Absolute CF. I know IANBU but sharing anyway.

[JeffTheSquirrel]

I bought 3 tickets to a show this weekend, for me & DD + a friend of her choice. I paid for them all (£50+ each) but told the mum of invited friend that I didn’t want any contribution. All good.

Now the friend unfortunately can’t make it (legit reason). I mentioned that I’d probably be able to sell ticket as it’s very popular, so no worries (as it happens, another friend has accepted a late invite).

The mum of original invitee asked me to transfer the cost of the ticket to her, so she can treat her DD for missing out.

Eh??

I mean that’s batshit, right?

I’d send her a link to this thread, and ask if she still thinks she’s being reasonable. Hopefully she will reply with “What does CF mean, it’s used quite a lot in the replies?”

I couldn't let that go, I'd need her to clarify.

'I bought 3 tickets and invited your daughter to use the spare one. As she can no longer come along, the ticket has been offered to someone else. At no point has the ticket belonged to anyone but me. Please explain why you think you are owed the cost of the ticket since the invitation was entirely at my discretion.'

I wouldn't give this one any more oxygen. You can't argue with stupid.

I do wish someone would forward her the thread though.

It makes you wonder what else is going on. OP said there was a legit reason for the friend no longer making it. The only thing that makes sense here is perhaps a close family member died unexpectedly and the funeral is on the same date, and maybe grief is clouding the judgement of the mother?

Fuck off, she’s taking the piss big time!

almost spat my tea out reading this 🤣🤣🤣

Bonkers!

This is surely worthy of being a Mumsnet Classic?

Not read the full thread but to the OP 😯.

Shockingly CF behaviour.

Not right in the head.

Jesus H Roosevelt Christ!

I think this is a really good way to put it. You never offered this child £50 and are reneging; your only agreement was to have her join you for an event. If you want to either get funny or up the ante, you can say point blank that she paid you £0 so you are simply returning her £0. If she would like to pay you for the ticket, you’d then be happy to return that money - ha.

You can’t argue with crazy and you’ll never convince the entitled. The brass on her neck is obviously more than skin deep.

Yes!!

Oh crikes.... you'll need to point her to this thread so she can understand the offer was a trip to the concert. Not your fault she can't attend.... there was no promise of money if she couldn't attend.

We'll help her understand.

I'd gave to message back and ask "what promises,? I offered to take her to a concert. She can't make it, that's not my fault.'
..

I would save her name in my phone as chicken fucker, and always refer to her as chicken (if you are still on speaking terms with this CF) from now on...
Hi chicken, 🐔
Thanks chicken 🐔
Bye chicken 🐔
😆 🤣 😂
@JeffTheSquirrel

I’m very tempted to go back with the previous excellent suggestion of, “get fucked”.

“Just so we’re clear, you’re asking me to give you £50?”

Just say "there was no promise, she was invited as a guest, couldn't make it so we are taking someone else to MY daughter's treat. This was never about your child- if you want her to have a treat then pay for it!"

Although Get fucked would work also

I would direct her to this thread.

Can we please see what you go back with and then the response! This is so funny 🤣

Agree, there is no logic in this position at all. I could ALMOST see her point if the OP had promised to take her DD and was now pulling out, leaving Mrs CF with a disappointed child. But that's not what has happened at all.

Is she generally a bit of a thickie, OP?

Correction...
Get fucked.. chicken! 😆 🤣 🤣

Ask her "Why do you think I promised to give your DD £50?"

Truly lost for words. Your offer was to take her for free. She can’t come. Totally bemused why mum thinks you need to pay her £50! Phrase no good deed goes unpunished springs to mind.
I’d have to reply!

Does that mean my anti social self can just decline every invitation from now on and I'll get money instead?

She's either off her box or fking deranged.