Absolute CF. I know IANBU but sharing anyway.

[JeffTheSquirrel]

I bought 3 tickets to a show this weekend, for me & DD + a friend of her choice. I paid for them all (£50+ each) but told the mum of invited friend that I didn’t want any contribution. All good.

Now the friend unfortunately can’t make it (legit reason). I mentioned that I’d probably be able to sell ticket as it’s very popular, so no worries (as it happens, another friend has accepted a late invite).

The mum of original invitee asked me to transfer the cost of the ticket to her, so she can treat her DD for missing out.

Eh??

I mean that’s batshit, right?

Gosh, she thinks that you owe her daughter £ to make up for not being able to come. I don't know how you respond to that.

I treated my DD to tickets to watch the show and she offered one to your DD. It's a shame your DD can no longer make it. I'm sorry I mentioned anything about money, obviously I won't be giving you money for the ticket that your DD couldn't use. I hope she's not too disappointed to miss out on the show.

This ☝️ 💯

Just to be straight - I wouldn't be nicely saying anything!

The OP has said in her posts that she wants to retain good relations with this woman because their daughters are friends. That being the case, saying something nicely enough to not rock the boat is what the OP has intimated she wants.

Not me. I'd be sending a laughing emoji and to hell with the consequences! But tact and diplomacy has never been my forte.

I already thought the other mum was batshit, but assumed it had to be a misunderstanding somehow. Now after your update I am absolutely baffled by her 😂

Erm. Quite curt I thought

I read this as "quite a cunt". (although, tbf, that's pretty accurate!)

Is she off her head? Yes dear, ticket. Not money. I didn’t give her money.

Is she confused by social convention? Or is she a brass-necked chancer?
I am baffled that someone would go with this approach.

"I bought three tickets for me, dd and a friend of her choice. Your dd can't make it so the ticket has been given to my friend instead. As you didn't pay for the ticket, I won't be giving you any money. Hope that makes it clearer. xx"

Shes quite mad. Just text back ' you didn't pay anything so I do not owe you'

wtf she is actually bat shit.

I think id reply:

but i dont owe you any money for the ticket.

This is mental! I can't believe she is sticking with it instead of hiding in shame and embarrassment. Quite the bold yin ain't she.

I'm just as impressed with posters on here analysing for the OP (an actual lawyer) whether the offer and initial acceptance implies a contractual obligation on the ticket purchaser an case she gets sued. Epic!

And I love the suggestions for responses; because it doesn't sound as if the OP is too inarticulate to compasses her own (taking care not to step into any legal pitfalls)

But, most of all, I'm grateful to the OP for sharing. Because sharing is, as we all know, caring

Wtf!

Knew it!

Wow. It does take some balls.

What are you going to say OP?

I think this is a simple and kind way to explain it OP

@JeffTheSquirrel I would say

"I paid for all the tickets. As you both can't attend, I'm treating others to the show. They are not paying, it's a treat, as it would have been if you were coming along. Therefore, No money is owed to you".

I mean, it's not words of one syllable, but hopefully it will make sense to her.

'I did not buy your daughter a ticket. I purchased three tickets, one to be used for a friend of DD's to attend. As your daughter cannot attend, I will be using my spare ticket to allow another friend of DD's to attend.'

It is not often that I wish the papers would pick a thread up - but this is one of those times!!

Priceless

💯 this ☝️

I would then ask her if she is drunk 😆
If she replies no..... then I would send her a link to this thread 💃
@JeffTheSquirrel 😆 🤣 😂

Hi X’s mum. Thanks for your reply. Perhaps things have gotten a bit confused here. I bought 2 tickets for my DD as a special treat. One for her, and one for a friend of her choosing. X was her first choice friend, and it’s a shame X isn’t able to come. We will see if DD has another friend who would like to come with us instead, but if not we will just get a refund for the ticket. I am unsure why you think I owe you the cost of a ticket. Have I missed something?

The gift was the opportunity to attend, not the ticket.

The end

Is your friend’s name Sarah OP, and her daughter is Beatrice? I’m right aren’t I?

😆 🤣 😂

Talk about the dregs.

I agree with you. I'm not in the habit of being arsey straight out of the blocks but after recieving a reply like that the last thing I'd be doing is composing a nice reply.

I really like the response from @PullTheBricksDown , especially the last line about there being nothing stopping the CF doing something nice for her DD but without the OP funding it 😆.