To share tips on how I went from 12 and a half stone - to 7 and a half stone in 9 months?

[NadineQueue]

I’m a female in my 30s.

Thus year I’ve gone down 5 stone from 12.5 stone to 7.5 stone (skinny minny!!)

The way I’ve sing this stick to 1300 calories a day and do one form of exercise a day e.g running for half hour or swimming for half hour or aerobics class.

I’ve also had a crush on a bloke in work and one thing definitely kept me on track with the diet/ exercise plan was saying to myself
“ if I stick to this plan today, I’ll be a bit lighter/fitter when I see John.” / this way of thinking has REALLY helped!! If you haven’t got a ‘John’ as it were, pretend that you do in a figurative sense.

how I stop myself from cheating in the evening is looking at TV programmes I want to watch or magazines/ newspapers I like. And any treats - going to spa at local leisure centre etc - anything that takes my mind away from eating!

Hope this helps at least one person in some way!

I have never been overweight other than pregnancies so admit that I don’t know the struggles of extreme dieting etc. But it’s clear that many women really don’t like other women losing weight and love berating them, whether that’s for using the injections or a less than perfect diet. Some of the bitter and resentful comments here are making me cringe.

7.5 is very light. When I was anorexic I was 6.5 stone.

Even you opened your post saying I ve never been overweight, except from pregnancy.

Well bully for you. Do you see the even you had to open your post with a declaration that you ve never been overweight rather than just offer support and solidarity and call out the bad behavior.

If you had been overweight throughout your life, you would understand and you don't.

Your whole post is cringeworthy too. I bet you were that mum in your pregnancy group who always was the one who has perfect weight just after giving birth. I bet you commented on it too.

I'm happy for you that the weight loss has worked and you're happy, op. I'm also more than a little envious! I'm rushing towards 50, and although I have the motivation to diet, the problem for me is lack of time for 30 mins of exercise every day. I'm one of those that needs really high impact, vascular exercise on a very regular basis just to drop a few pounds. My very optimum weight was shortly before having children (I lost weight because I have pcos and we were struggling to conceive our first). I admit I looked great, but even back then the amount of high energy exercise needed was a struggle to fit in. I now do a brisk 30-min walk twice per week on my commute and a couple of km swimming a couple of times a week. It's nowhere near enough for me. I'm feeling old and fat. But I have a dh who compliments me every day, whatever I look like.

Be careful of a man who puts so much emphasis on 'slim and pretty'. They tend to be the ones who will drop you in an instant for a younger/ slimmer/ prettier model if you don't live up to their expectations. As others have said, it's much harder to maintain the weight than it is to lose it.

You could not be more wrong. Until the menopause my weight was just luck, genetics, small Asian build etc (it’s harder in my fifties) and I have always recognised that. I have had a lot of nasty comments for being thin over the years but I don’t make a big deal about it as the world is much more cruel to people who are bigger, esp women. There is thin ‘privilege’ everywhere. I am just calling out the nastiness here towards people who lose weight. It’s unpleasant to read.

Great work but everyone will just assume you're on Ozempic.

Do you want an obese partner from the get go ?
I don’t - simply don’t find obesity sexually attractive
nothing wrong with that
I also don’t find men who are shorter than me attractive

I would like to say Well done Op. I hope things work out with John. I am wondering what does he think about the new person you have become?

I guess this turns a lot on the type of person these "most people" are.

I don't think many people would mind someone who came on and said they had decided to lose weight in a healthy way for health reasons.

By implying people are jealous, you are actually promoting unhealthy attitudes around weight and body image.

I am just a bit concerned about this thread. 7.5 stones does seem very light, losing 5 stones in less than a year seems quite a drastic weight loss, consuming 1,300 calories a day to maintain the weight sounds like undereating.

Whilst I am happy that the OP is happy with this, I cannot congratulate something that sounds very close to an unhealthy fixation on being too slim.

7.5 stone is tiny. I’m impressed by your commitment to daily exercise. I keep meaning to do this…but maybe let yourself eat a bit more if you keep loosing weight.
I hope John doesn’t break your heart. If he does, don’t let all your hard work go out the window.

On the flip side if anyone wants inspiration on how to gain a stone/not give a shiny shit what a random man thinks of their body/have a resting bitch face that can stop traffic then call me (0800menopausal) 🤙

Nah, what's cringe inducing is the admiration posters are showing towards a woman starving herself by living off diet coke in order to impress a bloke. Some proper weirdos on this thread.

I can’t believe the number of people congratulating such stupidity. It feels like something I might have read in ‘Just 17’ in the 90s… ‘lose 5 stone in a few months and bag that hot guy!’

She admits she does drink a lot of diet Coke, but also eats 1300 calories.
The crude check I just did suggests a woman of OP's heigh doing moderate exercise needs 1500 cals to maintain.

200 fewer cals a day isn't starving yourself and I since most people under estimate what they consume I bet it's not even 200 cals.

nb I could be talking bollocks. I have NO idea how many cals I consume!

I think you missed the point of my post which was that the speed of the weight loss is impossible by calorie restriction and exercise alone. The OP is encouraging a poor and unsustainable diet which is putting her health in danger. The actual weight of 7.5 stone is dangerously low.

BMI is a crude population measure that is almost meaningless in individuals as this situation shows. I used it to demonstrate that the OP's claim to be a 8 in modern sizing was unlikely, given my size as someone much bigger (and taller) as measured by BMI is a size 10.

Imagine if he's actually a chubby chaser. 🤣

What was your typical weekly diet? B/L&D?

I think she’s said upthread it was supermarket sandwiches for breakfast and lunch, nothing for dinner and lots of Diet Coke.

On a purely physical level, it absolutely is that easy. I've done it myself. On a psychological level, though, it's obviously a great deal harder.

Wow

no John wouldn’t fancy me if I was heavier he goes for slim pretty girls !

I agree with this, and I actually think this thread should be taken down. I am shocked at the way some posters are celebrating what the OP has done, and cheering her on. What she has done is actually not healthy, it's borderline dangerous, and it could lead other posters to attempting to do the same.

In any case 7.5 stone is incredibly low weight, even for your height. You've probably lost muscle as well as fat and you're not well.

7 1/2 stone at 5' 1" is not an incredibly low weight

I do agree that with the fast weight loss in the absence of a good exercise routine she has probably lost a tonne of muscle tone.

How is it ‘dangerously’ low? How on earth do you know that?

I am five two, weigh 7 stone 8, and have been more or less this weight all my adult life. Not a single doctor has made a comment and it’s in the healthy range. I am fit and active and eat more than most of my friends as we all have different metabolisms. No friends have expressed concern either, faux or real as I look healthy and well. Lots of Asian family members have a similar build/weight and are well.

It is very odd to make such sweeping statements about someone’s medical history!