To think gentle parenting has made some kids unbearable to be around?

[KindButFirmFox]

Boundaries aren’t oppression.
Sometimes “gentle” just looks like “ineffective”.

AIBU to think balance has been lost between empathy and discipline?

Sleeping around? It's not 1952.

Some parts of 'the rest of the world' see 'their girls' as second class citizens.
Also, 'slag' is a vile word.

I wouldn't use that word but I wouldn't want my DSs or my DDs to be like that.

To be like what exactly?

I said before. I don't want my children sleeping around.

It's their business who they sleep with though, as long as they're safe and not taking advantage/being taken advantage of.

Erm, it’s a TV program.

I’m not some sort of terrible peeping Tom 😂

Haha, head peeking around the door with phone, lurking at the window. I can see it now, come on, fess up! 😂

That’s a curfew @Neurodiversitydoctor
I agreed a time with my two teens by which I would like them home. They agreed to it. A curfew

OK. I smacked my four year old once, not hard, on her calf.

We were sitting at the bottom of the stairs, trying to get ready to go out. Her newborn sister was being held in my left arm, breastfeeding and my 18 month old was bumping down the stairs on her bottom (very late walker, she didn't manage it until she was nearly two. Ironically now very sporty).

DD1 casually reached behind her, grabbed DD2 ankle and pulled her down the stairs, her head banging against each step as she did down.

So I smacked her. I honestly didn't know what else to do to make it so with my hands full.

I regretted it immediately and never smacked her or the others ever again. I still feel guilty.

DD just laughed.

What would have been the best way to handle this?

Well she laughed at you
so with hindsight you presumably would not have smacked anyway because it achieved squat all 🤷‍♀️

You must let me know where you get your psychic vision from!

I think you’ve misunderstood

You’re asking how others would have dealt with it

Presumably though… whatever the answer, you wouldn’t have smacked because it had bugger all impact

The hitting helped noone so the best way to handle it would have been to not hit. That's step one. Bare minimum. Keep your temper.

I didn't smack in temper though.

i smscked because I could not protect DC 2 from a potential head injury and negate I was feeding a newborn with my left hand. I couldn't physically stop with my right hand iyswim because I had my back to DC2 And zdzc 1 was right in front of her.

Anyway. DC1 doesn't remember and I never did it again with any of them

There are lots of ways to intervene without smacking. And the smacking serves no purpose it was merely a bad parenting decision in the heat of the moment

I can’t cope with my friend’s 7 year old. She has always been volatile so they have opted for a “keep the peace” approach but it has back-fired massively because they never tell her no. She is rude and takes control in every situation. Her parents just calm her down by changing things to suit her, or they bribe her with sweets and crisps. Very bright kid and parents don’t seem to think there’s any SEN at play.
She destroys things on purpose if she doesn’t get her own way, and if challenged throws a huge temper tantrum. She grabs things that aren’t hers, opens other people’s gifts and throws a tantrum if anyone asks her not to. My friend has a go at her family members if they attempt to step in and stop her child from messing with things that aren’t hers, so everyone now just lets her do it to keep the peace (friend is the family golden child and no-one dares upset her).
I cannot stand being around them as a result and I actually dread seeing them. I’m afraid that I find her to be the most unlikeable child.