be happy their dad’s dead. More than old enough to let mum know their thoughts in that lovely stroppy teenage way.

A truly superior individual would be both intelligent and empathic enough to understand why OP feels this way, appreciate it would be a common feeling, and not insult and sneer at her for it.

It sounds luke she needs a financial advisor and quick. I would be more concerned for her losing the lot than anything else.

🙃 I bow to your total superiority

I'm going to be brutally honest op: you all sound like vultures.

It should be being invested to provide a comfortable life for the child, then what is left over goes to the child. That's what would happen if they were still married: no-one would see it as community funds.

The fact she was separated makes it even worse for her to divert them to her own use.

There was no real relationship between her and the deceased at the end. She is a mother with a child whose father died.

ETA by the sound of it, none of you even liked him. He's being bad-mouthed even in death.

Her wealth doesn’t make you any poorer.

Having said that, I’d find it hard watch that level of selfishness. I’d have to start distancing myself from her and any updates on her life and expenditures. Purely as an act of self preservation.

When her husband died he wouldn’t have expected his inheritance to go to his wife’s parents and siblings, no matter what their circumstances. If he’d been that bothered he’d have changed his will but as it is, you’re not entitled to any of that money. It’s for her and her children

She earned it by living with an ogre!!

Just tell her, I m delighted you are so financially secure, however please remember most of the family are really scrimping to get by and will be for the rest of our days. We all need to be considerate to each others worries.

TBF : she can't really spend it on her own family, the ogre s child would resent the inheritance being divided out between the maternal family. She has to spend/invest. Good for her, stay friendly, you might get to use the holiday home.

As per my first message, I'm not expecting money. Just wish she could be a bit more aware of feelings.

It sounds to me that her and her children have had a rough time with this man and are now enjoying spending some of this wealth.

Some of it might be frittered for fun, but things like a holiday home are for the benefit of the children now and in the future.

If you need the help that badly you should ask, but I wouldn't expect any adult relative of mine to accept an inheritance that belonged to me and my DC.

The absolute BEST thing about suddenly coming into millions would be to spread the joy. God I dream about being able to help family and friends. Pay off mortgages… Treat people to
holidays... sigh.

Your sister is thoughtless at best and downright unpleasant at worst.

I think people are being unfair saying money goes to the wrong type. Maybe the £300k went on a house.

It did a holiday home and a car.

Where do you draw a line? She might have already helped out.

Compensation?