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Absolute CF. I know IANBU but sharing anyway.

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JeffTheSquirrel · 06/11/2025 11:22

I bought 3 tickets to a show this weekend, for me & DD + a friend of her choice. I paid for them all (£50+ each) but told the mum of invited friend that I didn’t want any contribution. All good.

Now the friend unfortunately can’t make it (legit reason). I mentioned that I’d probably be able to sell ticket as it’s very popular, so no worries (as it happens, another friend has accepted a late invite).

The mum of original invitee asked me to transfer the cost of the ticket to her, so she can treat her DD for missing out.

Eh??

I mean that’s batshit, right?

OP posts:
Umbrellasinthesunshine · 06/11/2025 19:49

We’re all now going to have to spend the weekend calculating how much everyone we know owes us for things we’ve been invited to but not been able to attend. Cha-Ching £££. 💰 💰
The absolute Chicken Fuckery!

NextOneb · 06/11/2025 19:49

Well, that’s a useful response from her. It basically suggests she’s broke/she is intending to pocket the money. I’m guessing with Christmas around the corner, she saw this an opportunity to cash grab.

Isn’t there some generic wording about gift cards or gifts with purchase that retailers use? Something like the value can’t be exchanged for cash or the gift has no cash value. I’d find some curt, generic wording like that and copy it across to her as the same principle applies.

Tealtoffee21 · 06/11/2025 19:49

3luckystars · 06/11/2025 19:45

I can’t go either, would you mind sending me £50 too please?

😂😂😂

Suednymph · 06/11/2025 19:49

Chicken fucker is officially the new 'I snapped and I farted' 😂

FOJN · 06/11/2025 19:50

JeffTheSquirrel · 06/11/2025 19:36

I’m very tempted to go back with the previous excellent suggestion of, “get fucked”.

"I promised to cover the cost of a ticket IF your daughter was joining us. I did not promise the monetary value of the ticket IF she could not come. I'm not sending you
a penny and I'm staggered by your shamelessness."

She is cheeky beyond anything I've ever seen on MN. You could be polite but get fucked works, and is deserved, if the fall out will not be too catastrophic.

Littlejellyuk · 06/11/2025 19:50

Suednymph · 06/11/2025 19:48

She's not a chicken fucker she's a chicken fuckers mum and she's only fucking chickens till the chicken fucker comes.....up with 50quid.

Pop Tv Chicken GIF by Big Brother After Dark

😆 🤣 😂

JeffTheSquirrel · 06/11/2025 19:50

X’s need to cancel is absolutely legit, and I’m fairly sure she’s gutted that she can’t make it. The girls have been really excited about it for ages.

I’m about to pour a very large glass of wine for the countdown to Sleb Traitors, so I may be more creative with my next reply.

I’m not entirely sure what promise I have supposedly broken, so I may just ask that.

OP posts:
m00rfarm · 06/11/2025 19:50

Maybe liken it to a birthday party. If you are invited but don’t go, the person throwing the party doesn’t give you any money for missing it.

ThejoyofNC · 06/11/2025 19:51

"I promised to bring her to X event. At no point did I offer her anything other than that. She can't attend and I owe her nothing. You are being outrageously cheeky after I was very generous to your daughter."

SpinningaCompass · 06/11/2025 19:52

JeffTheSquirrel · 06/11/2025 19:26

Response: “well that’s a shame that you’ve gone back on a promise”.

Bloody hell. I genuinely don’t know where her mind is now.

'Are you high? 🙄'

AD1509 · 06/11/2025 19:52

“The promise that your DD can attend this event has not at all been rescinded by us, if you have now decided that she can no longer attend and would like to take your daughter to a similar event then unfortunately I am not in a position to fund that for you”

Createausername1970 · 06/11/2025 19:52

JeffTheSquirrel · 06/11/2025 19:26

Response: “well that’s a shame that you’ve gone back on a promise”.

Bloody hell. I genuinely don’t know where her mind is now.

You haven't gone back on a promise!!!

If you want to be pedantic then you could reply that actually her DD is the one not upholding her promise to come with you!

Some people are unbelievable.

deepseaargyllfish · 06/11/2025 19:52

3luckystars · 06/11/2025 19:44

I would respond, ‘are you definitely texting the right person here, this is Jenny’s mum, I invited your daughter to the play and she can’t go now. You turned down the invite and you now think I owe you money? Is this correct?’

i will pay you £50 if you send this!

it’s so astonishingly mental I almost want the dialogue to be drawn out.

sorry, @JeffTheSquirrel, that you’ve had the misfortune to encounter such a crazy.

TheFatCatSatOnTheMat · 06/11/2025 19:53

No suggestions OP but this is one of the finest CF threads I’ve seen - the audacity! 🍿

honeylulu · 06/11/2025 19:53

Astonishing.

I think the further terse and entitled reply has put the nail in the coffin of any hope that you could retain a pleasant acquaintanceship with this woman, so you might as well let her have it.

"Please check my messages. I have never at any point offered to pay you the value of the ticket in any circumstances. I'm quite shocked by your persistence in trying to get me to pay you £50 for nothing. If you a struggling for money there are organisations you can turn to for help."

TY78910 · 06/11/2025 19:53

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 06/11/2025 11:51

Ooh it's been a while since there has been a proper CF thread. YADNBU @JeffTheSquirrel but you do owe it to all humanity to keep the thread updated.

But no pressure, obvs!

^^

Anxietybummer · 06/11/2025 19:53

“Genuinely astounded at your lack of awareness here and It’s a shame this has now been made awkward. I won’t be engaging further”

or @3luckystars response is pretty great too 😆

Birdy1982 · 06/11/2025 19:54

No point replying

Cant argue with stupid they will only drag you down then beat you with experience

Soukmyfalafel · 06/11/2025 19:54

Littlejellyuk · 06/11/2025 19:50

😆 🤣 😂

Surely that gif should have the chicken flapping and saying 'Bank, bank, bank' instead.

Snazzysausage · 06/11/2025 19:55

I think I'd just message

For heavens sake Mary,I've got no idea what this is really about.
We had a spare ticket.
Annie asked Jenny if she'd like to accompany us and use our spare ticket.
Jenny had to decline so Annie asked another friend to accompany us instead.
In what world do I need to compensate you for Jenny declining the invite?!

Oldhole · 06/11/2025 19:55

She is refusing to understand, I don’t think she’s going to get it no matter what you say.

DaisyChain505 · 06/11/2025 19:55

I invited your daughter (for free) out of the kindness of my heart. Me and DD were both sad to hear that she could no longer make it but I don’t know how me offering to treat your daughter to a day out entitles you to ask for money now that she can make it?

PickleRickChick · 06/11/2025 19:55

LeafyMcLeafFace · 06/11/2025 11:37

Are you going to reply?

I think I’d be inclined to say ‘I’m a bit confused by your text. You didn’t pay for the ticket, so I’m not sure why you would need a refund’

This is the response right here.

saltnpepperchips · 06/11/2025 19:56

janehopper · 06/11/2025 19:30

Oh this infuriating! 'What promise? I never promised to pay her £50 for not turning up to an event I've invited her to, I've spent £50 on a ticket she's not using! This is absolutely ridiculous and to be honest I'm disappointed you're trying to extort another £50 from me after I've already spent £50 on a ticket for your daughter and I've had to find someone else to take it. You can't possibly think this is a reasonable way to interact with people.'

This is a perfect response

FlayOtters · 06/11/2025 19:56

This is amazing. Chicken fuckers and Traitors in one night, it's like Christmas! OP please draw this out for as long as possible.

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