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Absolute CF. I know IANBU but sharing anyway.

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JeffTheSquirrel · 06/11/2025 11:22

I bought 3 tickets to a show this weekend, for me & DD + a friend of her choice. I paid for them all (£50+ each) but told the mum of invited friend that I didn’t want any contribution. All good.

Now the friend unfortunately can’t make it (legit reason). I mentioned that I’d probably be able to sell ticket as it’s very popular, so no worries (as it happens, another friend has accepted a late invite).

The mum of original invitee asked me to transfer the cost of the ticket to her, so she can treat her DD for missing out.

Eh??

I mean that’s batshit, right?

OP posts:
SliceofTosst · 06/11/2025 19:57

Unreal!!!
I think you should say two tickets were bought. One for dd and one for a friend of her choice which was decided after tickets bought.

As friend couldn't make it she chose somebody else so the ticket wouldn't get wasted. Nobody apart from you had anything to do with money. I cannot believe such cuntfuckery. I'm fuming for you! 😂

Fiftyandme · 06/11/2025 19:58

It’s literally been years since a thread this good and fulsome with Chicken Fuckery has popped up on MN

Shoopideedoop · 06/11/2025 19:59

I haven't read the full thread, only the OP's posts but I feel compelled to share my view that this is the most: cheeky/shocking/bizarre/confusing
thing I have ever read on here!
The mother of your daughter's friend is completely off her trolley.

latetothefisting · 06/11/2025 19:59

Createausername1970 · 06/11/2025 19:52

You haven't gone back on a promise!!!

If you want to be pedantic then you could reply that actually her DD is the one not upholding her promise to come with you!

Some people are unbelievable.

my thoughts exactly!

"The "promise" was to take your dd to the gig, which I was happy to do. If anything, she was the one who broke her promise by agreeing to come and then dropping out. At no point have I ever promised to give her £50 for no reason, and, to be honest, am completely confused as to how you could possibly think that. You do realise that if I pay your dd the cost of a ticket (which, to be clear, I have no intention of doing), I will have lost money, as I still have to pay for a ticket for a friend to take her place?"

JeffTheSquirrel · 06/11/2025 19:59

So many replies I missed the chicken fucker! Lovely stuff.

OP posts:
Joeylove88 · 06/11/2025 20:00

Wow the entitlement of this person 🤣

I think my next reply to her would be something along the lines of 'let me be clear, I paid for the tickets and your DD was invited to come along with us, which she now sadly cannot for reasons that are out of my control. Another friend will now be taking your DDs place because yours could not make it. You did not pay for any tickets therefore you are not owed any money to spend on your DD on my behalf. I am sorry for your DD but you are her mother and therefore responsible for paying for any special arrangements to cheer her up for missing out.

Some people literally need stuff spelling out to them.

Hankunamatata · 06/11/2025 20:00

Please reply

What promise would that be?

LaGioiosanotLeviosa · 06/11/2025 20:00

This is definitely giving softzilla vibes! Loved that thread!

Allotin · 06/11/2025 20:00

Oh my God, she is the cheekiest of chickenfuckers. Those chickens are getting no mercy from her

whynotwhatknot · 06/11/2025 20:01

what promise you said youd take out her dc now her dc cant go-not your fault

pictoosh · 06/11/2025 20:01

Seriously wouldn't probe any more. You have been clear. She understands. Fuck knows why she is persisting with it.

"This subject is closed now. Have a good evening."

If you dare.

Breadcat24 · 06/11/2025 20:02

After you send her a calm and rational response add the line
Do you like chicken?

Mess with her mind

dapsnotplimsolls · 06/11/2025 20:02

Please reply quickly so we get a response before 9!

Littlejellyuk · 06/11/2025 20:02

cakeisallyouneed · 06/11/2025 19:44

This reminds me of an early episode of Friends when Rachel is coached by Joey to say ‘I have an EXTRA ticket’ after Joshua thinks she is giving tickets away as a gift!
You’d be entirely justified to mic drop and not reply as it doesn’t sound like she’s going to get it but I’d say something like ‘I’ve looked back on our messages and I can’t find where I’ve made a promise to treat your DD to any gift she wants to the value of £50. There seems to be a misunderstanding. We simply bought tickets to a concert DD wanted to go to and bought an extra ticket so she could bring a friend, your DD was unavailable so we have offered the ticket to another friend.’

Edited

💯 this ☝️

BackToLurk · 06/11/2025 20:02

I want to know what promise she thinks you made.

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 06/11/2025 20:02

What planet is this woman on?! Given her attitude I wouldn’t be surprised if she then complains about you to someone else, who should certainly put her in her place. I think you’ve gone past the point of bothering being polite. It’s a shame because it sounds like this girl is a valued friend to your DD and it would be sad to do anything to jeopardise that. But this is totally the other fault. Is she, erm… not very bright perhaps?

jeremyclarksonsthirdnipple · 06/11/2025 20:02

My reply..you are having a laugh aren't you ? Are you insane?

DisorganisedMummyTurningOrgnaised · 06/11/2025 20:03

Do you think she assumes you managed to get hold of the tickets for free, so if you’re now “selling” them on, she could have the money? Does she know you paid £50?

Toucan123 · 06/11/2025 20:03

I don't think anyone needs to send her this thread as it's probably going to end up in the Daily Mail anyway. And CF sounds like exactly the sort of knobhead that would read the Daily Mail.

BackToLurk · 06/11/2025 20:04

“Oh very good. This is one of those Ant and Dec things isn’t it? You nearly had me there”

Rightsraptor · 06/11/2025 20:04

Has she misunderstood something?

Mumtobabyhavoc · 06/11/2025 20:05

Reply: What? You daughter can't go so you want me to give her £50 for a ticket she didn't pay for? That's doesn't make any sense.

JudgeJ · 06/11/2025 20:06

MidnightPatrol · 06/11/2025 11:24

Has she forgotten that she didn’t pay for it?

Tell her you'll put what the friend paid for the ticket in an envelope for her to collect.

menopausalfart · 06/11/2025 20:06

She'll be taking you to court next.

Shinyandnew1 · 06/11/2025 20:06

Response: “well that’s a shame that you’ve gone back on a promise”.

I'd just give that a thumbs up emoji!

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