Absolute CF. I know IANBU but sharing anyway.

[JeffTheSquirrel]

I bought 3 tickets to a show this weekend, for me & DD + a friend of her choice. I paid for them all (£50+ each) but told the mum of invited friend that I didn’t want any contribution. All good.

Now the friend unfortunately can’t make it (legit reason). I mentioned that I’d probably be able to sell ticket as it’s very popular, so no worries (as it happens, another friend has accepted a late invite).

The mum of original invitee asked me to transfer the cost of the ticket to her, so she can treat her DD for missing out.

Eh??

I mean that’s batshit, right?

I would probably get banned....

I actually don’t agree with some of the others, I don’t think you need to message her to explain yourself here or to remind her that she never contributed financially.

I’d rather put the ball in her court, and ask her to explain what she means. If you’ve already told her she doesn’t need to contribute to the cost, she will have to go to lengths to justify why she feels the £50 should be gifted to her regardless. And frankly I’d like to see how she explains that!

It seems like she basically saw the daughter being given a ticket as a gift/freebie/bonus and now feels entitled to that as her daughter can’t take advantage of it anymore. So now that her daughter can’t attend, she feels she is missing out on that gift, hence wanting the monetary value. in fact, I would wonder if this was the game plan from the start - cancel for a legitimate reason as a way to pocket the cash

@JeffTheSquirrel have you texted her yet? How about

'WTF YA MAD THING'

No maybe something liek -

“Hi Cheeks, I think there’s been a bit of a mix-up. I originally bought all the tickets, so when 'Alison' couldn’t come I just offered the extra one to someone else. Hope she has a lovely time at her grandparents’ anniversary! Speak soon.”

‘I’m not sure I understand your text, you didn’t pay me any money, I paid for the ticket, so why would you be due a refund now? Sorry if there has been any confusion, and if you did send me money in error, let me know and I can follow up with the bank. kind regards ‘

How did you word the invite?

While this seems brass balls it 'legally' could come down to how it was presented. If you just invited them along because you had a spare ticket (which is what you make it sound like) then obviously they aren't owed anything but if you 'gifted' a ticket to the friend then technically it theirs. So it could come down to something as silly as saying 'oh no, you don't have to pay me back its my gift'.

Still I think most people would never ask for the cash even if it was a gift, I tend to be of the mindset that unless a gift has been physically given to you its not a real gift yet and anything could happen in the mean time.

Like I have been told that for Xmas someone got me tickets to a band I liked (tickets are digital now so no paper tickets given) then a few months later the band cancelled their tour due to illness. Apparently ticket holders where refunded but as for the 'gift' it was never mentioned again, I'm not going to be all like 'right can I have the £50 for the gig we didn't go to then?' though (so cringey) but 'legally' you could ask for it.

So, she is asking you to pay twice for her child's ticket.

Wow.

That is the CF of the CF of the CF.

I'd be tempted to send a reply that says "Ha Ha. Good one!" with a laughing emoji.

This is the perfect reply. Much as I’d want to reply with “I assume you’re joking” or just a laughing emoji, I would never actually do it. I really do wonder what goes through some people’s heads sometimes. Does she mistakenly think she paid you for the ticket originally?

It’s not a gift ticket, the gift was attending the event with them. The ticket wasn’t sold separately.

Reply saying you have checked your bank statement and can't find record of her paying for it. Unbelievable. Thanks the the laugh OP

How old is your dd?

I'd echo that she has probably forgotten that shes not paid for it 😭😭

I think for the sake of good relations you HAVE to take the approach of assuming she forgot she didn’t pay for it.

”Hi Gemma, I don’t know if you remember, but you didn’t actually give me the money for the ticket as I was just paying for your DD as a treat, so I don’t owe you any money. Hope XYZ goes well (or some other friendly, tension-breaking sentence), Jeff xxx”

I think the mum is genuinely too stupid to understand the logistics. Her request sounds like a very emotional way of approaching a situation. Her daughter is missing out on an experience that is worth £50. So she thinks it's "fair" to spend the same amount on something else. It sort of makes sense on a conceptual level. She doesn't understand that the money spent on a ticket is non-refundable and that you given her an additional £50 makes no sense at all.

Honest question, what level of education do you think the mum has? Does she come across as very self absorbed or thick?

So funny

Cheek ofsome people is unbelievable. Ignore her.

She is well cheeky.

I would reply “pardon?”

Tempting though it is to send a basic response like "I'm sorry..? Please explain?" I probably wouldn't and would just ignore it. Maybe given time to mull it over, she'll realise she's being a muppet.

Tell her that you will transfer the amount she sent to you. Ask for a screenshot of the transaction so you have the right account. CF at the finest

Beyond shameless, the nerve of some people is breathtaking

Brings back memories of when I gave the 7 year old daughter of a friend of mine a book for her birthday. Child responded with " I don't want a book you should have got me a toy". Friend agreed with child, and asked me if I could take the book back to the shop and give her the cash so child could get a toy! I phased my way out of the friendhip after that

Yikes!

Is the mother on drugs?
I would be stepping firmly away from her.

CFery is obviously an inheritable characteristic!